You will regret missing this opportunity to break your dry spell. If something goes wrong-it will be a learning experience.
"The unexamined life is not worth living." - Socrates
Quote: (01-29-2019 01:24 PM)chvrches Wrote:
@Philosopher this sounds super newbie and strange, but im scared to hell i can't get it up for her once she's naked lol or that i will regret it later. im just used to one specific skinny type of body, it's gonna be a first time lowering my standards this much, hence the damn 1 year dry spell, i have too high standard. or maybe im just overanalyzing
Quote: (02-05-2019 05:00 AM)Pytonga Wrote:
So after yesterday date - she messaged me -
Thank you for a lovely visit. You were a perfect gentleman..
followed by
Not sure if either of us are feeling sparks flying.
followed
Aren't you sweet. I think I'm to much of personality for you no? Very honest and don't care what people think. I don't think that sits well with you.
Not sure but I think that I messed up the date - should bang but could not get over in my head that small kid was noisy in room next door.
There was kino, chat was strange - she was really in to me touching but then she started to talk about her exes and that after divorce she had a lot of ONS just for sex plus that she's got The Contraceptive Coil.
any idea if this is friendzone or just shit test
and yes I am a total beginner (learning via the forum)
Quote: (02-05-2019 07:45 PM)Hazaer Wrote:
Had this girl approach me. Chatted, got the number though I should have gone for the instadate, lesson learnt. Anyway, got the number. Texting was strictly logistics, she says ok to meet up but then hit the "I am tired with work' excuse ending with a "I still do want to meet up for a drink though honest' line with no alternative dates.
Replied with 'pfft', credits to hank moody. She replied unusually quickly with an angry emoticon.
Is this just another flake or is there more to it? Reply or ignore?
Cheers
Quote: (01-23-2019 06:04 PM)Trent W. Wrote:
I'll preface by saying I don't care that much about losing this bang. She's quite older, lives a bit far and has a daughter therefore limited time, bad logistics. But I feel it would be good sex.
That said, how would you guys respond to the "Unfortunately I don't feel interested" text?
Background:
Woman in her early 40s, great shape, met online. Came to my place after about a month since the first contact (holidays and other stuff were between and we didn't maintain contact the whole time). We drank wine, listened to George Michael whom she adores, talked, made out and she gave me an unfinished handjob. Could tell she was horny. She was on her period and told me she wouldn't have sex because of that. She messaged me the day after the date to tell me she made it home ok, I replied and all was good.
Long story short, the woman showed signs of interest in meeting again after that but seemed a bit hesitant to do it at my place with pretty much knowing what would go down. So on my last text, I ask her if she wants to meet this coming weekend. Today, 3 days later, she sends me the text I posted at the top.
I'd guess that she wants some sort of dating relationship and probably realized that our age difference, life situation and what I want from her doesn't align with that.
The reason I'm asking is simply to see if anybody has turned something like that around.
My thoughts:
- "It's ok. If you change your mind you know where to find me." Non reactive, short, implicit but still to the point.
- "Alright. Got a new TV with better sound, if you want to listen to George Michael again hit me up." Same as above, a bit more playful and referring to our fist meet.
- "Not interested in George Michael again? Alright, can put on Phil Collins this time." Trolling, light hearted and funny, referring to the first meet.
Like I said, I'm not sweating this one. But since she didn't ghost me, it may mean she was thinking about what to do. So if I can keep the door open, I wonder what the best way to do it in is.
Quote: (02-05-2019 07:57 PM)jaynkay Wrote:
Quote: (02-05-2019 07:45 PM)Hazaer Wrote:
Had this girl approach me. Chatted, got the number though I should have gone for the instadate, lesson learnt. Anyway, got the number. Texting was strictly logistics, she says ok to meet up but then hit the "I am tired with work' excuse ending with a "I still do want to meet up for a drink though honest' line with no alternative dates.
Replied with 'pfft', credits to hank moody. She replied unusually quickly with an angry emoticon.
