Quote: (12-04-2015 09:19 PM)RexImperator Wrote:
Dang, that's a lot of approaches.
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Why the aversion to on-line? Do you have some limiting beliefs?
I don't know, it just seems weird to me. Plus, the local talent where I live is absolutely horrible on OKC.
The local talent EVERYWHERE is horrible on OKC compared to a random sample. OKC is full of overweight semi-intelligent (but think they're a lot smarter than they are) introverted types who affirm their inflated view of themselves by getting bombarded by thirsty fools on OKC. I don't consider it a good use of my time anywhere in the U.S., and I tend to like brainy introvert types (not fat ones, mind you).
Try meetup.com, find some areas of interest and go check out the groups to see if anyone coming to the next event is worth more than a five minute conversation. These don't have to be expensive. I've had some pretty good luck with the local salsa meetup groups. It will definitely get you out of your shell, and once you get good at it, you can go to any major city in the world and meet people through the local salsa scene, and have a good time doing it.
When I look at a meetup group, I always look to see how many women have signed up, and whether or not they're attractive. In my area there seems to be two types of fitness groups, the new age-y fat acceptance types (which the attractive women seem to avoid) and the not new age-y not fat acceptance types which may or may not have attractive women in them. All you need to know is 1) would I enjoy this activity and 2) are there women that I might enjoy getting to know (based on their picture, and if you want to get that detailed, their profile).
As for lying about your age, it's a lot different when you're in your 40s than it is in your 20s. I don't recommend it. You can wrestle with your conscience on that one, but I've come to realize that fucking with my sense of integrity does more to damage my inner game than 100 girls in their 20s telling me I'm too old for them (and there are plenty who like older men. You won't find out if you don't ask. You will get better at asking, and you need to better at asking, with practice. You need to be discreet, and adroit). And if you're remotely interested in an LTR with someone, it's going to come up, and you'll be back at square one.
I also agree with MrXY on the online thing:
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It's only "weird" if you think getting ass left and right from women you would never otherwise meet is "weird." I suggest you stop cockblocking yourself and try online in a serious way. There are several sites to try other than OKC. Online is great for guys in their 40's in you are not averse to banging in the 30-45 range
Truth. There are a million other dating sites besides OKC, which I only use when I'm traveling. You never know who is out there if you don't look.
All of this is assuming you have your fitness, style, and the other things we talk about here on the forum together.