Since OP is living in Europe I think he should use the quick and cheap flights, that exists here to get around. Just go to, for example, Krakow over the weekend and see what happens and next weekend try somewhere else. Don’t get me wrong! I’m not opposing you going to the Philippines, that’s really what you need right now to kick start your sex life and to make up for all that time that you have been missing female contact. I’m just saying that once you come home, don’t just go back to your old pattern while waiting for the next trip to the Philippines. Instead, use that time and your opportunity of living near interesting travel destinations to have some European adventures as well, where there is approachable women. While doing that you can try out that hostel experience you listed, just to have it done and see what you think. And while doing that you can build up connections and a mini harem, just to make the most out of life lol. I have used penpal sites and such to get in touch with locals in advance of going somewhere, and to later hang out with once there.
I think that going to the Philippines will change you, not only with the satisfaction of your balls getting drained by a cute, warm and super feminine girl and learn how to interact with the opposite sex, but since you seems to be a observant and carrying person the reality will strike you with humble after seeing how cruel the world can really be. Also, you seem to research a lot so use that to impress the locals with your knowledge of their history (say something nice about dr.Rizal) and crack up some sentences in tagalong, cebuano/visayan and you will stand out from the sex tourist crowd.
These days there is also many Scandinavian girls going for the beaches if you wanna try out some “home-grown” since they have a much lower guard once you met them abroad. Besides banging girls, use the trip to try out new things. The Philippines is a great place for scuba diving, snorkelling and free diving. It also offers some great hiking (well depending on where you are) and I heard that now there is good boxing gyms and places to train FMA that are open to tourists, similar to muay thai camps in Thailand (I know you said that you didn’t do sports, but still..).
Besides changing venue, you also write that you realize that you have to change yourself
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“Because nothing will happen unless you change - the girls will never change for you.”
The thing that strikes me that you should work on is that you seem a little bit tepid. You say that you can do small talk and that you can talk about anything but with your date you did the most of the talking, you also say that girls never notice you. To me it sounds that you might not bring out the “edgy” part of your personality to activate them, maybe you need to put some spice by cracking a joke, slightly tease her or be very passionate about something that you are passionate about to chisel out your character. Then you can do some slight peacocking by dress a bit more outgoing/noticeable (still within your personal style) and why not starting to work out? You don’t need to be super jacked, but by improving ones physique you will raise your level of attractiveness and stand out more to the opposite sex, period.
And of course, you need to start approaching.
Before going home after your Philippines trip why not check out Thailand? Its on the way home, so to speak, and cebu pacific usually has some cheap flights to BKK. And when you are at home I once again will suggest that you check out Europe before deciding what your big life-change is going to be. Poland should be on your list, I also want to recommend Slovenia and Belarus. Slovenia is a chill place that surprised me with very friendly and pretty girls, but my experience there is limited so I suggest you check out the thread about it here on the forum. Belarus can be tricky because of the language, but just some basic sentences can take you a long way since people are sooo welcoming to foreigners and will help you without hesitating, and invite you for dinner. Its best if you got some interest for history and specifically the Soviet era or some for Slavic culture, in that case this is a spot on destination.
And there is plenty of warm and beautiful girls that are approachable (also slim, no fatties) and will be interested in meting a foreigner. Guys are really cool as well and you will most likely get to know people, no worries about social circles.
On a side note, I just want to say that it doesn’t surprise me that OP is Scandinavian (I’m from Sweden myself) I don’t know any “old” virgins, but I know people, in their mid-late 20’s that I highly suspect could be, and even more guys I know have lived in celibacy for years.
On the paper OP should be a catch for most women with being average/good-looking, having a nice career and so on, but here in Scandinavia things have gone pretty far in on the down side for men. I havnt read Roosh’s “Don’t bang Denmark” so I cant comment on that, but I would say that the intense level of feminism, bad male-to-female-ratio, anti-social culture based on tight social circles in order to met anyone, and the modern western individualistic lifestyle has created a toxic environment for social interaction and where women got disproportional demands and standards, while many men gets confused and low self esteem.
Hence why Sweden leads the world percentage of thai brides
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http://www.humangeo.su.se/english/resear...ts-1.81188
Anyway, you are on the right way OP your life will improve once you start, good luck!