Hello guys, I write this on behalf of my best friend. His account is still getting through the process of being accepted for a long time now, so he can’t post yet. But he can see this thread, and was hoping some of you would help him.
I have been with 4 girls in my life. One I lost my virginity to in 2015. And 3 this year in 2018. All 3 one night stands. Not drunk, just girls of events, parties, through mutual friend etc. All 3 ghosted me after the sex. I know what you are gonna say, girls will stay if your personality is good enough, but believe me when I say this, im good on every aspect outside of sex. Im trying to fix this because it’s hurting my dating life. Here is my story.
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1st girl I had sex with after 2 dates. We went to my place to watch a movie and we had sex. I did my best to improve my foreplay so it won’t be so bad when I bust early. I came in 30 seconds. It was embarrassing but I thought it’s ok this was after 3 years of no sex. It’s normal. She made up a bullshit excuse and left early. I thought fuck it, I got over my dry spell, this year im gonna improve my life and this was just a stepping stone, didn’t take it personally.
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2nd girl I met her through a party that was hosted by my old school. Like a get-together party for the old students. She was one girl I used to see in class but never had the guts to talk to her. I was a beta. But now a few years after, I was more confident as a person and better looking. I had put on good muscle. Back then I was scrawny. She was impressed when I said hi, she couldn’t recognize me and she showed a lot of attraction. We had good chemistry and actually was sharing a lot of common interests. She was a 7/10 with a petite body. We went to the afterparty, I ran my smooth talking and she agreed to stay over. At first, it was “only cuddle” but we all know what that means when a girl says that. I said fine.
We went to my place, got in the bed to “cuddle” and I started kissing her. Started fingering her and slowly we undressed. I flipped her to the side and fucked her in the cuddle position. I was terrified it would last only 30 seconds so I tried to calm my nerves. I started very slow and had to take a lot of breaks. Imagine you going for 20 seconds, then taking a “cooldown” already. It was weird for her, she kept asking if everything is alright? I said, yeah, it’s just been a while. I went on for 1 minute and 20 seconds and busted. I tried to hold frame and not seem like a pussy. I said, damn, how about a second round? She just smiled and said okay. I thought great, 2nd round I can go for longer. We couldn’t sleep, we chatted for 30 min and I was ready to go again. This time I put on an extra thick condom I had bought because I didn’t want to fuck up this time. We started a little foreplay and went at it. Jesus. I busted in 1 min again. She looked at me like “are you serious?” she didn’t say it, but I know that look on girls faces. I’ve seen it before… I didn’t know what to do. I didn’t want to say sorry and seem like a bitch, so I just didn’t mention it. It was awkward quickly and we went to sleep. She left very early that morning. I looked at myself in the mirror and thought what the fuck is wrong with me.
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3rd girl I tried to prepare myself. I didn’t fap or watch porn for several months. I completely reset myself, was hitting gym a lot, was eating healthy, every good thing I could do. Meditation, you name it. I met this girl through a mutual friend. I didn’t know that friend so well, but we had recently reconnected. She introduced me to her friend and we went on 2 dates. It was fun, and while she was cute, solid 7.5/10 it didn’t help my case. I was hesitating to bring her home because of my past failures with the previous 2 girls this year. I was scared. I didn’t want to lose a girl I actually liked for my embarrassing premature ejaculation problem. She seemed into me more than the other girls and wanted to come back to my place after 1st date, but I couldn,’t do it. By 2nd date I knew if I didn’t do something now it would seem weird for her and she would start wondering what the hell is wrong with ,me. So to my surprise because I was so slow to escalate and she seemed to take a liking to me, she proposed we go back to her place and have some coffee. I said okay. This time I had prepared. I had researched on the internet and found a condom with numbing cream. The reviews seemed good, some said they could last forever on it, others said you will last a few minutes extra but lose some of the sensation in the penis head, some said it was so effective their dick couldn’t get up. At this point I was desperate so I took the chances.