Is this just another flake or is there more to it? Reply or ignore?
Cheers
No value in your pfft text. Better to stay silent as a) you will ignore her b) you still have earned yourself a response at a later day. Respond with logistics for a date later in the week. Give it a few day and it has to be during the week and not the weekend.
Quote: (02-05-2019 08:01 PM)eradicator Wrote:
Hazaer. It's on, she approached you, you just have to lead her. Try for Sunday night, keep the rest of your logistics the same.
Run tuthmosis' first date bang recipe.
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Quote: (02-06-2019 07:02 AM)MOVSM Wrote:
How do you even respond to that? this one has me stumped...
My reaction is to next her. what did i do wrong, what could be done better?
Quote: (02-06-2019 07:02 AM)MOVSM Wrote:
How do you even respond to that? this one has me stumped...
My reaction is to next her. what did i do wrong, what could be done better?
Quote: (02-06-2019 10:12 PM)Hegemon1984 Wrote:
Evening gentlemen,
So I'm relatively new to cold approaching, but I'm absolutely new to text game. I have no idea what to say or do. I mainly use text for logistics with a girl. In any other case, I'm willing to give it a shot because why the fuck not. Let's get to the story:
I met this cute Latina girl at the community college I haunt. Hipster. Loves rock and that godawful hipster music. I cold approached her and stated, "Hey, so I saw you around the corner and I thought you were cute so I wanted to meet you." We talked for about 20 minutes before her Dad picked her up from community college. At first, she asked me if I had Instagram. I said no and asked for her number. She gave it to me and here's the text history atm. Keep in mind, this was an hour ago.
Me: "Hey [her name], it's Adam that Asian dude you met... save my number."
Her: "Okay [insert squirrel emoji here]."
Me: "My lazy ass needs to create an Instagram."
Her: "Yes it's the new resume." (As in 'social resume', when she asked if I had Instagram, I said no but a buddy of mine called it a 'social resume'. She seemed to adapt that idea.)
So gentlemen, how do I proceed to create attraction?
PS: She showed me her Instagram. It was mostly inspirational quotes and a few pictures of her. Very cute. She said she had other 'mature' pictures of her, but she keeps those private. Subtle suggestion maybe?
Quote: (02-06-2019 10:17 PM)eradicator Wrote:
Quote: (02-06-2019 10:12 PM)Hegemon1984 Wrote:
Evening gentlemen,
So I'm relatively new to cold approaching, but I'm absolutely new to text game. I have no idea what to say or do. I mainly use text for logistics with a girl. In any other case, I'm willing to give it a shot because why the fuck not. Let's get to the story:
I met this cute Latina girl at the community college I haunt. Hipster. Loves rock and that godawful hipster music. I cold approached her and stated, "Hey, so I saw you around the corner and I thought you were cute so I wanted to meet you." We talked for about 20 minutes before her Dad picked her up from community college. At first, she asked me if I had Instagram. I said no and asked for her number. She gave it to me and here's the text history atm. Keep in mind, this was an hour ago.
Me: "Hey [her name], it's Adam that Asian dude you met... save my number."
Her: "Okay [insert squirrel emoji here]."
Me: "My lazy ass needs to create an Instagram."
Her: "Yes it's the new resume." (As in 'social resume', when she asked if I had Instagram, I said no but a buddy of mine called it a 'social resume'. She seemed to adapt that idea.)
So gentlemen, how do I proceed to create attraction?
PS: She showed me her Instagram. It was mostly inspirational quotes and a few pictures of her. Very cute. She said she had other 'mature' pictures of her, but she keeps those private. Subtle suggestion maybe?
Hopefully you spent 20 minutes with her building attraction and getting to know her, try to get her on dates and escalate. Tell her that you like to keep texting to logistics.
Quote: (02-06-2019 07:02 AM)MOVSM Wrote:Her 2nd, "worth a try"-text indicates to me that it is still open.
How do you even respond to that? this one has me stumped...
My reaction is to next her. what did i do wrong, what could be done better?