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A life change at 40 for the impossible?
#76

A life change at 40 for the impossible?

+1 to OP for bringing up interesting demographic quandary. THinking about his situation my ODC took hold-- a new acronym
Height
Ethnicity
Age
Lucre ( lol money)

I apologize.
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#77

A life change at 40 for the impossible?

Quote: (10-16-2015 04:16 AM)Bon Scott Wrote:  

[quote] (10-15-2015 11:18 PM)esalen1 Wrote:  

(08-10-2015, 12:01 PM)Aureole Wrote:  Why work? 1 million is enough to retire. Stop chasing money!

Now you have a ton of time. Make it happen!

Your issue that you need to get out of the rat race. It's eating up you time and energy.

yeah I reakon 1 million is a good figure

but what if he can n that into 1.5 or 2 million....

I would love to live in NYC

He should easily be able to run it up as long as he keep his expenses pretty low and is getting a good return on the cash.

Basic Assumption:

Let's say he averages 6-8% return per year, and spends 3-4%, then his money is growing at 3-4%.

Then if he wants, he can work part time if he wants to increase his lifestyle beyond that level. This means he needs to be able to get by on 30 TO 40 k per year, which should be pretty attainable if he's able to live anywhere he wants to. Living in NYC, it's probably not gonna work I'm guessing.
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#78

A life change at 40 for the impossible?

This topic is basically a summary of the messed up western society. A guy with a decent job who is in decent shape and worth over $1m not getting the high quality girls he deserves.

I'd say being worth 1 million dollars at the age of 40 is a very good accomplishment. You could easily retire in EE with that kind of net worth and live off the passive income. Asian guys actually do very well in EE. Never ever try to attract girls with fancy cars, fancy pads, they'll see you as a beta provider. Sure you could have a decent pad, fancy car while gaming girls but never use it as a main tool for getting them. Don't tell her you live in a fancy place of town, let her be surprised when she visits you, that way you'll be sure she didnt come back with you because she knew you were well off.
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#79

A life change at 40 for the impossible?

Quote: (10-15-2015 09:57 AM)Oz. Wrote:  

Quote: (10-15-2015 09:33 AM)worldtraveler3 Wrote:  

How would u obtain the 2k per month, with the saving interest?

Assuming op already has over 1M$ saved up, a year has 12 months 40 years is equivalent to 480 months at 2K$ that is 960K$ total. If he is already 40 I don't think he needs to add more than 40 years into the calculation

Actually he can buy commercial real estate, and live off the rental income while travelling. 1 million worth of Commercial real estate will easily net $4000/pm with minimal risk. He can buy a couple of them to diversify. All you need is a good property manager which I admit is hard to find.
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#80

A life change at 40 for the impossible?

Quote: (10-16-2015 02:41 PM)Turkish Republican Wrote:  

This topic is basically a summary of the messed up western society. A guy with a decent job who is in decent shape and worth over $1m not getting the high quality girls he deserves.

I'd say being worth 1 million dollars at the age of 40 is a very good accomplishment. You could easily retire in EE with that kind of net worth and live off the passive income. Asian guys actually do very well in EE. Never ever try to attract girls with fancy cars, fancy pads, they'll see you as a beta provider. Sure you could have a decent pad, fancy car while gaming girls but never use it as a main tool for getting them. Don't tell her you live in a fancy place of town, let her be surprised when she visits you, that way you'll be sure she didnt come back with you because she knew you were well off.

Asian guys do fine in plenty of places, it's as much a game thing in my experience as it is any inherent bias. I've known some Asian guys with hot girlfriends in Western Europe, it is all about mentality and being more forward. I can tell you, having lived in Asia for years, you can't bring your passive social circle game to the West and expect results,just like you can't bring your overly agressive macho game to Asia.

In any case, chasing the money game in places like New York or London is a losing proposition since there will always be someone richer. I know this because I myself also has a strong provider mindset and it can be difficult to get rid of. Despite that, I've had my best years being close to broke.

I think a lot of guys take pride in their money and career accomplishment, we see it as a high score you can brag about, similar to how you'd get props from guys for being good at poker or leading a fantasy sports league or something, but a girl could not care less.

The challenge for guys with strong provider genes is to find a way to express the part of their personality which made them successful, but in a more creative or artistic way which resonates with women.

