The OP presents two separate issues:
Issue #1: Problem relating to the current generation of young women
Issue #2: Not knowing whether or not to get on the social media train to help with game. Is it harmful not to have social media?
Issue #1 is a no brainer. It's a matter of "learning how to talk to anyone".
First: you already relate more than you can imagine. You live in the same city, may enjoy similar foods, drinks, movies, activities, etc. It's a matter of digging for common ground, just like when you meet people from different countries or cultures.
Learning how to talk to a toddler, an aggressive gym bro and an old lady, will all help you talk to girls, because you learn how to be interesting to multiple audiences.
I love having "shallow" conversations with girls. We talk about what our grandmas used to cook for us when we were kids; what does she think about this guy or girl's style; who she thinks is the hottest female model; how the decor of the room could be improved, and so on.
Second: you don't have to have the same exact interests. If you are an accountant, do you really want to discuss accounting with your girl? Or football? If you aren't yet comfortable with rambling and storytelling, learn to compartimentalize topics to certain specific people - you'll both get the most out of it.
Third: when you become good at storytelling, it becomes a matter of sucking them into YOUR frame, YOUR world, where you are the master.
If you are a good talker and storyteller, you can talk to girls about literally any subject and they will be fascinated by it. You drop cliffhangers and baits throughout the story, and ask them questions that either are easy to answer, so they keep paying attention, or that stirr their emotions ( Can you believe this happened? How would you feel if ____ happened to you? And so on).
This is also related to Issue #2.
I'll reiterate what blck said in his post:
Quote: (03-28-2017 09:43 AM)blck Wrote:
"Never go in a fight adopting the opponent's rules"
For the sake of argument, let's say a girl who is an 8 meets Brad Pitt at a house party - the owner of the house was his best friend growing up and he's in town shooting a movie.
She's not going to ask for his IG, she knows who he is. She is not worried they don't have anything in common, she just wants to be a part of his world.
Taking it a notch down, the same girl meets a handsome male model:
She asks him for his IG out of curiosity. He says he doesn't have one. Do you think she's going to reject him? Is she thinking "We probably don't enjoy the same music"? Definitely no for both questions.
Now here's something actually attainable. Suppose you are one of the guys below:
Do you think you're getting the boot because you don't have a FB or IG account? Nah. Not having social media actually adds an element of "Who the hell is this guy?". There's nothing particularly special about them. They are probably around 40, in decent shape. The only x factor is that they are dressed and groomed stylishly - something anyone can attain.
When you have a strong look/status/frame/mouthpiece, you impact your target and take them out of their comfort zone. They are intrigued and want to be a part of YOUR world, whether it's fascinating from the outside (Pitt) or a complete mistery (the guys above). They are sucked into YOUR reality.
This is how cult leaders get a following - people get sucked into their frame.
Because they're on your world, you can talk about literally anything. I'll discuss jiu jitsu, 70's progressive rock music, photography, Flat Earth Theory, and so on. I come on to these topics hot and I know how to get their attention. We are not necessarily looking for the cure for cancer, but bouncing ideas playfully.
So - not having social media will not harm you
if you dot the i's and cross the t's with the rest - looks, fitness, verbal game.
You
could be leaving pussy on the table,
if you are willing to post and game on social media.
My new flatmate has a few thousand followers on Instagram and maybe 10k on Facebook. But he's always posting pictures, quotes, texts and so on. He's always online, sends girls messages, etc. It's not too different from Tinder. But since I don't even do Tinder right now, it's definitely something I'm not willing to do.
On the other hand, say you spend 3h/week on social media going after new prospects. You could be spending those three hours on a night out or a solid day game session.
So how much you actually leave on the table is up to you.