[realologist]

Cut off contact immediately and read this thread.

[Mercenary]

(02-10-2017 06:00 AM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:  

(02-10-2017 03:57 AM)Mercenary Wrote:  

OP, it would help if you gave us a few more details such as how long you were together, why you split up, if she cheated on you, what exactly you miss about her (meaning do you miss the sex or the girl's personality), and if deep down you are the one that wanted to get her pregnant.

Why would any of this matter?

They separated for a reason, and he has no business ever to get back in touch with her, let alone taking care of her beta buck attempt.

The very fact that she is trying to use him as a parachute for her bad decision making should be more red flags than at a Soviet Red Army parade.

Even if she did warrant some sympathy from him, she all lost it with her current intention.

Yes, in some situation next is the only option. It sure was the option that guy who banged her opted for.

OP has only posted once in his own thread with very vague information.
If he wants useful advice on how to change his mindset then i need to know more of what's causing it.
Simply telling a guy to "next" a girl and fuck someone else isn't going to help him if he caused some of the problems he now has by beta behaviour, and then carries those convictions into future relationships possibly causing then to happen all over again with another girl.


Edit:
OP - is this the same girl that you started that thread about back in November asking what was a good christmas gift to buy for an ex ?

thread-59516.html

If yes, then obviously you need to figure out why you got what seems to be classical oneitis for this girl.

[realologist]

(02-10-2017 06:59 AM)Mercenary Wrote:  

(02-10-2017 06:00 AM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:  

(02-10-2017 03:57 AM)Mercenary Wrote:  

OP, it would help if you gave us a few more details such as how long you were together, why you split up, if she cheated on you, what exactly you miss about her (meaning do you miss the sex or the girl's personality), and if deep down you are the one that wanted to get her pregnant.

Why would any of this matter?

They separated for a reason, and he has no business ever to get back in touch with her, let alone taking care of her beta buck attempt.

The very fact that she is trying to use him as a parachute for her bad decision making should be more red flags than at a Soviet Red Army parade.

Even if she did warrant some sympathy from him, she all lost it with her current intention.

Yes, in some situation next is the only option. It sure was the option that guy who banged her opted for.

OP has only posted once in his own thread with very vague information.
If he wants useful advice on how to change his mindset then i need to know more of what's causing it.
Simply telling a guy to "next" a girl and fuck someone else isn't going to help him if he caused some of the problems he now has by beta behaviour, and then carries those convictions into future relationships possibly causing then to happen all over again with another girl.


Edit:
OP - is this the same girl that you started that thread about back in November asking what was a good christmas gift to buy for an ex ?

thread-59516.html

If yes, then obviously you need to figure out why you got what seems to be classical oneitis for this girl.

How does reaching out to an ex help him recognize HIS OWN beta behavior? He probably knows exactly what he did wrong. And are you ignoring her behavior.

She got pregnant by another guy and came crawling back. Where was this bitch before she was pregnant. Fucking and sucking another guy that pumped her full of a 20 year commitment. Beta bux gets tossed around too much on this forum but that is a clear cut example.

This woman will not be good for a relationship. She will be an emotional, physical and mental drain that is nowhere near worth what she could provide. Which is most likely her pussy since she can't even lock down a guy that got her pregnant.

No contact is the clear cut answer here. Anything else is a bad decision.

[Vill@in]

OP- your ex made her decision now she gets to live with the consequences. It's not your problem.

You said you still have feelings for her and chances are she KNOWS this too and is using them as a means to an end (having a father figure for her child). Don't let her use you for her fuck up. If she cared enough for you in the first place she would not have fucked this other dude, let alone let him blow his load inside her.

Time Heals All Wounds. Today will hurt you a little less than yesterday, and tomorrow will hurt less than today. And so on.

And, always remember: Abundance Mentality. There are BILLIONS of women out there. Billions.

[Nordwand]

I'm worried that you've even come here for advice on such a clear cut situation - there isn't a decision to make. None of it is your problem - do not get involved at all.

