I have grown apart from the majority of the friends that I made while going to grade school and college. I still have a handful that I see semi-regularly. I've changed a lot over the past few years, and now these last five or so friends are no longer a great fit with me. However, they are not bad people or negative influences on my life. They can just be a bit naive and closed minded. I'm in my mid 20's for context.
I've resisted the idea of cutting these friends out of my life. Recently, I realized the reason. When these relationships formed, we were in school and were not focused on making money. We saw getting girls as an individual pursuit.
So we didn't focus on making friends that could help us make money, get girls, or provide value in some other way. We just enjoyed each others' company. That lack of transactional thinking allowed our friendships to have a certain purity to them.
I have met a lot of new people since I graduated from college (especially since I started traveling). Some of them I would primarily call friends and some I see more as business contacts - or providing value in some other specific way. Most are in the middle of the spectrum. The line is constantly blurred.
Embarking on a journey of self improvement to maximize my success in business and with girls has been a great decision for me. A large part of it has been surrounding myself with people that are a positive influence on these pursuits. And I enjoy spending time with many of the new people in my life, even the ones that lean more toward the business contact side of the spectrum.
But I don't want to throw away these friendships from my formative years. Even if we only meet six times a year, it means a lot to maintain a few connections like that - connections that I may never be able to fully duplicate.
I've resisted the idea of cutting these friends out of my life. Recently, I realized the reason. When these relationships formed, we were in school and were not focused on making money. We saw getting girls as an individual pursuit.
So we didn't focus on making friends that could help us make money, get girls, or provide value in some other way. We just enjoyed each others' company. That lack of transactional thinking allowed our friendships to have a certain purity to them.
I have met a lot of new people since I graduated from college (especially since I started traveling). Some of them I would primarily call friends and some I see more as business contacts - or providing value in some other specific way. Most are in the middle of the spectrum. The line is constantly blurred.
Embarking on a journey of self improvement to maximize my success in business and with girls has been a great decision for me. A large part of it has been surrounding myself with people that are a positive influence on these pursuits. And I enjoy spending time with many of the new people in my life, even the ones that lean more toward the business contact side of the spectrum.
But I don't want to throw away these friendships from my formative years. Even if we only meet six times a year, it means a lot to maintain a few connections like that - connections that I may never be able to fully duplicate.