Quote: (05-20-2019 12:26 PM)Cavorite Wrote:
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Couldn't disagree more. That chick looks busted as hell from her thumbnail but the game is on point, cut to the chase, get the number, get her out. You can save the witty banter for the date. Almost always trying to be really creative and witty over tinder and texting backfires, especially abroad.
Maybe in U.S. you are expected to give her some clown laughs before the number but its not my style.
What I'm saying is an average Tinder girl won't participate in the conversation enough for you to cut to the chase, get her number, and get out.
Guy: You look like trouble
Girl: Haha
Guy: You from Vienna?
Girl: Yeah
Guy: How long you here for?
Girl: Today
Guy: You want to get a drink
Girl: *crickets*
Newsflash: Tinder is a hookup app that is based almost completely on photos and to a lesser extent your instagram profile. What you write on your bio or what you write to her almost doesn't even matter. If she wasn't going to give you her number there's little you could say to change that fact anyways. That girls doing you a favor by not wasting your time.
Also doesn't matter if you say "lets meet up" "lets get a drink" "do you wanna get a drink" its all the same shit, she either wants to meet and possibly fuck you or she doesn't.
At least this is how tinder works abroad, maybe in US there needs to be some witty banter and stuff first, thats what my brother says.
You guys are focusing way too much on what to say when it really doesn't matter and not enough time optimizing the fuck out of your photos which is 90%+ of it anyways.
I think a "buyers mindset" in this situation can really help. I don't reply with long messages or try to be witty because not only does it not really work well in Mexico but mainly because I just have too many damn matches that I can't keep up. Thats the main reason girls write short responses as well. I get at least 20 matches a week, if I do a boost I might get anywhere from 25-50 girls, I act like I have tons of girls blowing me up and need to keep it short with them because thats the reality. If thats not your reality then imagine that it is and how such a person would act when getting messages from a girl. You want the girl to be thinking "this guy gets tons of matches just like I do, he's a high value male" . When you respond quickly and with long responses it conveys lower value like you're trying to impress her, which you are.
I know this for a fact because as a high value/ranking dude on tinder I get very suspicious when a girl is sending me really long messages and overly enthusiastic that something is weird or not right, either she gained weight since her photos, or is socially awkward. I know hot women feel the same way.
The above quote is actually perfect, only maybe instead of a drink, I would say "oh cool let me know if you have a minute we can link up" or something like that. Some might say thats a hidden question but I have no problem screening girls with a question to give me an affirmative yes that they have to meet, but this is really small potatoes, its really about your photos.
And one last thing: its normal that 50%+ of your matches don't respond do your messages, half of those matches aren't even real, and its normal out of the remaining 50% that 50% of those will be terse with you just wasting your time etc. So its just a numbers game even the most optimized tinder profile is going to have a 75% either no response or short/aloof response rate, you need to make up for it in numbers, it doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong.