Quote: (10-06-2017 11:34 AM)Captainstabbin Wrote:
Quote: (10-05-2017 03:11 PM)Matsufubu Wrote:
If I want to partake in a union sealed by God himself then I will play by His rules, not the lower impulse rules of man.
The problem is that most women don't like to play by anyone's rules. And they're rewarded with cash and prizes if they decide to end the marriage. I know a ton of "good christian girls" who ended their marriage for very superficial reasons...but it all boiled down to being bored and expecting a husband to provide constant entertainment.
You are right, society nowadays encourages women to Eat, Pray, Love for cash and prizes. My own mother always told me that we are all "men and women first and Christian second", so I'm under no illusions. There is no surefire way to 100% guarantee faithfulness other than being picky. MGTOW is not an option, and as I said before, banging sluts until you die is no good for you or civilisation, just read the Hugh Hefner thread to see what I mean.
I'm not an old man, but she and I have been together 15 years. Now I haven't had her under surveillance 24/7 for all that time so in theory anything is possible, but there's nothing to indicate she's cheated or even had a wandering eye. I'll just share a few things I've thought and learned for what it's worth to you guys:
1. Alpha fux, beta bux: Why not both? Yes, really. I've always been ZFG, a bit aloof, a bit of a jerk, tease her with rampant sexism, but also look after the family on my one income (though she does work part time around the kids). We're not rolling in it, my income is sensible but enough to have nice things without any of that 'Real Housewives of X' bullshit that seems to ruin women.
2. Caveman in the bedroom, gentleman outside the bedroom. The male version of 'lady in the living room, whore in the bedroom'. It works. Our brains are still operating in stone age times and respond to those stimuli. Alpha fux, literally. It doesn't have to be that way every time, but it does the first time, and every once in a while after that to let her know who's boss.
3. Women don't want to be with an equal, they are hypergamous so want someone to look up to and feel lucky to be with, without it being such a gap that she feels hopelessly insecure. DO NOT LISTEN to her waffle about equality, independence, yadda yadda yadda...it's a shit test.
4. Do not put her on a pedestal, or she'll get too comfortable and think she's too good for you and go looking. She may control sex - your short term prize - but you control commitment - her long term prize One is worth more than the other, remember that.
5. Make sure you tease her about stuff. It lets her know you don't worship her and keeps her on her toes.
6. Argue about the small stuff, stupid stuff. It feeds her need for minor drama without her looking for arguments about big stuff.
7. Don't leap straight into the relationship. We knew each other for 6 months before getting together. We were testing each other's character. She didn't screw any guys and acted like a lady the whole time, so I knew she was wife material.
8. I knew she was worthy of marriage when I was going through a tough time, and instead of doing the usual 'selfish-bitch-what-about-meeee' thing that so many other women do, she went out of her way to look after me without question.
9. We share a moral compass and value system. Diametrically opposed on interests like cars, films and hobbies, but those don't matter as long as the morals and values are in line.
10. As I said, I game other women to keep myself sharp and (mentally at least) keep my options open. Psychologically that helps me maintain frame at home and keep ZFG to keep her on her toes a bit.
11. I've frequently let her know my views on the consequences of cheating, single motherhood, the SMV, etc (anything triggering to women, really). Yes, she acts all indignant and might start mentioning 'noble' or 'honour', but I know that's just her lizard brain trying to appeal to sides of me she can't possibly understand. Basically, I'm letting her know that if she fucks up, she's on her own.
12. Be the leader. Not an arsehole, a leader. Women want to submit and be lead, no matter what they say.
That's all for now. I don't envy you young guys, as I chose well and still have to play the game, so for a market that's now 90% narcissistic sluts I really do understand why men go MGTOW or just plow through sluts and enjoy the decline.