If you're the kind of person who can be a millionaire at 40 then you likely also make good decisions, which should mean you are the kind of person friends come to for advice and you should be a natural leader through example. I'd look into doing more volunteer stuff, if in sports or some other organization, where he'd be able to take on a leader role = pussy incoming.
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#81

A life change at 40 for the impossible?

If you look at it from a personality point of view (MBTI), the success in business can happen to SJ type of people, but as we all know these are not as creative as NP types (intuitive). So SJ types can probably attract the same type (SJ) of girls, who look for material stuff (fancy cars, nice pad, etc), but its gonna be a hard time attracting the other types such as ENFP or INFPs.

Also I find that alot of the competitive people in finance/ sciences/ engineering etc, lack the F (feeling) factor, which is important with the girls which we want, with the correct F and values. Normally the T (thinking) type girls are more into logical thinking, and F are more womanly (if they got the correct values). So for LTR you would definitely want to have a F girl, and these types of girls are alot more difficult to attract if you are showing off with your fancy cars.

Asians tend to be less developed in E (extroversion) and F (feeling), due to the result of family pressures since young age urging them to pursue the hard sciences (math, physics, IT, medicine, etc), so only maybe until their later years they will develop those functions. Some of these professions are also heavily SJ dominated (e.g. doctor, lawyer). The younger girls in western societies are not really interested in your T (logical analytical mind) when they are at 20-25, (they would be more into parties and ONS). To improve this you would either need a strong impression of your personality, or have a ruthless 'never tiring' mindset for the numbers game, which alot of the Asians don't have.

SO even if you are 40 with a million dollar in the bank, its gonna be difficult to attract a 8-9 in the young crowd in a western society, especially i would assume you are not in their social circle that is made up of their age group mainly. It doesn't mean its impossible, but you would either need to change your approach a little or try the numbers game. I do agree that solely chasing money in cities like LD or NYC is a bad idea.
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#82

A life change at 40 for the impossible?

Quote: (10-14-2015 08:10 PM)Aureole Wrote:  

Staying in NYC for now. Europe is tough in the winter. I may change my mind once spring comes around again. Thanks for asking!

Since you seem to have a fixation on Germany: have you ever considered Amsterdam?

If you could get over the long winter, it could be a decent fit for you. I should preface this upfront – I only was there during the tourist months (summer time). I can only speak for the place and vibe for that particular time period. I imagine winter/colder months are significantly different.

Few random thoughts:

1. It’s a very multi-cultural place. I can’t see your ethnic/country background being an issue with dating. It won’t help you but it won’t hurt either. Coming from NYC, I’m guessing you will appreciate a very diverse place.

2. You mentioned you like first-world standards of living and Amsterdam is VERY first world. Clean, trams and trains, super easy access to main airport (like a 20 minute train ride IIRC), bike paths everywhere, low crime.

3. Most people speak fluent English. I started chatting with a girl in a grocery shop and asked if she was from the US since she had no accent. She was from Holland!

4. It’s a total contrast vibe wise from NYC. Canals, nature, short buildings, bikes everywhere vs being surrounded by dirty ass streets, claustrophobic, tall buildings, no nature, and over-crowded. Amsterdam feels like a very livable and healthy place. NYC (for me least) felt really unhealthy. The only real love I have for NYC is the sheer density and diversity of the place and how easy it is to bang a 6/7 compared to the rest of the US.

5. If P4P is your thing (you indicated you dabble a bit in the past), you are covered! Model looking women for super cheap. All legal and regulated. The Red Light District is surprisingly clean and un-seedy. I felt WAY safer there (or anywhere in Amsterdam for that matter) than any part of NYC.

6. There are some potential favorable tax advantages for skilled foreign workers:

“The 30% reimbursement ruling (better known as the 30% ruling) is a tax advantage for highly skilled migrants moving to the Netherlands for a specific employment role. When the necessary conditions are met, the employer can grant a tax free allowance equivalent to 30% of the gross salary subject to Dutch payroll tax."

http://www.iamsterdam.com/en/local/offic...ent-ruling

More cost of living stuff: http://www.expatarrivals.com/the-netherl...etherlands

7. Easy and relative quick access to Germany. From what I briefly looked up, you can get to all major German cities via train.
http://www.eurail.com/europe-by-train/hi...trains/ice
(look at map on page)

Personally if I had 1 million In the bank, was 40, and I was staying in the states, my ass would be going to Florida (probably Miami to live out my Gmanifesto lifestyle fantasies haha). Cheap real estate, good weather most of the year, no state income taxes, beaches, Latinas, international sluts from all over, and cheap quick flights to Central/South America. All your NYC friends will be dying to visit during the winter time as well.
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#83

A life change at 40 for the impossible?

