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03-23-2014, 05:32 PM
Some guys are motivated enough by these kinds of feelings to take massive action. Some aren't. I think you'll regret it if you don't take massive action and change your life. The good news is that when you try, any improvement or indeed any action will trigger a dopamine hit and you'll be happier than just sitting on the sidelines. I don't bang nines, but I don't experience those pangs you talk about (I did when I was an adolescent) because I have had nevertheless improved myself and had good experiences with attractive women.
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03-23-2014, 05:39 PM
I am a happy person - but I am also pessimistic as well.
Not sure if that is a contradiction in terms.
Maybe it is an English thing.
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03-23-2014, 06:10 PM
I don't really care for if the girl is stunning or not, if she make my dick hard, it's a go and fortunately the girls who can make my dick hard are often "8+". But then I understand everything comes to an end, her looks, sexual pleasure or any pleasure for that matter, my life so I enjoy everything as much as possible.
I saw a stunning girl yesterday, a Japanese girls know how to be sexy, my dick hard just by looking at her from afar but I didn't approach, I didn't beat myself over it, it just like missing the buses to me, you miss one you can get on another.
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03-23-2014, 07:19 PM
Definitely op, i made an exact post about this in the player log. I relate to these feels
It does bother me knowing i will probably never bang a 10 in my life. My SMV is just not high enough and no amount of game can change your looks or class.
Just today i saw a girl that i had a crush on in my beta days that i almost stole from her bf but ruined it by my betaness. She passed by me and said hello with a smirk on her face, you could tell her bf knew what's up. I had massive onetiis for her. Everytime i see this bitch she's with a new bf.
It still bothers me that i never got to see what that pussys like
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03-23-2014, 07:36 PM
Not depressed, but I do get pissed off if I see a stunner with a clearly alpha guy who is also clearly a dick - because while I'm working on my game it's not at a sufficient level to be able to game her in front of boyfriend (stunners with guys I like I'll leave alone out of respect for the brotherhood)
If you see a stunner but don't approach and escalate you can't blame anyone but yourself (it may be painful to hear that, but I have to tell myself this sometimes) If all you do is get depressed about it, it's only going to feed the cycle of self-doubt. That stunner should be privileged that they get to hang out and fuck you, not the other way around.
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03-23-2014, 07:47 PM
that just an anecdote, and I've banged other girls.
Cardguy's post is not about depression, he's not scared to approach, it about the fact that there are some things in life and women specifically that will always be unattainable due to situations out of your control, this frustrates cardguy because he feels like he should have more control over things. It's a reality of life, no amount of game can change reality. It's like putting some prized item you seek in front of you which is top shelf pussy but not allowing you to touch it. A god is cruel sort of thing. What's the point of this 10 existing if i will never fuck her.
Its the feeling when you see a girl you'd just like to fuck on the spot, but it's not possible.
DT sums these feels here
"But I’m still just as horny. I work in Venice now and it’s just hot young yoga pants ass everywhere like gnats. Rush to the office brushing past 19 year old yoginis with rippling panther buttocks in the street. Rolled mats in hand, earbuds in, walking slow– I see hot 19 year old pussy on the sidewalk and I’m like GOD DAMMIT GET OUT OF THE FUCKING WAY I’M LATE. But that flash of ass sticks with you. Your cruel stubborn balls still need to fuck when you can’t. Like pain from a phantom limb. You see those girls built like Michael Vick pit bulls, lean but with thighs and what Tennyson called a “weapons grade turdcutter”… you need that pussy. You can’t jerk it out of you. God is evil."
I hope he come in here and writes something.
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03-23-2014, 08:01 PM
I have the complete opposite reaction. When I see a truly stunning woman it makes my day better. I hate saying shit like that because it makes me sound like fucking Drake, but it's the truth. Seeing a woman that causes that weird feeling in my gut makes me feel good about little things, like what's available out there, the fact that I can still feel something like that after all the bullshit I've experienced with women, the fact that I even have vision to see any kind of beauty, knowing that if I go for it I can have that or something like it, appreciating little things like that. That reaction isn't only caused by beautiful women, shit I look up at the sky on beautiful days and get that, but seeing a beautiful girl is one of those things that spark that positive feeling for me. No homo.
