OP —
I was in GDL in March. First timer, just like you. Spent a lot of time preparing for the trip, working on my Spanish, approaching girls direct on the street in the U.S. because I knew that's what I needed to do in Guadalajara. I made Spanish flash cards, started listening to Spanish radio, took a salsa dance refresher class...I really worked hard to prepare. I had some help from guys on this forum. And the hard work paid off.
I wrote
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Bang Mexico – 25 Lessons from a six day trip"
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Intel on good areas to game in the Guadalajara data sheet
Summary from my experience (written when I returned): I probably made close to fifty approaches in six days. Every single day, anywhere from three to ten approaches. But quality approaches matter, not quantity. Amazingly, went on five insta-dates in the first four days I was there. I had never been on an insta-date in my life before. I hooked up with a girl every single night I was there. Six days in a row I hooked up with at least one girl. Incredible. I’m lucky in the U.S. if I can hook up with two girls a month, so to have hooked up with eight girls in six days is incredible. Also making roughly fifty approaches, and to make solid approaches that lead to insta-dates was also amazing in such a short time.
When you’re only focused on meeting women, and have no other obligations or responsibilities in the world, it’s amazing what you can accomplish.
You must prepare, you must know what to say you must know how to build attraction when she gives you signs of interest, you must keep pushing the interaction as far as you can. Take the game seriously.
Banged one girl on Thursday. Almost banged another girl Saturday early evening. We met Wednesday night where we kissed at a club go on a date with me on Saturday in the evening and brought her back to my place where she was totally naked except for her underwear and I couldn’t get past the LMR.
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One caveat: your success will not be how much Spanish you know or the venues you visit. Rather, it's your game. Can you excite a woman in conversation? How interesting are you? Can you cold approach a woman on the street? If the answers are not really, you'll have to work on this.
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Finally, when I got back to the States, I wrote a detailed account of every single day that trip. It was eight pages or so. Even though I wrote it all down, I never published any of it.
So I thought I'd share this one excerpt, from my very first day in Guadalajara:
I got off the bus around 4 pm near the main Cathedral in Guadalajara. I start walking to the hostel, which is about a mile from the Cathedral. As soon as I get off the bus, I see this cute girl with brown shoulder length hair walking just in front of me. I follow her for a couple blocks as she’s walking in the same direction I am, but I never approach her. Not even to ask for directions to the hostel or anything.
I finally get to the hostel. It’s about 5:30 pm, so I have a quick snack, glance through my Spanish flash cards, and go right back to the street in Centro.
It’s rush hour, so a lot of people are lining up to get on buses. I miss a lot of opportunities to approach, there’s at least six or seven women I pass by that I just can’t get the courage to approach. Centro is a busy downtown area with lots of small shops and busy streets. It was just difficult for me to approach. Anyway as I’m walking around, it’s probably about 7 pm now, there’s a girl who passes by. I take a closer look and see—it’s the same girl from the afternoon. What are the odds? Yet once again I fail to approach!
So the first afternoon was about three hours of walking aimlessly in two sections of the city and failing to make a single approach.
There are very few places to eat in Centro, so not knowing any better, I walk towards El Escarabajo Scratch, a bar mentioned on the forum, thinking maybe I can find a place to eat dinner there. There are a few little taco stops on a little cobblestone street without cars and most of the tables outside on the street. I eat some tacos alone, and then get up to leave. I spot three girls sitting outside on a table, and I walk by and just fail to approach again. I’m kicking myself.
With all this failure in my head, I resolve to go to Chapultapec, for the first time, and approach there. Change the venue and maybe I’ll be better off. I take a taxi there and start walking up and down the street. There are three girls walking ahead of me, one really cute blond and two other girls. Some group of guys whistles at them as they walk by, and then the guys laugh among themselves. I tell myself— “I’m no better than these guys if I just follow them without approaching them - I have to do something.” So I tap one of the girls and ask them “It’s my first time in Guadalajara, and I’m wondering what are some interesting bars here?” They tell me a few places, and even though I’ve stopped them just before they cross the street, they don’t cross even after the light changes. I’m able to continue a conversation. I tell them “Where I’m from…” and talk about New York for a bit. But after a minute or two, I sense I’m losing them and I let them go on their way. I wasn’t exactly sure how to build attraction.
I cross the street with them, and I see another girl, wearing a white top and a jeans jacket, very cute, walking by herself. I speed up to catch up with her, and then she stops, about to cross a street and I know I must approach her here. So I tell her “Te vi caminando…y queria decirte…que en los ultimos cincos minutos…eres la mas bella chica…que he visto.” It works. We start chatting and I go into my lines about New York and Guadalajara. “It’s my first time in Mexico”. After a few minutes I say “I’m on my walk to get a drink somewhere, would you like to come with me?” She agrees.
We went to Bananas, we talked for just under an hour, and then left. We were standing on the sidewalk of Chapu and I just went for the kiss. She was receptive. After we kissed a couple times I said, “Why don’t we hang out at my place, just for an hour...no more” to which she responded “At your place?” I could tell she was considering it, but was a little nervous. I wasn’t able to convince her and so I resigned myself to the next best thing—making plans to meet her again the following night. Chapu is a boulevard and there’s a median section. There’s a sculpture of a heart in the middle and she said we should meet right there, at the heart, tomorrow night at 8. I got her number, and she saw her bus come and hopped on. I started to walk home, her bus passed by me and she waved at me excitedly from the window of the bus.
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I went on a date a mere four hours after I got to the city and I almost pulled the very first girl I seriously approached back to my bedroom. That was amazing compared to the States. But I think I needed to feel the failure of walking aimlessly for three hours in two neighborhoods, passing by sets and failing to approach so I could really push myself to make at least one genuine approach before the night was over. Going from the lows of failure to the highs of going on an insta-date was amazing. I’d never been on an insta-date in my life, and to make out with her right after the date was also awesome. And to almost pull her! What a huge boost to confidence.