[kavi]

Rex, girls always look for excuses that make them look good and you the bad guy. She didnt end it for that but that was just the excuse. Girls will hook up with guys whose politics they hate if they find them attractive, interesting, intriguing or find value in them in other ways.

[blck]

Rex you need to get out of here and go out live your life, stop bursting the abcess on the internet or IRL, each time you're spill things out you're emptying your tank of frustration, the only real motivator to get things done.

Getting encouragements here comforts you to stay in your delusional head space, it's not ok to complain about everything each time you feel like it, you need to fuel on that frustration for real.

I don't believe in therapy unless for real life traumatized people, war vets and others.
Believe me on this: therapists won't find a way for you to evolve, they'll find a way for you to accept where you are.
They're paid to keep you aligned, not to get you out of your conditionning.

[Cheetah]

(06-24-2017 06:11 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

Quote:

Can you expound on this? Why did she consider you to be that?

She didn't. It's all in the other thread. I said I was against gay marriage and she didn't like that.

That could possibly not be a deal breaker if you told her after you've banged.

Will you answer my other questions? Perhaps you will when you have more time. But obviously we can't effectively help you if you don't give more information.

You will have to have a strive to get helped, otherwise there's no purpose of this thread but for you to complain.

[Captain Gh]

(06-24-2017 07:16 PM)blck Wrote:  

Rex you need to get out of here and go out live your life, stop bursting the abcess on the internet or IRL, each time you're spill things out you're emptying your tank of frustration, the only real motivator to get things done.

Getting encouragements here comforts you to stay in your delusional head space, it's not ok to complain about everything each time you feel like it, you need to fuel on that frustration for real.

I don't believe in therapy unless for real life traumatized people, war vets and others.
Believe me on this: therapists won't find a way for you to evolve, they'll find a way for you to accept where you are.
They're paid to keep you aligned, not to get you out of your conditionning.

Rex is using us members of the Forum as an emotional tampon, where it is convenient for him to "Dump" is anxiety onto us. His huge post count... and some well deserved Reps on the Forum... keeps him getting answers to his recurrent questions. Then it is Rinse & Repeat, Rinse & Repeat and Rinse & Repeat some more from him! Such a enticing Game to play... since I used to be the Lebron James, Ummm I mean the Kevin Durant of it! It simply makes you feel better, while getting some elite shoulders to lean on! Eventually the same people will catch your drift... and ignore you since YOU GIVE THEM PART OF YOUR ANXIETY!

Whether you're blissfully happy, or a sorry sad Fuck, no one wants to deal with more anxiety on regular basis. People will then turn on you... like some members here are starting to turn on Rex. And this one's for you Rex: If you get turned away from here... where the Fuck you're gonna go?

No trolling real question! Where else is there a community of elite men from every field spilling out fantastic advice for free... freely talk about Smashing Hoes... and not get crucified for your conservative views? I'll wait! I hope you get it like I did when I was playing that game:

It leads you right back to where you're at now: loneliness. Except that it'll be even harder to crawl out of without our support. Take Actions on the advice you've been receiving! As long as you just document your struggle, without being a victim, you'll be supported here

[RexImperator]

It's not like I've done nothing- I have lost over 10 lbs since winter. I have at least 30-40 more to go.

This thread didn't really go in the direction I was hoping for...

I think was expecting maybe some ideas and strategies, or something along those lines. Or maybe something analogous to Maslow's hierarchy, where first you need to focus on money, then on building a social life of some kind, and then eventually you get to meet women. I don't know. At my age I'm not going to "just pick up chicks at the mall..."

[Suits]

(06-24-2017 09:42 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

I think was expecting maybe some ideas and strategies, or something along those lines. Or maybe something analogous to Maslow's hierarchy, where first you need to focus on money, then on building a social life of some kind, and then eventually you get to meet women.

Anything to avoid actually approaching women right now.

[Cheetah]

OP,

do you have any idea why you seem to have a fear of meeting women?

You obviously on the one hand want a woman, while on the other hand you seem to make sure that won't happen.

[torridon747]

(06-24-2017 09:42 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

At my age I'm not going to "just pick up chicks at the mall..."

Why the fuck not?

[Noir]

^ Agreed with posters in this thread.

Rex you need confidence. If your current environment ain't working for ya, you need to change up.

It seems a lot of forum advice has gone unheard on your behalf but you have options.

I haven't read your other threads and assuming you are stubborn and won't follow up I would like to still post this for some discussion as IMO these are your current options.

