I will share a little of my story too. I'm ashamed of it because my mistakes are so obvious looking back, and if I told all the details it would expose some very beta behavior on my part. Thankfully, I've only dated the one batshit crazy broad and never again...
Part 1
Unlike most of the stories, she wasn't that hot. In the 6 range perhaps. She was good looking for her age, and was a looker when she was younger. She was incredible in bed though, like a circus performer. Hands down the most amazing blowjobs ever, hooked me from blow one. She was the invincible kind... mostly normal in day to day behavior though quirky. Very social/charismatic. Excellent cook.
- latched on from the beginning.
- very possessive/jealous. She would get jealous of women we passed on the street that I didn't even notice. She got jealous of my mom. She got jealous of my daughter.
- wanted to know every detail about my past. Would later throw these details back at me in the most absurd ways, twisting them up to resemble something else.
- volunteered an ish load of info about her exes. Made her ex-husband appear as a complete spineless wimp, but also claimed he had an enormous cock (weird). All her other exes had supposedly been abusive
- started a fight every time we saw each other. Very hot cold. Intensely loved me then hated. Always horny (wore me out).
- always wanted to be with me, would get clingy if I spent even a day away from her (I was so beta...). Spent so much time at my house that she convinced herself she lived there (didn't find out this part until I broke things off).
- got pregnant, I fully believe she tricked me into this but I don't think she faked it. Is it mine? I don't know...
After we broke up the full crazy showed up
- refused to leave my house, so I left.
- she followed me down the road, screaming at me out her car window.
- sent me 90 texts (which I didn't respond to) the day after I broke up with her. A couple hundred that following week.
- demanded that I pay for an abortion (including flight and hotel costs to a major city, and payment for time she took off work). Then accused me of trying to force her to have an abortion.
- threatened to accuse me of emotional/physical abuse. Her claim on the physical was that I turned around too fast during an argument and struck her with my shoulder (which I don't remember happening anyways).
- told me to drop off her stuff (that she purposefully left at my house..) at such and such time because she wouldn't be home. I showed up, was carrying stuff to her porch to drop off, when she pulled up behind my car blocking me in. Asked me to help her carry stuff into her house (dumb...). Then blocked the door, wouldn't let me leave without "hearing her out". Typical I love you / I hate you bullshit. My son was waiting in the car... what a f'ing dumpster fire
- my kids saw her drive by our house several times, months after we broke up.
Eventually, about 4 months after the break up, she dropped it. Stopped contacting me, etc. I have no idea why, I just count my blessings to this day.
Quote: (05-17-2014 10:18 PM)Vaun Wrote:
Good strategy, get it done quickly. more guys need to do this. In the dating world BPD isn't too much of an issue because you aren't legally connected to crazy, you can simply walk out. For the married guys its a whole other issue.
Part 2
Several years later, I get a random message from a guy who says he's dealing with a crazy girl named X (the girl I dated). Says he knows me because she always talked about me. Wants my help/advice.
- she pulled the same crazy shit with him, but to a higher level.
- fabricated a domestic violence claim against him. Fell down his stairs while trying to beat him up as he was leaving his house.
- he had a witness to corroborate his story (his rebound chick that she 'caught' him with). But still lost his case.
- although they weren't married, she got him booted from his own home.
- told the judge that she lived with him, was economically dependent on him and would be homeless if made to leave the house, and he was abusive.
- she lived there for 6 or 9 months before he got his house back.
- more crazy stuff, but I think I may have shared too much already[/b]