[Sonsowey]

Girls are fickle, you can't account for their mood all the time. Many girls also just always communicate with smilies and simply responding to another person's texts doesn't mean you want to date them.

If she flaked just move on, don't get hung up on it. There's more girls out there than you could ever bother with, don't waste time on one who's not responding to you.

[Wahawahwah]

(12-02-2013 02:18 PM)Floss Wrote:  

So where did I go wrong exactly? I thought it was going well and she was showing interest. Like, what is going through her mind to send me all those texts and smilies and shit and then just ignore me? Like, why waste both of our time?

This is not the thread for it (Thread 1 OR Thread 2 )for text analysis or strategy, but anyway, here you go.

Yesterday:
ME (10:26am): Hey it's Floss from MM. Don't have a pic of myself. So sorry to fuck up your OCD oranizational system
*She asked me to text my full name and a picture. The site has pictures.

She asks for your name and picture. Subtle way of making you jump through the loops.
You jump through one, apologize for not jumping through the other, and then tease/label her.
Stereotyping her is fine so long as it is not done obviously.

HER (10:26am): bahahah Smile :0 it's totally ok.

Bahaha one more beta scalp. Its totally ok??? She just sidestepped your attempt to label her, and focused on the apology instead.

ME (10:40am): So how long are you here for?
Why the "So"? Drop the "So".
Always drop the "So".
Unless you're going to ramble on about a random obviously fake event (such as Barney's True Story storytelling.)

HER (10:50am): I'm not sure yet maybe till Friday !

Moar boar wants more..attention.


ME (10:59am): Let's get something to drink before you leave. I can impress you some more by reciting wu tang as modern prose

"lets...before you leave." No. You're not her boyfriend. And the impress you part is really cringey and dorky.
Let me impress/serenade/(stereotypical romantic activity)....screams BETAAAAAA. Its fine *occasionally* for a woman you've fucked multiple times and are truly in love with, but this.. nah.
Exception - If you had said let me impress you with my dick, its kinda-sorta fine, because you're showing a distinct lack of respect for her or societal norms (except, if she smells beta blood, sexual harassment / shaming WILL follow). Congruence is crucial.

"Im not sure, maybe till Friday"
"cool. buy me a drink tomorrow afternoon, and I'll send you my picture."....this sound better?

HER (11:07am): bahahah Smile for sure I'm so down!

Bahaha I'm so down ! Free drinks, plus all the attention from the guys at the club, plus beta fawner!

On a serious note -- look at how she's using "Bahaha" again?
Most people have a standard way of texting Haha(heh/hehe/hahahah etc), but the more you challenge a girl, the more she will use different variants of this. If you see the same laugh repeated in text over and over again, beware. Chances are, she's not taking you seriously.


ME (12:28pm): How's tomorrow afternoon sound

HER (12:30pm): sounds good to me Smile

this is fine

ME (12:42pm): Cool gimme yo addy

NO.
This is a girl you JUST texted your name and FACE to. And you're asking her for an address?
Rapey/needy/beta/stalker.
What do you need her address for? This is not prom, she can make it by herself to any place you ask.
Really bad move.

HER (12:46pm): I'm not there right now I'm out eating so I will send it to you when I get back! I don't know it by heart.

duh.

NEXT DAY:
ME (10:07am): Still down to kick it later?
Still down for rape/needy behavior/(yet another)stalker?
Unsalvageable for the near future at least.

See, you really need to come out of the romantic/idealized mindset.
Its absolutely manly to do these things(OCCASIONALLY) for a girl you have fucked, vetted, fallen in love with.
For random girls off online websites, you're better of sticking to the purely logistics for now.
Don't ask questions. Just tell her what you want to do and where you want to meet, if its really uncomfortable for her, she'll say no or suggest an alternative.
Always better to be slightly a dick rather than a "gentleman".

Also, read up on plausible deniability.

Good luck

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[Sourcecode]

I'm gonna give this thread a try.
I got pulled a girl on okc. She's a thin little stoner chick. that works at a mattress store.
we texted. set a date up tonight.
I thought she would flake but she texted me back.

" No that's not crazy lol. I got the bed thing on lock at my house. Nice tempur pedic with the robot base. So where are we drinking tonight? "

I want some strange and I feel like she might be a freak.

should I have her come to a cozy couch bar I like?

ask where she lives and hope I can pick a bar closer to her.?

or
try to get her to invite me over and drink at her place?

[Flavius Aetius]

(12-04-2013 02:55 PM)Sourcecode Wrote:  

I thought she would flake but she texted me back.

" No that's not crazy lol. I got the bed thing on lock at my house. Nice tempur pedic with the robot base. So where are we drinking tonight? "

95% of the time this is a good sign of a slutty little drug user who should be a ons opportunity.