Option 1 - The Status Arbitrage

Head over to another part of the world where you can leverage your status and get some notches.

Don't settle for the first few girls you get, gain that confidence and harness it.

Tick some boxes off your bucket list, catch up with your 42 year old self and then re-convene at 45.

Decide whether:

- you have the balls to sacrifice your current comfortable environment to try and fix that aspect of your life, enduring different cultures
- you can afford (financially) to go there. If not, you have bigger problems to fix (I will touch upon this at the end)
- if you meet the above, you are interested in fucking women from different cultures then go for it.

You will also learn about the nature of women, the 'constants' that transcend cultures, what you like and don't like (the juxtaposition vs. your experiences) and of course, the 'Western' bubble.

It could be good, it could be bad, either way you learn. Right now, you need a kick up the arse to get you in motion. Set up a contingency plan to escape within a week, just in case.



Option 2 - Tried and Tested 'Level-Up'

This is probably the most logical one to you, the one you know you should have started perhaps 17 years ago as you realise this whole games is kinda an arms race.

Let's get out the basics before they get brushed aside:

- gym
- money
- social circle

= social status

These will be enough for you to start seeing results, sure.

You still gotta break the rut and get that momentum to start all of this.

I am going to deviate from the norm because I think you just need connection with other like-minded people. Become charismatic. Move to a new place. Judging from the way you wrote the title of this thread, I bet you ain't a lot otherwise you wouldn't be posting here.

Take a break from these forums. The simple act of posting here and getting advice will lull you in to a false sense of accomplishment. I could imagine those reps underneath your name mean that you are at least likable, if not (as you claim) attractive.

Go outside, be inquisitive.

Speak to people when you see them, smile, start getting a feel for what people are like and how they respond to you.

It sounds stupid and basic, but if you're not constantly speaking to women within a paradigm that allows you to be semi-flirty, you are gonna have a tough time picking it up at 42. Work used to be ok but it seems now it's worse for an older man. I see this in my workplace.

Where-ever you are, speak to women. Push the boundaries.

Make it a game, how far can you take a conversation in a limited amount of time.

It will become muscle memory to the point that you will have a default first 5 minutes in which you control the conversation, the body language and can affect the rest of your interactions. First impressions are crucial.

I bet this sounds like a fantasy to you, so let's visit option 3.



Option 3 - The Unorthodox Leftfield Suggestion - favourite of mine and recommended in combination with option 2

Despite knowing game and doing well, it still felt manufactured and I didn't feel calibrated.

I listened to an NLP hypnosis CD for 2 weeks and it helped me immensely.

I say immensely because yes, I was getting laid before, now it gave purpose to the rest of my life. It gave me focus and clarity. I felt like I had a purpose after those 2 weeks and nothing happened by accident after that.

My eye contact with women was unwavering, my internal dialogue had me setting up the interactions within my frame, my confidence grew and results became consistent.

I felt a 10 out of 10 instead of shouting it in the mirror and squeezing lemon in to my eyes to feel alive.

Didn't need to pick a fight to prove myself.

My handshakes were strong, my body language was assertive, my standards became high and this remains with me to this day.

I specifically used this - for 2 weeks and thereafter for 2 weeks stints every 6 months to until it was internalized.

I had the mp3 though, sent to me by a guy I admire and respect for his success with women and his life.

Your writing sounds like you are 'unsure'. I am a continent away from you and I can detect from your posts that you are unattractive. There is nothing wrong with being unattractive because your self worth is not defined by how attractive you are to others. Your self worth is defined by your accomplishments. By your self talking. By how you treat others that care for you and respect you.

It sounds esoteric and shit because it's all about momentum, habit, visualizations, affirmations, appreciation etc.

This mp3 will get your subconscious on point and ensure you have a solid foundation.

I know it's hard to get in to the right momentum so consider this a propeller, to thrust you toward that direction.

A lot of people say the ego is bad; this is one of the few times I think your ego would be good, to get you giving a shit.

Life is comprised of 3 active elements, in a cycle:

a) confidence
b) patience
c) feedback

Your confidence will keep you patient when you go through the slumps and that patience will be rewarded in feedback, boosting your confidence and the cycle goes on.

Identify what is wrong.

In your case, you are lacking feedback. No partners.

Confidence is lacking, based off the way you are writing; you lack direction and boldness.

Patience, you have, plenty it seems but also, don't confuse this with apathy.

I find it hard to justify, with the amount of advice referenced in this thread, that you are, yet again, posting a thread about yourself.

I don't have your problem(s) so it's easy for me to say but, take some risks, change some shit up.