I've inserted my comments marked >>>>> in between yours:

Quote: (08-10-2015 07:03 AM)Aureole Wrote:  

I'm thinking I might be able to start a life in academia in Germany with my advanced degrees, and having read here how proximity is half the battle, take my quest to the local colleges. I'm up for a change, and my industry may not have room for me much longer.
>>>>>> How about being a student there? Nowadays (esp. in Germany) it's not that unusual to be an older student.

I'm not too interested in other countries. No SEA if I'm looking for white girls.
>>>>>>> The world is bigger than Germany, but if that's where you wanna go,I say try it. But use he opportunity of being in Europe to visit oher places. The Berlin wall fell 26 years ago. You might be surprised that you can find malls, restaurants, and all the first world trappings in EE just as in Germany.

I like the social welfare, first world, advanced economy of Germany, so I'm less interested in the EE.
>>>> Social welfare must be paid for. As a German resident youll pay high taxes (as in most of W. Eur)

Scandinavia is a possibility, but the expense and the lack of diversity appeals to me less.
>>>>> Scandinavia varies by country. Sweden, Norway are very expensive; Denmark about as Germany. Lack of diversity? In terms of fitting in as an Asian? Plenty of dark-skinned refugees in Stokholm. Few Asians in most Europe as a whole.

The argument for NYC is that it's where my life is, and odds here are already supposed to be pretty good. There are a lot more women than men in the city. I understand changing locations won't help if you don't have game… and I know mine isn't 100%. I could stay and work on that.
>>>>>> "Game" in W. Eur ain't much easier (if at all) than in the US.

I know racism is worse in Europe, and odds might not be better.
>>>>>> Not sure it is worse, based on conversations with Europeans and observation. In any case, rarely directed at Asians who are welldressed and do notfit the profile ofVietnamese refugees, and such racism sin't endemic, though there are skinheads in the former East Germany.

After all, without knowing the local language, my pool of candidates is smaller.
>>>>> Younger people speak great English in German-speaking and Scaninavian-speaking ountries (less common in the Latin countries of Europe.) But that is one-on-one. Breaking into groups is difficult since they tend tospeak the local language, often slang-filled and with quite different pronunciation than the standard Hochdeutsch (High German) that is taught to foreigners and you see on German TV.

I might tire of the lack of diversity once I spend some time there. Their novelty as skinny white girls and my novelty as a newcomer might fade.

On the other hand, NYC seems to be an uphill battle for me. I'd have to battle several factors:
- American women are heavier than European women, thin ones are rarer, making targets rarer
>>>>> Unfortunately not limited to the US. Women get fatter as they age in W Eur, E Eur. About as prevalent as in the US.

- White women are top of the peeking order here, raising the hurdles more
>>>>>> Not sure that's the case. Lots of white men have "yellow fever" (attraction to Asians. Stuck up women ecist notonly in the US but Europe also.
- Age gaps are looked down upon here more (though I'm not against age-appropriate dating, it's just that post-40, most U.S. women look really busted)
- The U.S. aesthetic is huge and loud. I'm lean and cultured. Would I have to change this? I don't want to change this.
>>>>>>>> Don't change yourself. Unfortunately,there are a lot of loud bar-hopping women in Europe too.

Thoughts?

>>>>>>> Bottom line, I say try it out without burning bridges. My biggest regrets in life are not trying things out. Germany may or may not work out for you. Another country you visit may work. Or one city in Germany may not work, another might (big city, smaller, college town, North Germany, South Germany, Austria.) In any case you don't want todo nothing and 20 years regret not trying it. Just don't burn too many bridges, so if you come back to the US you have a good chance of getting a job, haven't sumped all your posessions etc.
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#84

A life change at 40 for the impossible?

update?
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#85

A life change at 40 for the impossible?

Not much to update, I'm afraid. Thanks for asking, though.

2016 was a rough year for a variety of reasons. Still in NYC, though.

I've been reading the EE threads and giving more thought to the EE suggestions earlier in this thread.
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#86

A life change at 40 for the impossible?