5% of the time she is a psycho or this is a trap to get you drunk/drugged at her place, then rob you with her boyfriend there.

The odds are on your side plus she has a nice bed. Pick a bar very near her place--easiest option. However, I would not leave my drinks unattended in her presence.

[Every10GivesMeA10]

Number closed at McDonalds. She was checking me out so I approached.

Me: Hey
Her: Heyyy
(tried calling her, didn't pick up)
Her: Whats your name??
Me: ...my name
Me: Where do you live?
Her: ...where she lives
Me: "cool, wanna come chill at my place tomorrow night?"
Her: "I don't do that."

What now?

[Sonsowey]

"Pshhhh" ^^^

[Valhalla]

i send a message to a girl from okc
she replies telling me that i put i want my next relationship to last a few months to a year and she wants hers to last a "life time"
whatever i give the hamster what it wants, telling her who knows what sort of relationship we would have
she replies with her number
text this girl yesterday
we talk for 10 min, we click. try to make plans she tells me she's busy this week(finals week). basically gives me no option to meet her till 7 days from now.
I tell her ill hit her up nxt week and make plans
she says you're gonna hit me up next week??(implying she'll forget about me and I should text someone I don't even know for 7 days). I Prrtty much tell her i probably won't be texting her that long
she texts me something apologizing for something earlier
I don't get around to replying
12 hrs later she texts me
"I'm deleting ur number"
4 hrs after that I'm like
"Change of heart?"
she replies
"Well, you seem like a nice guy & I'm looking to play games"

What did she mean by that?

tbh idgaf about this girl, she isnt that hot but I'm curious to see where it's goes, what did she mean by playing games

I'm guessing she's looking to casually fuck, despite indicating otherwise. i wanna send something cocky aggressively sexual
Thinking of saying
"boring
meet me for drinks. bring a mixer"



bishes be crazy

[Remington]

It's a shit test. If she originally mentioned that she wants her next relationship to last a lifetime, she's kind of contradicting herself when she mentions she only wants to "play games." If I was you, I'd next her.

Or, if you want to text her, I'd send

"pool is my game, meet me at XXX bar. you can get the first pitcher"

[AneroidOcean]

(12-02-2013 02:18 PM)Floss Wrote:  

So where did I go wrong exactly? I thought it was going well and she was showing interest. Like, what is going through her mind to send me all those texts and smilies and shit and then just ignore me? Like, why waste both of our time?

Sharkie did a pretty good breakdown. You absolutely 100% gave her the frame. A girl responding quickly doesn't mean shit if you've given her the frame and are supplicating. That just means she's enjoying the attention, not that she's getting excited about seeing you.

Who doesn't know their address? Really? Come on dude, pay attention with your brain, not your dick.

The other main thing that Sharkie missed is how you aren't congruent. You used perfect english/punctuation and were somewhat eloquent here:

(12-02-2013 12:57 PM)Floss Wrote:  

ME (10:59am): Let's get something to drink before you leave. I can impress you some more by reciting wu tang as modern prose

And then here you go with complete lack of punctuation/grammar and switch into some ghetto speak?

(12-02-2013 12:57 PM)Floss Wrote:  

ME (12:42pm): Cool gimme yo addy

You need to figure out who you are and stick with it.

[eradicator]

Valhalla, as soon as she said "I just want to play games and you seem like a nice guy"

the only response should be "unsubscribe". You don't have time for girls that want to play games. I think the only way I would ever contract her again would be if she said something along the lines of "Haha, ok I am not really all about playing games, let's meet up."

Actually, if a bitch texts me "you seem like a nice guy and I just want to play games." I would just send her a dick pic with no text and forget she even exists.

[Valhalla]

thanks mt

one of my plates sent me "had some fun while thinking dirty thoughts about you"

what to say in reply to someone who said they masturbated to the thought of you
im busy and can't see her tonight

[eradicator]

"yum!"

[Feo]

(12-06-2013 02:03 PM)master_thespian Wrote:  

Valhalla, as soon as she said "I just want to play games and you seem like a nice guy"

the only response should be "unsubscribe". You don't have time for girls that want to play games. I think the only way I would ever contract her again would be if she said something along the lines of "Haha, ok I am not really all about playing games, let's meet up."

Actually, if a bitch texts me "you seem like a nice guy and I just want to play games." I would just send her a dick pic with no text and forget she even exists.

Nah..I disagree. give her a week of downtime and then go aggressive. "Yo..ho. I was thinking about yo' ass." Maybe you should work on not being such a nice guy first tho..

Edit: also, if she is the only chick you're working on..don't msg her again until you have something else going..

