Quote: (01-08-2018 12:13 PM)zatara Wrote:
This is a terrible philosophy to have. A life without close male friends is an empty life. Even with a healthy relationship, a good family life, and a productive job every man still needs good male friends as well. Its not either/or - its completely possible to have all of these at the same time.
If your current social circle isn't suiting your lifestyle, or isn't trustworthy, you should absolutely drop them. But anyone finding themselves in a situation when they have no close friends should immediately work to fix that.
Take up a suitable hobby, or join a sports team, and get out there and make new friends of a similar mindset. Its not hard, and is incredibly rewarding emotionally, psychologically and socially.
I agree that a life completely without male friends would be awful. Without my best friends, my life would have been an impoverished shell. I will always cherish my childhood buddies for the memories they gave me.
But I think there also comes a point where you kind of grow up and move on. I have noticed some of them becoming very bitter and negative to be around, while others made lifestyle choices that I don't really agree with. I don't enjoy their company as much (some of them) so I don't feel bad for cutting lots of them off.
It's a weird situation to say the least...never thought I'd ever feel this way about my friends, but here I am.