Gents, I'm a fan of Giovonny and his great contributions...but, I don't think it is wise to take this statement seriously "I love dating girls like this!....I seriously would go to a BPD support group meeting just to pick up chicks!"
This is really missing the whole point of a personality disorder versus a chemical imbalance or any otherwise fucked up chick that is in treatment. BPD 101 will tell you that they NEVER admit to having a problem. They will convince you that you have BPD before ever admitting they have an issue. Therapists rarely ever take on a BPD case for fear of manipulation and what they might do to their practice and livelihood. They often APPEAR very normal. They are VERY dangerous. They often blend into society as normal. To be painfully clear, you aren't going to find a group of borderlines sitting in circle at the local YMCA doing some type of 12-step program. This goes for any of the major personality disorders (i.e. borderline, narcissistic, histrionic, and sociopath).
Let's choose the sociopath for group therapy (same family as BPD):
- Sociopath: Hi, I'm John and I'm a sociopath.
- Group: Hi John! Welcome to the sociopath support group.
- Sociopath: Thanks, I'm glad to be in a group of like minded peopled.
- Group: Welcome. So, what brings you here today John?
- Sociopath: Well, during the day I seem like a normal person. I love my wife and kids. I love my dog. I mostly enjoy my job, even though it gets a little boring. But, I've been building a bomb and I plan to stash it in a building someday soon. Nobody would guess that this is my hobby, but, we all have our pastimes right? Anyway, I thought I'd meet up with you guys to check in on how my project is coming along...
Yes, fucking the chick that is a bi-polar (NOT BPD) that is on a bunch of meds may be a rush. Fucking a chick with a multiple personality disorder can be a rush. Both can probably be done with minimal collateral damage.
I can attest that fucking a chick with BPD can be mind blowing. I have a number of badges and I'm probably not in the normal camp and have plenty of stories that would probably even make delicoustacos interested. (side note: thanks for sharing the delicsoustacos post in this thread...one of the best posts I've read). But, being emotionally aloof is not enough. You truly have to know when to get the fuck out of dodge. You have to have a sixth sense that some wicked shit is coming down the pike, and you can't out-craft, out-smart, or out-wit a borderline. Like a jack rabbit that smells a forest fire.
Concrete example: I'm pretty much convinced the Soviet was a BPD. She threw off a ton of red flags (big ones), but never did anything harmful to me. I almost convinced myself that I'd simply enjoy an amazing date and incredible sex once per week for the long haul. And then she hinted (followed by a revelation) that she is tied in with some very serious people (not friendly people). I wanted to just brush it off as "so what". Because I'm 99% sure she is BPD, I have to take my gut concern seriously that there is a risk that one day she says I harmed her in some way, and that it could have serious repercussions. I could keep going back, and may get away with it for a while. But, when you keep going back to see a borderline there will be a day that things go sour. And when they do, it is more like hitting a trip wire than simply realizing in your detached emotional state that you need to slip out the back door. You have to slip out the back door before you get ensnared in a web of bullshit that can put your life on a drastically different course.
This is really missing the whole point of a personality disorder versus a chemical imbalance or any otherwise fucked up chick that is in treatment. BPD 101 will tell you that they NEVER admit to having a problem. They will convince you that you have BPD before ever admitting they have an issue. Therapists rarely ever take on a BPD case for fear of manipulation and what they might do to their practice and livelihood. They often APPEAR very normal. They are VERY dangerous. They often blend into society as normal. To be painfully clear, you aren't going to find a group of borderlines sitting in circle at the local YMCA doing some type of 12-step program. This goes for any of the major personality disorders (i.e. borderline, narcissistic, histrionic, and sociopath).
Let's choose the sociopath for group therapy (same family as BPD):
- Sociopath: Hi, I'm John and I'm a sociopath.
- Group: Hi John! Welcome to the sociopath support group.
- Sociopath: Thanks, I'm glad to be in a group of like minded peopled.
- Group: Welcome. So, what brings you here today John?
- Sociopath: Well, during the day I seem like a normal person. I love my wife and kids. I love my dog. I mostly enjoy my job, even though it gets a little boring. But, I've been building a bomb and I plan to stash it in a building someday soon. Nobody would guess that this is my hobby, but, we all have our pastimes right? Anyway, I thought I'd meet up with you guys to check in on how my project is coming along...
Yes, fucking the chick that is a bi-polar (NOT BPD) that is on a bunch of meds may be a rush. Fucking a chick with a multiple personality disorder can be a rush. Both can probably be done with minimal collateral damage.
I can attest that fucking a chick with BPD can be mind blowing. I have a number of badges and I'm probably not in the normal camp and have plenty of stories that would probably even make delicoustacos interested. (side note: thanks for sharing the delicsoustacos post in this thread...one of the best posts I've read). But, being emotionally aloof is not enough. You truly have to know when to get the fuck out of dodge. You have to have a sixth sense that some wicked shit is coming down the pike, and you can't out-craft, out-smart, or out-wit a borderline. Like a jack rabbit that smells a forest fire.
Concrete example: I'm pretty much convinced the Soviet was a BPD. She threw off a ton of red flags (big ones), but never did anything harmful to me. I almost convinced myself that I'd simply enjoy an amazing date and incredible sex once per week for the long haul. And then she hinted (followed by a revelation) that she is tied in with some very serious people (not friendly people). I wanted to just brush it off as "so what". Because I'm 99% sure she is BPD, I have to take my gut concern seriously that there is a risk that one day she says I harmed her in some way, and that it could have serious repercussions. I could keep going back, and may get away with it for a while. But, when you keep going back to see a borderline there will be a day that things go sour. And when they do, it is more like hitting a trip wire than simply realizing in your detached emotional state that you need to slip out the back door. You have to slip out the back door before you get ensnared in a web of bullshit that can put your life on a drastically different course.