[OptimusPrime307]

Girl I met last night, cute softball player, i'd say 7.5. She sent her friend to bring me over to meet her. I invited her over to have a "christmas themed drink" after last call, she said she can't tonight because she had a final in the morning, but tomorrow night she'd be down. Kiss closed. Left the bar, ran into a FWB and her 3 roommates on the street. Quick conversation lead to me walking them to my car and driving them all home.

Text softball player this afternoon:




I'm pretty sure I was dead on arrival and she's trying to fuck with me, but anything I can do to turn this in my favor? She and all the students leave for a month after this weekend. I've never experienced anything like this before.

[AneroidOcean]

(12-13-2013 03:05 PM)OptimusPrime307 Wrote:  

I'm pretty sure I was dead on arrival and she's trying to fuck with me, but anything I can do to turn this in my favor? She and all the students leave for a month after this weekend. I've never experienced anything like this before.

Your assumption that it's dead on arrival is not that likely actually. If you kiss closed her and SHE showed initial interest, you're probably on the better side of 50/50. While your texting isn't super strong, you're passing her shit tests. Continue to ignore/deflect any nonsense, but also space our your responses some more. Make her come to you.

Your last text I would've spaced out until the next day and made it purely logistical (drinks, place, time). And remember, bring the movies.

[eradicator]

I fucked up and texted the wrong chick saying "hey I will be 5 minutes late, traffic is heavy on Wilshire due to construction."

which really isn't that bad and still salvageable.

5 minutes later I wrote "Disregard the last text, wrong number, But I do want to try calling you later."

she wrote "go for it".

So about 45 minutes later I try calling, left a voice mail and texted "guess I will try later".

she wrote. "I thought you meant you were going to call later, I'm at work."

I wrote, "Yeah I did mean later but figured maybe you were at lunch so I took a shot. I finish class at 1030pm and will try again sometime after that".

I text her a little before 11pm and ask if she is around. and no response. That was Wednesday. This chick keeps saying she liked going to bars and drinking beer. I have a few events this upcoming week, christmas party with free beer and sag awards film screening with free wine. I get to bring a +1 to each of these. She also lives like 10 blocks from me. I have not met this chick yet, matched on tinder and got her to give her phone number.

This is what I was thinking of texting, but it seems pretty long,

"Hey I have more film screenings this week. Monday is "Gravity" in 3d at 730pm 7800 sunset(parking and admission are free). Would have to stay for the Q&A with the director after. Tuesday is "Enough Said", free admission and parking + free wine for early arrivals but would have to stay for the q&a with Julia Louis Dreyfus. Also have a x-mas party tuesday in hollywood with free beer. Or we could just grab a drink another night."

That seems like a really long ass text. Should I just try texting "hey are you around, is now a good time to call?" again? Or something else?

[Valhalla]

Say you have an awesome film screening and a q&a (bait)

Let her ask you what films

Mystery works in your favor less details

[delonge]

(12-13-2013 07:29 PM)master_thespian Wrote:  

I fucked up and texted the wrong chick saying "hey I will be 5 minutes late, traffic is heavy on Wilshire due to construction."

which really isn't that bad and still salvageable.

5 minutes later I wrote "Disregard the last text, wrong number, But I do want to try calling you later."

she wrote "go for it".

So about 45 minutes later I try calling, left a voice mail and texted "guess I will try later".

she wrote. "I thought you meant you were going to call later, I'm at work."

I wrote, "Yeah I did mean later but figured maybe you were at lunch so I took a shot. I finish class at 1030pm and will try again sometime after that".

I text her a little before 11pm and ask if she is around. and no response. That was Wednesday. This chick keeps saying she liked going to bars and drinking beer. I have a few events this upcoming week, christmas party with free beer and sag awards film screening with free wine. I get to bring a +1 to each of these. She also lives like 10 blocks from me. I have not met this chick yet, matched on tinder and got her to give her phone number.

This is what I was thinking of texting, but it seems pretty long,

"Hey I have more film screenings this week. Monday is "Gravity" in 3d at 730pm 7800 sunset(parking and admission are free). Would have to stay for the Q&A with the director after. Tuesday is "Enough Said", free admission and parking + free wine for early arrivals but would have to stay for the q&a with Julia Louis Dreyfus. Also have a x-mas party tuesday in hollywood with free beer. Or we could just grab a drink another night."

That seems like a really long ass text. Should I just try texting "hey are you around, is now a good time to call?" again? Or something else?

I think maybe youre showing too much interest with leaving voice mail AND texting at the same time. Might appear needy.