[samsamsam]

(02-10-2017 06:00 AM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:  

(02-10-2017 03:57 AM)Mercenary Wrote:  

OP, it would help if you gave us a few more details such as how long you were together, why you split up, if she cheated on you, what exactly you miss about her (meaning do you miss the sex or the girl's personality), and if deep down you are the one that wanted to get her pregnant.

Why would any of this matter?

They separated for a reason, and he has no business ever to get back in touch with her, let alone taking care of her beta buck attempt.

The very fact that she is trying to use him as a parachute for her bad decision making should be more red flags than at a Soviet Red Army parade.

Even if she did warrant some sympathy from him, she all lost it with her current intention.

Yes, in some situation next is the only option. It sure was the option that guy who banged her opted for.

There is the immediate treatment - which everyone is saying cut her off.

But then there is the root problem. What about the OP (no disrespect meant here) that made him feel the need to post about it. In other words, it is a one off situation. Or is it a theme within him (not talking about a soft spot for pregnant girls).

Issues in our lives are sometimes like icebergs. You see what is above water. But you don't see what is below the surface.

To really help the OP, if he wants it, more info would be needed to get underneath it.

To simplify in closing. Doctor sets your arm in a cast because you broke your arm. That is the immediate cure. The "cut off contact" part. But then the doctor starts asking questions and discovers you just like to do stupid shit and jump off buildings onto the pavement. Now the doctor can try and help you get over that. I think that was what Mercenary was trying to get at.

Our society is too much of the tell me how to do xyz. Many don't want to figure out the internal mechanics of our lives. Not saying this about the OP. Just in general. That is why when someone maybe asks questions about internal mechanics people don't get why you would want to ask. But everything is driven by the internal stuff. It is the originator of your actions and reactions.

[Deepdiver]

When they prove to you they are an All American SLUT then your self respect commands you NEXT her...

Happened to me 4 times over the years with LTRs I had feelings for when they went full SLUT retard they were all NEXTed and I have never been forced to pay one penny in alimony or child support...

Who ever wins this reverse Dumb assed Baby Daddy DNA lottery for the NEXT 24 years ... at $10K per year equals One Quarter of a Million dollars... no wonder she wants you to volunteer to do her heavy SLUT assed lifting... do not be that guy. Think what you can do for yourself with a quarter million instead.

[heavy]

She'll be a lot happier as she gets older now that she has a kid.

So...good for her. I'd rather see this type of "u go grl" than the sex in the city "u go grl"

[PapayaTapper]

(02-10-2017 09:00 AM)realologist Wrote:  

(02-10-2017 06:59 AM)Mercenary Wrote:  

(02-10-2017 06:00 AM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:  

(02-10-2017 03:57 AM)Mercenary Wrote:  

OP, it would help if you gave us a few more details such as how long you were together, why you split up, if she cheated on you, what exactly you miss about her (meaning do you miss the sex or the girl's personality), and if deep down you are the one that wanted to get her pregnant.

Why would any of this matter?

They separated for a reason, and he has no business ever to get back in touch with her, let alone taking care of her beta buck attempt.

The very fact that she is trying to use him as a parachute for her bad decision making should be more red flags than at a Soviet Red Army parade.

Even if she did warrant some sympathy from him, she all lost it with her current intention.

Yes, in some situation next is the only option. It sure was the option that guy who banged her opted for.

OP has only posted once in his own thread with very vague information.
If he wants useful advice on how to change his mindset then i need to know more of what's causing it.
Simply telling a guy to "next" a girl and fuck someone else isn't going to help him if he caused some of the problems he now has by beta behaviour, and then carries those convictions into future relationships possibly causing then to happen all over again with another girl.


Edit:
OP - is this the same girl that you started that thread about back in November asking what was a good christmas gift to buy for an ex ?

thread-59516.html

If yes, then obviously you need to figure out why you got what seems to be classical oneitis for this girl.

How does reaching out to an ex help him recognize HIS OWN beta behavior? He probably knows exactly what he did wrong. And are you ignoring her behavior.