Make some good, hard decisions -> ones which you will be rewarded for 3 months down the line.

You owe it to yourself to be honest and assess yourself brutally.

What are your pitfalls?

- behavior?
- looks?
- confidence?
- lack of game?

At 42, these are secondary; women are primarily attracted to confidence and resources. You are lacking confidence, thanks to any from the list above or most importantly, lack of resources.

This is usually the biggest make or break for guys, 30 and above (culture dependent) for two major reasons:

a) guys are reliant on their own success to be confident (resource accummulation/good shape/solid friendships -> social capital)

b) first world women < 35 (ideally 28) that would be attracted to 30+ guys would be attracted to differentiating factors, primarily resources; this is the only advantage you have vs a 31 year old. providing opulence to the younger ones and stability/family to the older ones


I suggest a combination of 2 and 3 above to get this sorted.

You can do option 1 and it seems popular but it could also be a trap for men who aren't socially savvy or have solid game to insure your life from the pitfalls of women.

Finally, another crucial point that I feel goes missed around here.

You have to be competitive.

Only the most competitive people will enjoy success. There is a difference between being successful and enjoying success and the latter leads to the former. They begin to measure their success vs their peers and eventually become the best that they grow out of it and look for new competition.

They are also constantly competitive against themselves.

This is a combination of the cycle above with ego; you have to reassure yourself in times of doubt and challenge yourself in times of comfort.

I sincerely hope you print this out and read this, internalize it and follow up on it.

Make yourself accountable in a personal diary.

Otherwise, you will do all of this, get locked down and turn out like Martin Lovehandle.

Quote:

No thanks, I don’t need a spotter. I’m Martin Lovehandle, part time exerciser and casual fitness guru. My personal trainer told me I need to do some exercise so I don’t die early and my wife told me I need to do some exercise so she doesn’t fuck my personal trainer. That’s made me question if I should exercise to delay my inevitable death by a few years, or not exercise and hopefully die sooner. My wife told me that when we have sex in the missionary position she tries not to vomit because my pectoral muscles remind her of Gwen Stefani’s A-Cups and she hates lesbians. I guess I’ll just give this exercise thing a half hearted go like everything else I attempt.

edit: Shoutout to Isaac Jordan for coining 'status arbitrage'. On point as usual homie.

[GlobalMan]

(06-24-2017 09:42 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

It's not like I've done nothing- I have lost over 10 lbs since winter. I have at least 30-40 more to go.

This is not about Boneless Skinless Chicken Breast

This is not about more reps of Skwaaaaats

I swear to god if the words fitness log are uttered in this thread too...

(06-24-2017 09:42 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

At my age I'm not going to "just pick up chicks at the mall..."

There is no "get a girlfriend" store.

There is no different track where you skip all of the anxiety-inducing hard work, persistence and risk taking because you want a girlfriend and not "picking up chicks at the mall". There is no track where you can skip going outside and meeting/approaching girls but yet end up with a girlfriend

Want a bang?

-Be where girls are
-Introduce yourself to a girl
-Talk to girl
-Build attraction with girl
-Escalate and/or set up another meeting

Want a girlfriend?

-Be where girls are
-Introduce yourself to a girl
-Talk to girl
-Build attraction with girl
-Escalate and/or set up another meeting

Want a wife?

-Be where girls are
-Introduce yourself to a girl
-Talk to girl
-Build attraction with girl
-Escalate and/or set up another meeting

Want a friend?

-Be where men are
-Introduce yourself to a man
-Talk to man
-Build interest with man
-Set up another meeting


This is why myself and other have said your threads are repetitive. You have slightly different wants in them, but they all involve the same solutions- Solutions which require you to do some things different and which you don't like, and to stick with them until those actions bear fruit.

Rex, simply put, you do not put yourself in situations where you meet women enough.

Worse, you know this, and you knew this two years ago:

From your previous thread- Where do you find women to date in your 40's

(12-04-2015 11:49 AM)heavy Wrote:  

Where do you spend your time now? That'd be a starting point. If you're out and about and active, you're seeing women who are available.

Work, happy hour, gym, grocery store, friends of friends, concerts, social sports stuff, etc.

(12-04-2015 12:10 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  

Doesn't sound like you're too integrated with the people in your daily life, and your preferences for social activity don't lend themselves to meeting anyone.

(12-04-2015 01:06 PM)Menace Wrote:  

The same place you find women if you were 30 or 20. Online and outside.