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03-23-2014, 08:09 PM
@cardguy I can identify with you as I used to be like that. The root of the problem is being dependent on the outcome. But the key to becoming better with women or life in general is to be outcome independent. Why would a hot girl should be make you nervous from approaching? remember her hairy vagina stinks as much as the fat girl's. That's the mindset with which you should deal with hot girls.
what's the worst that could happen if you said hi to "george clooney"? yes there is less than 1% chance that mr. clooney will sleep with you but are you not going to explore that 1% chance? I'm usually unsatisfied and depressed about life when things go sour with woman Ive been in love with, who has taken care of me and who I've had memories with. But a random hottie is nothing more than a resource for your pleasure.
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03-23-2014, 08:38 PM
My answer to the OP's question is: no, and never will.
A woman's looks are just the ticket into my arena, but if she wants to get on the field, she has to have a lot more to offer to me than just how she looks.
You have to reframe how you view yourself and the world around you.
You are what they should be aspiring for, not the other way around.
You'll get there when you realize what it is exactly that you can do to add value to her life. You're a man, you don't need her for that, in fact you don't need her for most things, but you want her for most things.
That's one of the degrees of seperation between us men and them, they need us, we want them, if you can't see the power in that dynamic, then the game was lost a long time ago.
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03-23-2014, 09:01 PM
Yeah. Today. Stunning girl who works in a nearby store near my job made me feel this way. I looked at her and looked at my shaggy, work clothes and realized it was out of my hands to make a good impression when you're dressed in that manner ,but i stopped by there quick after work so i didn't get a chance to look my best. Kept bumping into her, increasing my anxiety even more and making me feel like you described above. The gods know how to mock us for sure. Definitely ruined my fucking day...
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03-23-2014, 09:28 PM
Kind of the opposite of Cardguy here. I know I'll never see her again so I don't hesitate to approach. At most I'll feel bad for a minute or two, but I've had some interesting stories about my random approaches to hot girls I see. One time I smoked an e-cigarette with a hot saleswoman who was selling them at the mall thanks to approaching(never went anywhere but it was fun)and I couldn't even afford one. Don't let it get you down if you can't do it either just make up for it some other time.
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03-23-2014, 09:57 PM
I don't post that much but I do read the forum a fair amount. To me Cardguy is just a KJ, he may agree with this as he hasn't exactly hidden it. He has said he has no luck with women and is only P4P, he made another thread about having zero motivation in life and I think he's also said he's fat. With this attitude you can't expect to get average women let alone beautiful women.
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03-23-2014, 10:25 PM
Did Jimi Hendrix have his first gig at Woodstock? NOPE
Dude's first musical experience was learning Elvis tunes on an abandoned ukulele that only had one string. One note at a time.
Giovanny had a great post a while back on never dismissing yourself from possible success and opportunities, probably the single most important post I ever read on the forum
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03-23-2014, 10:45 PM
Are you going to do something to change the situation you are in?
If not, there's no point in talking about it because you are not planning to take action.
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03-23-2014, 11:54 PM
Most things unattainable are depressing. But two important points to consider when depression is starting to creep up on you about this:
1). Approaching a guy for friendship out of the blue would be almost as "unattainable."
Try it. See a strange guy pass by and attempt to befriend him. I've had men do this and it spooked me. My guess is that you'd actually have a better shot getting the girl's number.
2). Circumstance makes women "unattainable."
When I did graphic design for a newspaper company in college the woman who sat next to me was a part-time model-turned-designer. She was really hot the first week. Then after I saw her again and again she became less hot, except on days she dressed up. Then she invited me out and insisted I eat this weird health food dinner (whole wheat spaghetti). I didn't make a play for her: I was dating someone, she was older, she was a co-worker...and her health food lectures began to drive me nuts. But her interest made me feel like I could have. So, she became another female friend (of many) I sort of flirted with.
But had I breezed by her at a mall, I'd probably have felt the wistfulness of seeing the "unattainable."
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03-24-2014, 12:35 AM
I get down when I see fatties.
Hot girls put me in a good mood.
Another thing that is bumming me out is the defeatism in this thread.
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03-24-2014, 01:30 AM
I know this may sound beta, but I can definitely relate to what the OP is saying.
However, personally, when I see a hot girl walk past I could not care less, because I know for a fact that there are PLENTY of exceptionally beautiful women out there.
I seem to feel that feeling of depression only when I see a really hot girl who happens to fit my personal ideal look. I think this is because I know that there aren't many of them out there, and deep down my brain is telling me that they're out of my league.