Quote: (08-10-2018 02:01 PM)Feldeinsamkeit Wrote:
Listen up to your main man Kirdiesel here, since what he says is right on the money. Since moving to Hamburg about 6 weeks ago, I've been getting killed running daygame, even though I've over 2000 direct approaches under my belt, mostly garnered through gaming in east Germany. Although I had some luck in my first 10 approaches here, bagging a date with a half-Portuguese cutie who's still texting me, the native German girls have been extremely tough nuts to crack, even the ones 30 plus. Might have something to do with my age (I'm 44 and some girls say I look older still), with women being extremely reluctant here to be seen dating an older guy. Or it could be fact that I'm not tall and well-built (there are tons of tall, young, jacked German guys for the local talent to choose from), but whatever the reason, I'm having a much tougher time of it than I did in Leipzig in eastern Germany, where I was easily able to get a couple of reliable number closes for roughly every 10 approaches.
If you're thinking about coming to Germany, especially to northern Germany, solely for the women, you need your head examining. Germany is a country worth coming to for other reasons, but the women wouldn't be among them for me. Having said that, I've noticed that many of the older women in Hamburg do age quite well, so if GILF hunting is your bag, then northern Germany might not disappoint after all.
Dude, you need a fucking reality check.
- You are 44 years old
- Girls think you look even older
- You are not tall
- You are not well-built
- You are running daygame
- On girls much younger than you, I assume younger than 30 even
- The ones who are 30+ are stilll a tough nut for you to crack
- And you've chosen Hamburg of all places
Just what exactly do you expect to happen?
What made you think that this was a good idea?
Did you do any research?
There is a very strong subconscious taboo against large age gaps in German culture and society. A "proper" and "normal" couple in the German sense should have the same age. The man can also be a few years older (around 5 or less), that's still alright. Everything else is rather unusual and quickly verging on creepy territory.
Large age gaps are only tolerated if the man is either rich, famous or powerful (to which extent is directly proportional to his success).
Now even in that case, behind closed doors, the average German will still think you are scum. Because you refuse to accept your place in the natural order of things, and it's just not proper. You, troublemaker, are using your (surely undeserved) privilege to take what isn't yours to take. Not good. Not proper. Very unfair. Who do you think you are?
That's what the average German thinks if you are rich, famous or powerful and going after much younger women.
Are you rich, famous or powerful?
Most likely not.
So what makes you think that you deserve to go after much younger women?
Hamburg is also the poshest city in Germany. Young, attractive girls have tons of options there and are quite status conscious. It sounds like you don't have much going for you in that regard, and your results are accordingly.
You mentioned that Hamburg might be good for GILF hunting, and that's great because it means you're not totally autistic. You're picking up on cultural clues and the vibe.
Because, in Germany, it is exactly what a man with your stats is supposed to and expected to be going for. Single mums, divorced women, widows and leftover spinsters, age group 40+.
Quote: (08-11-2018 03:19 PM)Feldeinsamkeit Wrote:
I've already knocked out around 80 approaches around Hamburg since arriving about a month ago and the results have been worse than even in the UK. Whether it's the culture, the bad ratios, the male competition here (guys are jacked and tall and mostly doing well financially) - I'm not sure - it's hard as hell and I'm already very depressed at my lack of options. Sorry to piss on anybody's parade, just my two penneth worth as somebody who's actually got boots on the ground here.
I have absolutely no clue why you are in Germany.
Cut your losses and move on.
Go to Latin America, South East Asia, even Eastern Europe would be better.