She got pregnant by another guy and came crawling back. Where was this bitch before she was pregnant. Fucking and sucking another guy that pumped her full of a 20 year commitment. Beta bux gets tossed around too much on this forum but that is a clear cut example.

This woman will not be good for a relationship. She will be an emotional, physical and mental drain that is nowhere near worth what she could provide. Which is most likely her pussy since she can't even lock down a guy that got her pregnant.

No contact is the clear cut answer here. Anything else is a bad decision.

I believe Mercenary is suggesting that getting to the root of the problem (via more detail from OP) would aid in our analysis and therefore ability to share more effective advice on how to move on from this girl...not stay with her

[Rocha]

Her getting pregnant by another guy should be the ultimate blow to the OP oneitis...

OP, take some vacations as soon as possible and go to some pussy paadise, ie. Ukraine, Brazil, Thailand etc... Run Forrest run.

[Dalaran1991]

There are problems that warrant proper discussion and sharing of details, understanding of deeper issues etc. And this forum is very well equipped and willing to deal with that.

This problem of the OP however, doesnt benefit from any analysis whatsoever. It is pure and simple oneitis.

Anyone who actually understands a oneitis will realize that there's no talking rational sense into a guy with oneitis. There's a reason people call this "under a spell". To cure a oneitis you dont need a support group of battle hardened RVF who sit you down and give you lectures because your head aint working properly and none of the advice would fall through.

To get through oneitis, you need some good buddies who know whats good for you, take your phone and delete the bitch number and block it, then get you out parties and approaching hoes. If you weren't capable of doing it yourself, that's it.

A oneitis can last a fucking long time (mine lasted 2 years) and will destroy your soul. There's no soft curing it or talking sense into it cuz your nigga is gone under that bitch's spell. You cure it by living your life and bang lotta other bitches, after which you realize the hell I was stuck with this one.

I'm saying all this because I wished someone did this to me when I was under a spell. And I wasn't at risk of being dragged into wasting resources on some man's trash. If anybody is in the OP area, please come beating some sense into him and get him out drinking and whoring. Dont let the guy ruin his life.

[The Beast1]

(02-09-2017 09:03 PM)Leonard D Neubache Wrote:  

For shame!

Knowest not mine dogs that the son of the Lord, Jesus, was illegitimate?

How wouldst have Christendom fared had Joseph nexted Mary?

Unless Gabrial comes to the OP in a dream and tells him to marry her I think we can safely assume she's bad news.


My advice to the OP:

[TTQQTT]

OR you could be an asshole and troll her. Say you'll met up with her somewhere and then never show up...
Even if you still have feelings for this dumb broad how can you give in when she showed you that much disrespect?

[Kid Twist]

I'm very pleased that every time I read these (if real) I get gut wrenched for that guy writing it

That means I'd puke or be so pissed I couldn't even bother with some slut like that

As many here often say, bitch did you a favor

Move on.

[wi30]

The fact that you're using the term "fuck boy" tells more about your mindset than the rest of the post. The only people who use that term are sluts who repeatedly get pumped and dumped and have to run Olympic level mental gymnastics to rationalize why guys don't want to date them. I've never heard a girl who is more than a cum depository utter that phrase.

You should work harder at being a "fuck boy" and worry less about your slutty ex. Move on man.

[greekgod]

She had no sympathy or interest in you when he was raw dogging her from the back. Pump, pump, pump...Moan, moan, moan...No thought of you bud.

"Cum inside me baby"

You where nowhere in the picture.

Return the favor and remove her from your mental landscape.

It's OK to hurt, it's not right to compound that hurt with an emotionally wounded, rash decision.

3 billion women, one life to live.

[Rawmeo]

(02-10-2017 12:50 PM)greekgod Wrote:  

She had no sympathy or interest in you when he was raw dogging her from the back. Pump, pump, pump...Moan, moan, moan...No thought of you bud.

"Cum inside me baby"

You where nowhere in the picture.

Return the favor and remove her from your mental landscape.

It's OK to hurt, it's not right to compound that hurt with an emotionally wounded, rash decision.

