Quote: (12-24-2017 03:32 AM)AnonymousBosch Wrote:
I think the Sigma Tell is this: When conflict arises to the extent that things might get physical, the Gamma backs down and tries to pretend he was only joking. The Sigma always chooses to makes the situation worse.
If you've never been in a physical fight, particularly one that could have been easily-avoided with diplomacy or reason, then you're probably not a Sigma.
Another tell: you've were repeatedly-threatened with your Permanent Record. (Teachers want the Alpha's approval).
I definitely describe myself as a sigma and so do a lot of other people, without using the word itself.
I know the rules I am expected to follow, the customs, the compromises, the established norms, but I regularly show my contempt for them. In the following story, I am meant to be a delightful foreign gentleman, yet I can't give a quarter of a fuck.
I had a very messy break-up with an Eastern European girl. Her family became involved and refused to hand over my stuff. Then, actually quite surprisingly, some friends and I started fielding threats from a neighbor of theirs when we were going about trying to retrieve my stuff.
It was just really fucked up shit he was sending in messages (I had never met him, making it more bizarre still), like how he said he was going to carve me up with a knife, beat up (female) friends of mine (threats to girls were his first mouth-offs), and all this other crap. It turns out that this neighbor had a history as a teenager (and from the age of about 10) going around and sexually assaulting some of the local girls, akin to a deranged gamma. Not tentative/not sure accusations, confirmed ones. We're talking Jon Venables/Robert Thompson-lite shit, except it's the Czech Republic and no one is going to institutionalize warped people as often as should happen. Even my ex's father admitted some of the outright fuckery that went on with this retard. But, being neighbors, the adults involved swept all the incidents under the carpet at the time and went about their lives, including attending church every Sunday as if nothing had happened.
I had no intention of avoiding the areas where my ex lived, which I regularly frequent because Slovakia is a stone's throw away. I like the areas, I'd lived in them for a long time, so I was going nowhere. I spend up to a third of the year there. A more "reasonable" person would say, "David, just go about your business and keep a low profile."
Nope, nope and nope. My friends and I went on to refer to the neighbor as a sexual molester every time he made threats. He didn't know how to react, began to panic and then pandemonium set in, with repeated denials from his family, shrill screams that the I the Westerner was a liar and troublemaker. When that happened, we showed people proof, confirmations from people who knew about what went on, detailed descriptions and the like, plus the accounts of witnesses who confirmed that people, like my ex's dad, had said that this guy was going around being Molesty McMolest Face. How the fuck the fathers involved didn't act at the time is beyond me.
"You're a crazy man, we'll go to the police!"
"Okay, go," I said. "At least I'm not covering up how children were sexually abused and I did nothing. Shame on you people. Go fuck yourselves."
*They didn't go to the police*
"Just wait, crazy Westerner, we'll go to the police this time! We promise!"
"Then go, but please tell me for what, as I don't know what I could have possibly done."
*They didn't go to the police*
This repeated itself about eight times with references to court documents, the "secret police", "defamation" and police reports. This guy was making threats to maim and/or kill me and others (even before we raised the sexual abuse topic), but whenever I said, "Hey, that's a bit ironic coming from someone who needs to sexually abuse pre-teens and teens to get a girl", his family did the whole autistic screeching thing about how good and kind their boy was/is.
Eventually, after they said again they'd "filed" a police report, I called the non-emergency line to the local station and asked, knowing what answer I would probably receive, where this report was. Of course, no police report and the cops interviewed me about the sexual abuse stuff from the past because they were curious. They've asked me to present more information in written form in the future.
The end result has been that dozens of people now know about this whole incident. The dumbass making the threats deleted or hid his social media profiles. His family members, some of them, stopped talking with him.
I recall a few times we would hear stuff from people about how this guy wanted to stab me, blah blah blah. So we called his house and, naturally, his mother and sister answered for him, refusing to put him on the phone. Then he'd make another threat online, we'd call back and his mother and/or sister would answer again.
He's sent emails threatening to kill or maim me, or written to others, but he's never texted or called me.
I and family members of the other people he has threatened (mostly female friends of mine) have offered multiple times to meet with him. No response.
If I had no investment in this area of Eastern Europe, we wouldn't have engaged him. But I'm not relocating or shying away because a guy who went around grabbing girls by the pussy in a criminal sense wants to ironically white-knight.
I fully admit to thinking of these people, the ones doing the bitching or other crap, as peasants. They screech whenever I'm gone but they're silent when I return. I know I am meant to be the polite ex-boyfriend according to Western or Eastern Europe customs but I'm not doing it.
I have to say that I find it hilarious that this guy makes threats and then has panic attacks from what his neighbors tell me when his past boomerangs back to him.