We got to her place, sat down, talked a bit, I worked some kino, she was very receptive. The fact that she was comfortable with this and seemed experience with this kind of thing didn’t help my situation, it made it worse. But I had promised myself to calm mentally. I read a lot of articles that sexual anxiety is caused by yourself in your mind, so ease it. And so I did. She started kissing all over me and undressing. She grabbed my dick and pulled it out and tried to give me a blowjob. This would have been my first blowjob ever, since I’ve never tried it and only heard so much about it. But I knew that it would destroy me and I would cum instantly and ruin the chance of the sex I was preparing for in so long. She looked weird when I said, no don’t. This was probably her first time getting a no to a blowjob. I tried to take the lead, lifted her and brought her to the bedroom. She was now naked. We started making out, I slipped a finger in there and soon started kissing her from her neck down to her thighs and I went down on her. This was my first experience with eating pussy, and it wasn’t so bad, but I had no idea what I was doing. She did seem to enjoy it but no orgasm unfortunately. She got on top of me and rode me for a minute. I didn’t even enjoy it, I didn’t feel much, I was just focusing super hard on math equations lol so I wouldn’t bust. She got off me and I got on top of her, went on for 1 minute then bust. Fuck. Déjà vu. I just played it cool. I had a plan B, the condom with numbing cream. I kissed her and made a shitty excuse saying, “it’s been a long time, second round will be better”, she seemed ok with it. She understood.
When I was ready to go again I put on the numbing cream condom and my dick was so numbed it went down so fast. She was laying there and I couldn’t explain the situation. I said “it’s not my day today huh?” jokingly to ease the awkward situation. She didn’t say much, just let out an awkward laugh. After 10 min I told her that I had to leave, my bus was coming. I left. Next morning I woke up filled with regret. Didn’t feel like a man, felt like a little boy. I had a text from this girl saying “Unfortunate last night, I had fun but we probably shouldn’t be going on any more dates”. I knew what that meant, im not stupid.
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This keeps happening to me, what can I do. This will keep happening with the next and next and next girl if I don’t fix it. I need your help rooshvforum. My game has improved a lot thanks to reading this forum and lurking forever in the newbie section and I can manage to lay these girls easy but the sex is so bad, even when I focus foreplay. Im 23 years old. Lost my virginity at 20. Started gaming at 23 and so far 3 lays 3 failures. This is killing my game and confidence. I want to start 2019 with being able to last more than 1 minute.
I have been with 4 girls in my life. One I lost my virginity to in 2015. And 3 this year in 2018. All 3 one night stands. Not drunk, just girls of events, parties, through mutual friend etc. All 3 ghosted me after the sex. I know what you are gonna say, girls will stay if your personality is good enough, but believe me when I say this, im good on every aspect outside of sex. Im trying to fix this because it’s hurting my dating life. Here is my story.
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1st girl I had sex with after 2 dates. We went to my place to watch a movie and we had sex. I did my best to improve my foreplay so it won’t be so bad when I bust early. I came in 30 seconds. It was embarrassing but I thought it’s ok this was after 3 years of no sex. It’s normal. She made up a bullshit excuse and left early. I thought fuck it, I got over my dry spell, this year im gonna improve my life and this was just a stepping stone, didn’t take it personally.
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2nd girl I met her through a party that was hosted by my old school. Like a get-together party for the old students. She was one girl I used to see in class but never had the guts to talk to her. I was a beta. But now a few years after, I was more confident as a person and better looking. I had put on good muscle. Back then I was scrawny. She was impressed when I said hi, she couldn’t recognize me and she showed a lot of attraction. We had good chemistry and actually was sharing a lot of common interests. She was a 7/10 with a petite body. We went to the afterparty, I ran my smooth talking and she agreed to stay over. At first, it was “only cuddle” but we all know what that means when a girl says that. I said fine.
We went to my place, got in the bed to “cuddle” and I started kissing her. Started fingering her and slowly we undressed. I flipped her to the side and fucked her in the cuddle position. I was terrified it would last only 30 seconds so I tried to calm my nerves. I started very slow and had to take a lot of breaks. Imagine you going for 20 seconds, then taking a “cooldown” already. It was weird for her, she kept asking if everything is alright? I said, yeah, it’s just been a while. I went on for 1 minute and 20 seconds and busted. I tried to hold frame and not seem like a pussy. I said, damn, how about a second round? She just smiled and said okay. I thought great, 2nd round I can go for longer. We couldn’t sleep, we chatted for 30 min and I was ready to go again. This time I put on an extra thick condom I had bought because I didn’t want to fuck up this time. We started a little foreplay and went at it. Jesus. I busted in 1 min again. She looked at me like “are you serious?” she didn’t say it, but I know that look on girls faces. I’ve seen it before… I didn’t know what to do. I didn’t want to say sorry and seem like a bitch, so I just didn’t mention it. It was awkward quickly and we went to sleep. She left very early that morning. I looked at myself in the mirror and thought what the fuck is wrong with me.
