Quote: (12-02-2013 02:18 PM)Floss Wrote:
So where did I go wrong exactly? I thought it was going well and she was showing interest. Like, what is going through her mind to send me all those texts and smilies and shit and then just ignore me? Like, why waste both of our time?
This is not the thread for it (
Thread 1 OR
Thread 2 )for text analysis or strategy, but anyway, here you go.
Yesterday:
ME (10:26am): Hey it's Floss from MM. Don't have a pic of myself. So sorry to fuck up your OCD oranizational system
*She asked me to text my full name and a picture. The site has pictures.
She asks for your name and picture. Subtle way of making you jump through the loops.
You jump through one, apologize for not jumping through the other, and then tease/label her.
Stereotyping her is fine so long as it is not done obviously.
HER (10:26am): bahahah Smile :0 it's totally ok.
Bahaha one more beta scalp. Its totally ok??? She just sidestepped your attempt to label her, and focused on the apology instead.
ME (10:40am): So how long are you here for?
Why the "So"? Drop the "So".
Always drop the "So".
Unless you're going to ramble on about a random obviously fake event (such as Barney's True Story storytelling.)
HER (10:50am): I'm not sure yet maybe till Friday !
Moar boar wants more..attention.
ME (10:59am): Let's get something to drink before you leave. I can impress you
some more by reciting wu tang as modern prose
"lets...before you leave." No. You're not her boyfriend. And the impress you part is really cringey and dorky.
Let me impress/serenade/(stereotypical romantic activity)....screams BETAAAAAA. Its fine *occasionally* for a woman you've fucked multiple times and are truly in love with, but this.. nah.
Exception - If you had said let me impress you with my dick, its kinda-sorta fine, because you're showing a distinct lack of respect for her or societal norms (except, if she smells beta blood, sexual harassment / shaming WILL follow). Congruence is crucial.
"Im not sure, maybe till Friday"
"cool. buy me a drink tomorrow afternoon, and I'll send you my picture."....this sound better?
HER (11:07am): bahahah Smile for sure I'm so down!
Bahaha I'm so down ! Free drinks, plus all the attention from the guys at the club, plus beta fawner!
On a serious note -- look at how she's using "Bahaha" again?
Most people have a standard way of texting Haha(heh/hehe/hahahah etc), but the more you challenge a girl, the more she will use different variants of this. If you see the same laugh repeated in text over and over again, beware. Chances are, she's not taking you seriously.
ME (12:28pm): How's tomorrow afternoon sound
HER (12:30pm): sounds good to me Smile
this is fine
ME (12:42pm): Cool gimme yo addy
NO.
This is a girl you JUST texted your name and FACE to. And you're asking her for an address?
Rapey/needy/beta/stalker.
What do you need her address for? This is not prom, she can make it by herself to any place you ask.
Really bad move.
HER (12:46pm): I'm not there right now I'm out eating so I will send it to you when I get back! I don't know it by heart.
duh.
NEXT DAY:
ME (10:07am): Still down to kick it later?
Still down for rape/needy behavior/(yet another)stalker?
Unsalvageable for the near future at least.
See, you really need to come out of the romantic/idealized mindset.
Its absolutely manly to do these things(OCCASIONALLY) for a girl you have fucked, vetted, fallen in love with.
For random girls off online websites, you're better of sticking to the purely logistics for now.
Don't ask questions. Just tell her what you want to do and where you want to meet, if its really uncomfortable for her, she'll say no or suggest an alternative.
Always better to be slightly a dick rather than a "gentleman".
Also, read up on plausible deniability.
Good luck
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