(12-04-2015 01:27 PM)el mechanico Wrote:  

El mech daygame hack..

(10-16-2012 02:45 PM)el mechanico Wrote:  

I've been thinking the last day or two about some of the nightclub threads here and reading some guys struggling with day approach so I started analyzing what I've been doing to meet girls.

This happened by coincidence mainly because I'm a procrastinator

The problem I'm seeing is guys having a hard time in an artificial environment like going someplace specifically to try to meet women like chasing them down on the streets like Sasha or in a nightclub that they don't enjoy.

What to do...
Take the convenience out of your life.
1. Shop for every meal. You will be in the store 3 times a day.

2. Pay your bills in person. All of them and be creative with pay stations by switching up. Use check cashing places etc. Pay your cell bill at the store that has the most traffic. Pay your cable bill at their office or different places that except money for them.

3. Go in the bank. ATMs are easy but start going in. I do this and also deposit checks one at a time. Go in the bank to pay your credit card bills at the counter.

4. Don't make coffee. Go to 7-11 or wherever.

5. No more drive thru anything. Go inside.

I'm sure there's more I'll think of but when chatting up the ladies you're doing it in a place where you're supposed be which makes opening a lot easier. There's threads here about dude-purses and belts the last couple days. If you saw one you like go find it in person or try before you order online..

Your reply-

(12-04-2015 01:22 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

Quote:

If you're only out once per week and don't want to do online, how do you seriously expect to meet women?

I know. This is the problem I'm trying to solve.

I don't really have the energy to stay out late, so perhaps finding venues that have happy hours during the week might be an idea.

The excuse then was no energy. The excuse in the intervening 2 years? Who knows. The excuse now? You moved apartments. Ok.

And you have the cheek to say this just now:

(06-24-2017 09:42 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

I think was expecting maybe some ideas and strategies

This is trolling the forum, a slap in the face of RVF. How about look in your previous exact same thread I linked to above? How about reading the advice and strategies given? How about reading your own post wherein you recognize said advice and agree with the assessment?

El Mechs advice alone, if followed over the last two years, would have likely changed your life. You have Giovonnys personal contact info. Even if you didn't, you have thousands of posts of gold here to help.

"No, there has got to be a way I do absolutely nothing different at all and I have a stable LTR just happen. So let me ask again in 2017 and see if there's a new strategy that I will actually do."

Rex you don't have a meeting girls problem, none at all actually. Because you don't really want to. If you wanted to, and if this was a problem, you would be treating it as a problem. But you don't. It would be nice is what you tell yourself. But it's not so important that you will do any short term new and uncomfortable action to change it.

What happens is this: Every few months you get a twinge in your balls, sometimes a twinge in your heart, and you think-
"Huh. Pussy. Would be nice to have some of that. Perhaps a sweet one to keep me company long term. How do I get that?"

Then, you come here and ask how to attain this thing. Dudes proceed to tell you actions to take which have a high probability of helping you get what you want. You then (usually reluctantly) accept that you must do those things.

You try them once or twice. Then you find reason why it's all too difficult or just not the right time. Need to lose 10 more pounds. Tight on money this month. Changing jobs. New apartment. Don't have the energy.

And, that's that, for a little while.

So, in about 5 months, the next time you feel that twinge in your balls and your heart, just wait a few weeks, ride it out, and before you know it you'll be back to being perfectly satisfied with doing little to nothing to change that part of your life. And there's nothing wrong with that, because it's what you want, and you're happy otherwise. I am 100% certain now that this is the best advice for you.

What you should not do, however, is log on to RVF and create a thread wherein you will proceed to once again squander the most valuable resource on this earth- The time and knowledge of men who have succeeded in what you want.

[Tokyo Joe]

^^^ GM --

[thebassist]

(06-25-2017 04:06 AM)GlobalMan Wrote:  

This is trolling the forum, a slap in the face of RVF. How about look in your previous exact same thread I linked to above? How about reading the advice and strategies given? How about reading your own post wherein you recognize said advice and agree with the assessment?

El Mechs advice alone, if followed over the last two years, would have likely changed your life. You have Giovonnys personal contact info. Even if you didn't, you have thousands of posts of gold here to help.

"No, there has got to be a way I do absolutely nothing different at all and I have a stable LTR just happen. So let me ask again in 2017 and see if there's a new strategy that I will actually do."

Rex you don't have a meeting girls problem, none at all actually. Because you don't really want to. If you wanted to, and if this was a problem, you would be treating it as a problem. But you don't. It would be nice is what you tell yourself. But it's not so important that you will do any short term new and uncomfortable action to change it.