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3rd girl I tried to prepare myself. I didn’t fap or watch porn for several months. I completely reset myself, was hitting gym a lot, was eating healthy, every good thing I could do. Meditation, you name it. I met this girl through a mutual friend. I didn’t know that friend so well, but we had recently reconnected. She introduced me to her friend and we went on 2 dates. It was fun, and while she was cute, solid 7.5/10 it didn’t help my case. I was hesitating to bring her home because of my past failures with the previous 2 girls this year. I was scared. I didn’t want to lose a girl I actually liked for my embarrassing premature ejaculation problem. She seemed into me more than the other girls and wanted to come back to my place after 1st date, but I couldn,’t do it. By 2nd date I knew if I didn’t do something now it would seem weird for her and she would start wondering what the hell is wrong with ,me. So to my surprise because I was so slow to escalate and she seemed to take a liking to me, she proposed we go back to her place and have some coffee. I said okay. This time I had prepared. I had researched on the internet and found a condom with numbing cream. The reviews seemed good, some said they could last forever on it, others said you will last a few minutes extra but lose some of the sensation in the penis head, some said it was so effective their dick couldn’t get up. At this point I was desperate so I took the chances.
We got to her place, sat down, talked a bit, I worked some kino, she was very receptive. The fact that she was comfortable with this and seemed experience with this kind of thing didn’t help my situation, it made it worse. But I had promised myself to calm mentally. I read a lot of articles that sexual anxiety is caused by yourself in your mind, so ease it. And so I did. She started kissing all over me and undressing. She grabbed my dick and pulled it out and tried to give me a blowjob. This would have been my first blowjob ever, since I’ve never tried it and only heard so much about it. But I knew that it would destroy me and I would cum instantly and ruin the chance of the sex I was preparing for in so long. She looked weird when I said, no don’t. This was probably her first time getting a no to a blowjob. I tried to take the lead, lifted her and brought her to the bedroom. She was now naked. We started making out, I slipped a finger in there and soon started kissing her from her neck down to her thighs and I went down on her. This was my first experience with eating pussy, and it wasn’t so bad, but I had no idea what I was doing. She did seem to enjoy it but no orgasm unfortunately. She got on top of me and rode me for a minute. I didn’t even enjoy it, I didn’t feel much, I was just focusing super hard on math equations lol so I wouldn’t bust. She got off me and I got on top of her, went on for 1 minute then bust. Fuck. Déjà vu. I just played it cool. I had a plan B, the condom with numbing cream. I kissed her and made a shitty excuse saying, “it’s been a long time, second round will be better”, she seemed ok with it. She understood.
When I was ready to go again I put on the numbing cream condom and my dick was so numbed it went down so fast. She was laying there and I couldn’t explain the situation. I said “it’s not my day today huh?” jokingly to ease the awkward situation. She didn’t say much, just let out an awkward laugh. After 10 min I told her that I had to leave, my bus was coming. I left. Next morning I woke up filled with regret. Didn’t feel like a man, felt like a little boy. I had a text from this girl saying “Unfortunate last night, I had fun but we probably shouldn’t be going on any more dates”. I knew what that meant, im not stupid.
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This keeps happening to me, what can I do. This will keep happening with the next and next and next girl if I don’t fix it. I need your help rooshvforum. My game has improved a lot thanks to reading this forum and lurking forever in the newbie section and I can manage to lay these girls easy but the sex is so bad, even when I focus foreplay. Im 23 years old. Lost my virginity at 20. Started gaming at 23 and so far 3 lays 3 failures. This is killing my game and confidence. I want to start 2019 with being able to last more than 1 minute.