While I can't say I'm "new" to the game, I can definitely say I'm still inexperienced. I'm twenty-one, and first got into pickup when I was nineteen. However, for the past two years, I've been so occupied with college related work that I haven't been able to put in any quality time into developing my pickup skills. I would have semesters with 24 credits worth of classes along with multiple extracurriculars to manage, and I would also try my best to have some semblance of a social life on top of it.
Nevertheless, I managed to develop a solid enough baseline of confidence. I no longer suffer from social anxiety or depression, which I used to be medicated for, and I credit a large part of my conquest of those two hurdles to pickup. I still remember my first ever approach. It was in a nearby public library, with this Korean woman who wore a hoody. She was probably quite a bit older than I was. It didn't go anywhere, and felt more than a bit awkward, but it boosted my confidence tremendously. My few initial successes soon led me to become one of the most confident people on campus. I figured that if I was able to muster up the courage to overcome the stigma against chatting up strangers in NYC, much less flirting with women amidst the unfriendly cultural atmosphere set up by 2010s feminism, everything else felt much easier.
My college was pretty antisocial. I soon became a student who professors loved because he'd be willing to speak up in class without hesitance. I soon became the guy my male peers would admire because of the simple fact that I could go up to anyone and talk to them without trouble. Making girls laugh and smile became something that happened even when I wasn't trying one iota. I was at the center of one of the only functioning social circles on campus. I've definitely progressed significantly from being the perpetually quiet, weird kid in high school, who everyone was nice to because they didn't want to be a target in a hypothetical school shooting scenario.
However, I still haven't gotten laid or gotten into a relationship. This doesn't really bother me, given the fact that I went to a school where I simply wasn't physically attracted to 99% of the women (I'm into White or Asian American girls who are at least middle class; my school was a community college filled with working class hispanics/blacks/fresh-of-the-boat Asians). I did my best with the 1% I was attracted to, although that 1% was mostly filled with girls who would be ruled out due to issues not related to physical attractiveness -- some who had severe personality flaws, some who had religious differences, some who were already in a serious relationship, some who I couldn't engage with often enough because of poor logistics / general busy-ness.
I graduated recently (Associates Degree, GPA of 3.9, Pre-Engineering major), and have so much more free time to myself, which makes me really eager to apply my capacity for hard work into pickup. I'm taking a gap year of sorts, because there are a variety of things I feel I need to get sorted out before I finish undergrad.
When it comes to pickup, the most relevant things I'm working on include lifting, improving my fashion (still look like a high schooler in many respects), text game, and honing my skill at cold approaches. My experience so far has entirely consisted of daygame. Soon enough, I'll be taking my first forays into night game.
I'm making this thread to keep a log of my experiences, so that experienced users can give me helpful advice. Inexperienced users can also read through this to learn from my mistakes and successes. Also, when I inevitably get much better years down the line, I'll have a record I can look back to and entertain myself with.
Let's get started!
Nevertheless, I managed to develop a solid enough baseline of confidence. I no longer suffer from social anxiety or depression, which I used to be medicated for, and I credit a large part of my conquest of those two hurdles to pickup. I still remember my first ever approach. It was in a nearby public library, with this Korean woman who wore a hoody. She was probably quite a bit older than I was. It didn't go anywhere, and felt more than a bit awkward, but it boosted my confidence tremendously. My few initial successes soon led me to become one of the most confident people on campus. I figured that if I was able to muster up the courage to overcome the stigma against chatting up strangers in NYC, much less flirting with women amidst the unfriendly cultural atmosphere set up by 2010s feminism, everything else felt much easier.
My college was pretty antisocial. I soon became a student who professors loved because he'd be willing to speak up in class without hesitance. I soon became the guy my male peers would admire because of the simple fact that I could go up to anyone and talk to them without trouble. Making girls laugh and smile became something that happened even when I wasn't trying one iota. I was at the center of one of the only functioning social circles on campus. I've definitely progressed significantly from being the perpetually quiet, weird kid in high school, who everyone was nice to because they didn't want to be a target in a hypothetical school shooting scenario.
However, I still haven't gotten laid or gotten into a relationship. This doesn't really bother me, given the fact that I went to a school where I simply wasn't physically attracted to 99% of the women (I'm into White or Asian American girls who are at least middle class; my school was a community college filled with working class hispanics/blacks/fresh-of-the-boat Asians). I did my best with the 1% I was attracted to, although that 1% was mostly filled with girls who would be ruled out due to issues not related to physical attractiveness -- some who had severe personality flaws, some who had religious differences, some who were already in a serious relationship, some who I couldn't engage with often enough because of poor logistics / general busy-ness.
I graduated recently (Associates Degree, GPA of 3.9, Pre-Engineering major), and have so much more free time to myself, which makes me really eager to apply my capacity for hard work into pickup. I'm taking a gap year of sorts, because there are a variety of things I feel I need to get sorted out before I finish undergrad.
When it comes to pickup, the most relevant things I'm working on include lifting, improving my fashion (still look like a high schooler in many respects), text game, and honing my skill at cold approaches. My experience so far has entirely consisted of daygame. Soon enough, I'll be taking my first forays into night game.
I'm making this thread to keep a log of my experiences, so that experienced users can give me helpful advice. Inexperienced users can also read through this to learn from my mistakes and successes. Also, when I inevitably get much better years down the line, I'll have a record I can look back to and entertain myself with.
Let's get started!