Man, you would slay 9's in Asia.

Almost anywhere in Asia!
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#87

A life change at 40 for the impossible?

I bet alot of your issues comes from confidence. Didn't read through the thread because it's a long read but your a millionaire and your fit. Whether your 5 foot tall or 6 foot tall shouldn't have an impact on the ladies you have. You have some money, travel a little bit and build your confidence up and the dimes should be coming.
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#88

A life change at 40 for the impossible?

If you want to easily improve your success rate with women, I would consider average height when moving to countries. Maybe Germany will work out but the average height for a males there is a lot higher than your height and the average for women is taller than you. In most settings you'll be the shortest male and will be shorter than most women.

Maybe that isn't a deal killer but I know that at 5'9" I get a lot more attention in Asia than I do in the US and Western Europe. Western Europeans are some of the tallest people on the planet.

You would probably do quite well in Taipei if you are into Chinese women. Lots of good looking ones in their mid-30's who would probably be interested in someone like you and they age well. On just 2.5 a month here you can live a plush lifestyle. Can't date a lot younger here though but it has most of the upscale amenities you could ask for in a city.

Also, have you thought of Budapest? It is a grand city, the women are nice looking, the average height for women is around your height (so you likely won't be shorter) and your money will allow you to live like a king there which, of course, helps with women.

On the other hand, maybe if you become a game master that will not be important.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_av..._worldwide
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#89

A life change at 40 for the impossible?

Quote: (12-29-2016 04:56 PM)Aureole Wrote:  

Not much to update, I'm afraid. Thanks for asking, though.

2016 was a rough year for a variety of reasons. Still in NYC, though.

I've been reading the EE threads and giving more thought to the EE suggestions earlier in this thread.

You should totally do it! Go to Poland. Polish girls are hella cute and they are very receptive Asians.
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#90

A life change at 40 for the impossible?

You could get that limb lengthening surgery in beijing. 3" for $25k. Takes a year or so to recover from what I've read.

5'7" is still short though but at least you'd be the same height as the average woman in NYC.
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#91

A life change at 40 for the impossible?

If you really want "beautiful women", your definately going to have to relocate to a 3rd world country with shorter people. That leaves you with 2 options either south east asia or latin america. I would go with latin america. You should definitely start learning spanish and look at colombia, mexico, and argentina. Safety is a concern but we all have to pay a price. The thing with "beautiful women" is there desired by all men including rich tall handsome intelligent charismatic and etc. Most men have a "cap" interms of the quality of women they can get. You can push it by living abroad but also gotta watch out for gold diggers. If your domain is 6s and 7s maybe abroad you get 7s and 8s.
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#92

A life change at 40 for the impossible?

If I had a $million net worth, I'd cash in my chips and move to Colombia. I'd buy a hostel in a small touristy town and hire some hot ass to run the place. Goddamn it, why did I major in some bullshit in college?
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#93

A life change at 40 for the impossible?

Quote: (08-10-2015 01:44 PM)Feldeinsamkeit Wrote:  

Have you not thought about relocating to the UK? The women there are the cream of the crop in Europe, bar none.

Say what?! I've heard nothing but horrible things about women in the UK on here and just about everywhere else on the web, and I've rarely seen a hot UK chic in my life despite being well traveled (Europe, Asia).

Very interested in hearing more about why your opinion is so different from the norm...what cities in the UK have you explored?

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A life change at 40 for the impossible?

Quote: (01-01-2017 12:21 PM)Travel Museums Wrote:  

You could get that limb lengthening surgery in beijing. 3" for $25k. Takes a year or so to recover from what I've read.

5'7" is still short though but at least you'd be the same height as the average woman in NYC.

I dunno man. I wouldn't trust such a life altering thing to a doc from China (no offense to anyone from China on here!). If you've got the cash and really want to do something this drastic, might as well pay whatever it costs and do it here in the US if you can. You only have one body, money you can always earn/win/steal back...

Anyway, OP, if you're still tracking this thread, I also live in NYC (Manhattan), I'm 5'7", Asian and I hook up with 7s and 8s here - Europeans/Russians/Asians/Blacks. White American chics are very rarely into me, although I've hooked up with a few of them as well.

It's definitely work, not gonna lie, but it can be done. Oh and OLD never works for me, it's all IRL game for me...

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