Thanks to everyone for your thoughts. Here are some responses:
Vacancier Permanent: “How good is your German if you're so keen on going to Teutonsland?”
non-existent.
Akwesi: “[As] Asian guy I think you have to be far more of a cocky asshole.”
Yes, this has worked for me. It doesn’t come naturally though. I don’t particularly like it. It feels artificial.
I also have a pair of Asian guy friends who it works for. It comes more naturally for them, and they do a lot better, though they’re mostly into Asian girls. Also, when I observe them, they come off as empty blowhards. For some reason, the chicks seem to eat it up though. Do I have to become a blowhard as well?
This might be another reason why Germany appeals to me. I was able to display value without doing the loud boastful thing.
“Also, check out Buddha's threads on living in Europe if you haven't already.”
I don’t think I’m playing the same game as Buddha. He’s a lot taller and younger. His laid back game is similar to mine though.
BDawg: “Agree that Germany will be less romantic than where you are now.”
Really? Maybe New York has lost its sheen for me after being here for so long.
About the picture you posted, I’d say I have some resemblance to the shorter guy, but not as dandyish — I’d say I have a more rugged aspect.
Sigma: “I don't want to come off as a dick but I don't understand the "can't close because of nice guy issues", nice guys don't like sex??”
Oh sure, all guys like sex. It’s just that my desire to be polite often subverts my attempts to get sex. It’s not something I’m proud of.
Courage Reborn: “>> I have decent clothes, but no fancy watches or cars. I'm wondering if I have to start spending on those things to get the kind of women I'm seeking.
If this thought is crossing your mind, then your game still needs a lot more work.”
This is helpful input. One the reasons I’ve done so (relatively) well financially is because I haven’t spent foolishly to impress strangers. If that’s what it takes to get more strange, getting more strange may be something I can do without. Or at least I know what it costs to get what I want.
I’ve never been convinced that it works to spend to impress strangers. I’ve come here in part to hear why I should.
djk100: “Why not chase tourist girls fro Europe visiting NYC”
Yes, this has crossed my mind. I’m not looking for a long-term stuff anyway. If I plan to stay in NYC, this might be the best strategy.
Bad Hussar: “you should at least appear to be open to dating women of your own race…”
Advice appreciated. Yes, I’m pretty open to all races, and have counted all shades of the rainbow as my partners. I know better than to badmouth anyone. White girls have been more challenging though, and I like a challenge.
WestIndianArchie: “Notice he doesn't talk about his game at all.”
Yup. I don’t have the greatest game.
offthereservation: “You want a 9 who worships the ground you walk on? .. see what kind of girls are attracted to that VS a boring bank balance”
Yeah, I agree. I’m far from this paradigm though. I work in a creative field already and do interesting things with my money. I don’t want one worshipful 9, I’d rather have a half-dozen rotating 6 and 7s.
jimukr104: “I don't get it. Having a million in NYC isn't much.”
YES. I know I’m accomplished relative to the rest of the world but in NYC, I’m not particularly distinguished.
“Point in case, we ALWAYS hear how NYC is a Pussy Paradise" from outsiders, but most of us REAL natives don't think so.”
Agreed.
Kabal: “Northeast United States is among the most difficult places in the world for Asian men.”
This has been my personal experience as well.
DarkTriad: “I'm surprised the OP listed "more racism" as a problem in Germany.”
Trust me, it is. There is societal racism in Europe that we don’t see in the States. Here’s an example of the kind of ignorance you see there that you wouldn’t see in the U.S.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/post...-new-book/
“Even if other aspects of racism are worse, dumping the asexual Asian nerd stigma of America could be a huge plus.”
Agreed.
Orson: "any clue to which region may be your best fit, yet? Or is this variable simple one on your horizon?"
No, but I'm surprised to hear Bavarians characterized as carefree. I was told southern Germany is a bit like the American Bible Belt.
lowbudgetballer: "if you can afford to live there, NYC can't really be outdone--pizza and delis, models, culture."
Hm. I just got back from a trip to Northern California, and while everyone says the situation there is tougher than NYC -- more guys than girls, less feminine aesthetic -- I had a great time. Sure, I saw a huge number of guys on man-dates, it was like a prison colony, but the women who I approached were super-friendly. There may be more guys, but maybe they're shy, unfriendly engineers? Plus, I liked the outdoorsy-type blondes out there. Came back to NYC and saw a lot of overweight and dark hair.
rottenapple: You are hilarious.
worldtraveler3: Thanks!
Dantes: "What city are you considering in Germany?" Not sure. I like Berlin a lot for its parks and culture. I like Frankfurt too, it feels like a smaller version of NYC, complete with skyscrapers and grit and a great airport, but easy access to the countryside.
FINALLY, a lot of people have questioned with my idea of not going to a less economically developed country such as Poland and leveraging my wealth. Someone said I earned it, it’s a part of me, tall guys and good-looking guys use their own advantages, so why shouldn’t I?
These are good points, but I’d answer that wealth is the most fungible of these advantages. It's the most easily quantifiable and compared. Unlike height or looks, it can disappear the most quickly.
If a woman is with me for my money, she’s more likely to leave for the guy with more money than the woman who’s with the 6-foot tall guy to leave for the 6-foot-6 guy. Nor is a woman with a good-looking guy likely to leave for a better looking guy.
If I’m going to rely on money, and I want regular strange, why not just go consistently for P4P in a poorer part of the world? Each of us has a different desire for improvement and tolerance for challenge.
Also, attraction is not just physical. The fact that a lot of German girls can speak English and are educated appeals to me. I also find the no-nonsense disposition kind of sexy. I don't have to be a dancing monkey to catch their attention.
That said, I met some Polish girls from Warsaw recently when I was out for a run on my trip west, and yes, they were very attractive.
Thank you all for your thoughts. I know what makes me happy, but I wasn’t sure what price I would have to pay to achieve that. Talking about it here has helped a little.
