Putting this in the "Newbie" Forum because, in the end, I'm asking about one specific woman...
Background: Soon-to-be former client. She's 13 years older. Recently divorced. We've always gotten along really well. Everyone at my company jokes that she's into me like that and--while that's possible--my gut says it's more of a mother/son vibe than a bang vibe.
A lot of fun, light conversations over the 9 years we've worked together (me as vendor/ her as client). At the same time, we've both kept it professional re: sex, etc. I'm moving soon and set something up in a few days to hang out/spend time.
^Before I get into the pros/cons... my game is solid. Late thirties and never dated a woman over the age of 30. Above average looks.
This would probably be the last time we see each other for the foreseeable future.
Pros:
She offered for me to come by her place prior to us going anywhere. She texted the address and unit number
Recently divorced
We had a random site visit to her company (me and three other dudes) and--apart from saying "see you later"-- didn't mention a word about our meeting... only the both of us know.
It's been a running joke at our company that she wants to bang
I mentioned that I'd make a reservation for place after I come by her apartment, but we can "play it by ear" after I stopped by and she was just like texted back "Thanks." aka "we won't be leaving my place" (or she's not the best texter... even for logistics)
Cons:
She could totally see this in the complete opposite... he's so nonthreatening that I could invite him over
Fun banter, but professional throughout our time knowing each other (even though this is how we both are and wouldn't get "weird" like that)
I totally set all of this up (even though she made the apt invite unprompted)
It's likely not going to be a drinking situation (which, all things considered, is for the best)
^Basically, confirmation bias could have me seeing something that's not there.
Despite starting a thread about this, my whole outlook is to go, have a fun, and not fuss about banging.
I also understand that--within reason--if a woman is willing to meet you out, then sex is on the table.
Just looking to get some thoughts and other perspectives about this. To preempt any "don't shit where you eat" responses, I'm leaving so soon that this won't affect work at all. We do not work at the same company.
Background: Soon-to-be former client. She's 13 years older. Recently divorced. We've always gotten along really well. Everyone at my company jokes that she's into me like that and--while that's possible--my gut says it's more of a mother/son vibe than a bang vibe.
A lot of fun, light conversations over the 9 years we've worked together (me as vendor/ her as client). At the same time, we've both kept it professional re: sex, etc. I'm moving soon and set something up in a few days to hang out/spend time.
^Before I get into the pros/cons... my game is solid. Late thirties and never dated a woman over the age of 30. Above average looks.
This would probably be the last time we see each other for the foreseeable future.
Pros:
She offered for me to come by her place prior to us going anywhere. She texted the address and unit number
Recently divorced
We had a random site visit to her company (me and three other dudes) and--apart from saying "see you later"-- didn't mention a word about our meeting... only the both of us know.
It's been a running joke at our company that she wants to bang
I mentioned that I'd make a reservation for place after I come by her apartment, but we can "play it by ear" after I stopped by and she was just like texted back "Thanks." aka "we won't be leaving my place" (or she's not the best texter... even for logistics)
Cons:
She could totally see this in the complete opposite... he's so nonthreatening that I could invite him over
Fun banter, but professional throughout our time knowing each other (even though this is how we both are and wouldn't get "weird" like that)
I totally set all of this up (even though she made the apt invite unprompted)
It's likely not going to be a drinking situation (which, all things considered, is for the best)
^Basically, confirmation bias could have me seeing something that's not there.
Despite starting a thread about this, my whole outlook is to go, have a fun, and not fuss about banging.
I also understand that--within reason--if a woman is willing to meet you out, then sex is on the table.
Just looking to get some thoughts and other perspectives about this. To preempt any "don't shit where you eat" responses, I'm leaving so soon that this won't affect work at all. We do not work at the same company.