3 billion women, one life to live.

Well said.

I noticed that we're seeing a few threads lately by reputable members asking for advice on trivial matter - OP, you're a member with a high reputation here, so the fact that you made this thread indicates that you are really hurt by what she did. That's okay, but the best thing to do is still to use logic as well - you were nowhere in her mind when she got pregnant by that fuck boy, so she deserves to be alone forever.

She did you a favor by doing that now, because it would have happened sooner or later. Take this as your cue to make your way out while it's still time.

Suppose that you take her back. You'll spend your life raising the kid of the fuckboy who she cheated on you with. Everyday, this guy (it's his offspring, but represents him) will wake you up, and you'll take care of the guy who was fucking her before. Come on, it makes absolutely no sense to have anything to do with her.

The thing to do: Text her "I will not raise a kid that is not mine. Goodbye" and never, ever, look back. Disappear. Run. Leave the bitch.

Real men don't date single moms.

[blck]

(02-09-2017 08:00 PM)JoyStick Wrote:  

My ex got pregnant by some fuck boy and she's keeping the kid. [...] because I have feelings for her still. Now she's trying to get back with me.

Interesting, in your place I would fuck her by every holes she got and when the time comes to raise that bastard kid I would be like...

"Me Raising your kid?!"



She is playing with you so you play with her and Fuck her émotions up badly...

[John Michael Kane]

Best to avoid her instead of interacting with her, especially seeing the OPs own emotions aren't straight on this issue. The best Revenge is a life well lived. This girl doesn't merit any more of his time or energy. Playing games with her is fruitless and pointless.

[JoyStick]

Thanks guys. I wasn't planning on getting back with her but it's very good to hear it from you guys so bluntly to help drill it in my brain.

I came and vent out on here because I know how bad it looks on me and I don't want to look like a little bitch in real life. Thanks for not judging me.

I let her stayed over last night. We didn't fuck. We just chilled and watched netflix. It felt good laying next to her but it didn't feel the same as it used too. I can't help but feel like a back up plan now.

I'm going to roll up and smoke a blunt. And then I'm going to write her back and tell her I don't want to see her anymore.

Thanks y'all for your inputs

[Rocha]

(02-10-2017 01:54 PM)JoyStick Wrote:  

Thanks guys. I wasn't planning on getting back with her but it's very good to hear it from you guys so bluntly to help drill it in my brain.

I came and vent out on here because I know how bad it looks on me and I don't want to look like a little bitch in real life. Thanks for not judging me.

I let her stayed over last night. We didn't fuck. We just chilled and watched netflix. It felt good laying next to her but it didn't feel the same as it used too. I can't help but feel like a back up plan now.

I'm going to roll up and smoke a blunt. And then I'm going to write her back and tell her I don't want to see her anymore.

Thanks y'all for your inputs

Pick up the wave and tell also the blunt that you don't want to see her anymore.

[Mercenary]

You guys are making a LOT of suppositions with almost ZERO information.
OP's first post is 5 sentences long with barely any info.


Yet back in November 2016 OP wrote this on another thread he started.

(11-27-2016 02:09 AM)JoyStick Wrote:  

I care for this girl still.
She was a good one and I was a dick to her and she got fed up and moved on.

Now, I don't know if this is the same chick that got pregnant, and I don't usually side with the girl a priori, but it seems to me here that OP is not giving us the whole story and is not entirely free of fault here. I smell possible remorse for dumb behaviour that he himself did.

Until we have more info, useful advice that can really help his mindset now is limited.

[samsamsam]

(02-10-2017 12:50 PM)greekgod Wrote:  

3 billion women, one life to live.

Such a great title for a tv show or pua type blog or something along those lines.

3bwonelifetolive.com

Is available.

[JoyStick]

I never said I was free of fault, but this isn't remorse. Honestly she told me how badly her baby daddy treated her and I treated her great in comparison. I'm just bummed out about the situation and wanted to vent.

[Sensei Creation]

OP can you give us more info as to how this actually came about ? Did she cheat on you ? Did you let her go and them change your mind ?