What happens is this: Every few months you get a twinge in your balls, sometimes a twinge in your heart, and you think "Huh. Pussy. Would be nice to have some of that. Perhaps a sweet one to keep me company long term. How do I get that?"

Then, you come here and ask how to attain this thing. Dudes proceed to tell you actions to take which have a high probability of helping you get what you want. You then (usually reluctantly) accept that you must do those things.

You try them once or twice. Then you find reason why it's all too difficult or just not the right time. Need to lose 10 more pounds. Tight on money this month. Changing jobs. New apartment. Don't have the energy.

And, that's that, for a little while.

So, in about 5 months, the next time you feel that twinge in your balls and your heart, just wait a few weeks, ride it out, and before you know it you'll be back to being perfectly satisfied with doing little to nothing to change that part of your life. And there's nothing wrong with that, because it's what you want, and you're happy otherwise. I am 100% certain now that this is the best advice for you

What you should not do, however, is log on to RVF and create a thread wherein you will proceed to once again squander the most valuable resource on this earth- The time and knowledge of men who have succeeded in what you want.

[Mercenary]

(06-24-2017 09:42 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

This thread didn't really go in the direction I was hoping for...

(06-24-2017 09:42 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

I think was expecting maybe some ideas and strategies, or something along those lines. Or maybe something analogous to Maslow's hierarchy, where first you need to focus on money, then on building a social life of some kind, and then eventually you get to meet women. I don't know. At my age I'm not going to "just pick up chicks at the mall..."

[Lagavulin]

(06-25-2017 04:01 AM)Noir Wrote:  

I listened to an NLP hypnosis CD for 2 weeks and it helped me immensely.

I'd be interested in listening to this CD. Any chance you could share the name/speaker?

[Noir]

(06-25-2017 05:26 AM)Lagavulin Wrote:  

(06-25-2017 04:01 AM)Noir Wrote:  

I listened to an NLP hypnosis CD for 2 weeks and it helped me immensely.

I'd be interested in listening to this CD. Any chance you could share the name/speaker?

He has a few more products as well but this one helped me immensely.

It could warrant it's own thread, NLP but let's see the outcome of this thread.

I already feel like I wasted my time, gauging off the general sentiment towards Rex

[Lagavulin]

^^^ Thanks Noir ^^^

I'm interested in NLP but have never tried it, I'll give this a try and report back if I see any benefit.

[Comte De St. Germain]

3 years ago I shot you a several page PM about how to get social and improve your life. You then proceeded to waste the time of forum members for several threads before actually doing something then succeeding for once. And now you're back at your old antics.

Get a fucking grip. Just get out there and meet people. And get the fuck off the politics forum you spineless twat. All I've seen you do is complain complain complain but no meaningful gains as of late after posts given to you that are worth their weight in gold. A newbie would have been chased off with pitchforks.

Seriously every time this guy posts in a political thread someone call him out. I'm frankly sick and tired of these threads.

[Fortis]

I love how Rex makes a thread asking for suggestions and then shoots down every suggestion. I mean, sure, if you wanna die alone, that's on you, but don't ask for advice if you're just going to flip it around and use it to reinforce your own bullshit.

At the end of the day, no one really cares if you solve this problem or not. In fact, I think guys here have been very lenient with you and your escapades because you've been on this forum for so long and have made various contributions on the political side of things, but take a step back, really consider what it is you want out of all of this and make a choice. If you don't want to take advice from the men of this forum, then stop making threads like these.

[polar]

Rex:

By the sounds of it, it's not gym or money that is preventing you from getting laid. It's your lack of action.

If you want to gain some respect back from the forum I'd recommend starting an approach thread and doing one a day.

[Cheetah]

Rex,

read these 13 things that you should avoid doing.

thread-31773.html

[RexImperator]

^^^ Those are pretty good - I've copied them to my notepad app.

[cascadecombo]

(06-25-2017 09:13 AM)RexImperator Wrote:  

^^^ Those are pretty good - I've copied them to my notepad app.

copy/paste is quite an accomplishment.

Where's the action upon the vast help you've had the chance to receive?

[RexImperator]

What "action" do you guys want to "see", exactly? I need something concrete.

I.e.:

Quote:

If you want to gain some respect back from the forum I'd recommend starting an approach thread and doing one a day.

[Cheetah]

^^^^^

How many of the 13 things that you should avoid are you doing today?

Can you reduce this number?

[RexImperator]

Only #5 if "others" refers to the forum...