[Veloce]

(12-13-2013 03:05 PM)OptimusPrime307 Wrote:  

Girl I met last night, cute softball player, i'd say 7.5. She sent her friend to bring me over to meet her. I invited her over to have a "christmas themed drink" after last call, she said she can't tonight because she had a final in the morning, but tomorrow night she'd be down. Kiss closed. Left the bar, ran into a FWB and her 3 roommates on the street. Quick conversation lead to me walking them to my car and driving them all home.

Text softball player this afternoon:




I'm pretty sure I was dead on arrival and she's trying to fuck with me, but anything I can do to turn this in my favor? She and all the students leave for a month after this weekend. I've never experienced anything like this before.

I think you're texting is pretty solid except your last one.

After, "Don't turn me on" I would have gone for something more cocky like, "Can't help it" and then gone immediately into logistics.

If she continues to shit test you, give her, "It's a little early in our relationship for you to be getting jealous."

[Veloce]

(12-13-2013 07:29 PM)master_thespian Wrote:  

I fucked up and texted the wrong chick saying "hey I will be 5 minutes late, traffic is heavy on Wilshire due to construction."

which really isn't that bad and still salvageable.

5 minutes later I wrote "Disregard the last text, wrong number, But I do want to try calling you later."

she wrote "go for it".

So about 45 minutes later I try calling, left a voice mail and texted "guess I will try later".

she wrote. "I thought you meant you were going to call later, I'm at work."

I wrote, "Yeah I did mean later but figured maybe you were at lunch so I took a shot. I finish class at 1030pm and will try again sometime after that".

I text her a little before 11pm and ask if she is around. and no response. That was Wednesday. This chick keeps saying she liked going to bars and drinking beer. I have a few events this upcoming week, christmas party with free beer and sag awards film screening with free wine. I get to bring a +1 to each of these. She also lives like 10 blocks from me. I have not met this chick yet, matched on tinder and got her to give her phone number.

This is what I was thinking of texting, but it seems pretty long,

"Hey I have more film screenings this week. Monday is "Gravity" in 3d at 730pm 7800 sunset(parking and admission are free). Would have to stay for the Q&A with the director after. Tuesday is "Enough Said", free admission and parking + free wine for early arrivals but would have to stay for the q&a with Julia Louis Dreyfus. Also have a x-mas party tuesday in hollywood with free beer. Or we could just grab a drink another night."

That seems like a really long ass text. Should I just try texting "hey are you around, is now a good time to call?" again? Or something else?

I assume you're an actor based on your handle...in which case, edit yourself down. You're way too wordy and communicative.

You start out on the right foot by being aloof and texting the wrong girl. If you want to call her, just send her, "Whoops ignore that ill call u later"

Don't give her a play by play of "Yeah I was doing this but meant to do that and yadda yadda yadda." Less is more.

If this chick is a barfly then don't bother making plans. Text her the day of, around 5-6pm, with something like, "Hey going to a screening tonight w wine, you around" Text it quickly and without proper pronunciation. An occasional typo is good.

When I text girls I imagine I'm a CEO being bombarded with dozens of messages per minute while i drive my Veyron. Imagine what an aloof asshole that guy would be. Be that guy.

[dog24]

(12-06-2013 02:03 PM)master_thespian Wrote:  

Valhalla, as soon as she said "I just want to play games and you seem like a nice guy"

the only response should be "unsubscribe". You don't have time for girls that want to play games. I think the only way I would ever contract her again would be if she said something along the lines of "Haha, ok I am not really all about playing games, let's meet up."

Actually, if a bitch texts me "you seem like a nice guy and I just want to play games." I would just send her a dick pic with no text and forget she even exists.

I would set up a date, ask her to send me a pic of the place once she is there and then never contact her again

[OptimusPrime307]

Thought I'd update my situation, since I'm pretty proud of the result.



(The shortcut home line is in reference to CH's lover style test I ran on her the night I met her. She was a long way home girl if you know the routine)




And I went to her place an hour later. Didn't bang, was too drained from hot yoga, but she kept me up till 3am with sex texts and nearly naked photos.

Without all I'd learned from this forum and the advice of aneroidocean and thedude, I'd have crashed and burned after her first reply to me. She's gone for a month, so obviously the bang isn't guaranteed, but this was a great lesson in game for me. Thanks everyone.

[Wahawahwah]

Great job man!

[Feo]

[Jam Man]

This is a post bang text convo BUT after we banged three times she told me she liked anal. I also enjoy this so I'm trying to meet up with her again. But she doesn't seem too interested. Here's what I got.

Me: whatsup kelsie 347pm
Her: just hangin withh some sailor jerrys 1042pm
Me: wanna smoke a blunt 1206am

Obviously she took forever to respond but its been 3 days what would u guys respond with? She smokes and drinks 19 years old