The Anal Data Sheet
01-23-2017, 10:42 PM
In my experience, there are women out there who like anal and/or who are fascinated by the idea -- but they will often wait for you to bring it up.
Not always, though. One time I got a girl so turned on/stimulated that she was begging for the D, and her actual quote was: "Stick it in my pussy, stick it in my ass, just stick it in me!"
12+ years later and I don't remember her name anymore. But I remember that line.
Tease a girl and make her want it -- and you never know what she might say. And when she sees you won't judge her for sharing a taboo fantasy with you... that's when it can get really fun.
Anal, if you do it right, takes a lot more effort than regular sex. Obviously you want the girl's dirt road to be as clean as possible. Communication on that helps, to be sure.
It also helps if she has had a bit to drink. Double positive of lowered inhibitions and some pain numbing for her.
You might drink a little bit as well if you are so inclined, though you're going to want to stay hard, so be careful with it. But a little bit of booze might help delay your orgasm somewhat, a positive as the last thing you want to do is go through all of this trouble only to bust a nut 30 seconds into it.
But if alcohol isn't your thing, it's hardly a necessity.
Even when the girl tells you she wants to try anal, you're going to want to build up her excitement and anticipation as much as possible. Use the usual tricks you would to get her turned on for regular sex. Extended foreplay will work to your advantage in general with sex, but that is especially sure for anal.
When you've made it to the point where you are giving her head, you would be well-served to be licking her clit, two fingers in her vagina doing the "come here" motion on her G-spot... and then, slowly, using your pinky finger to rub against, or slightly inside, her asshole.
One key thing: go slow. Personally I've found flavored lube to be VERY helpful for multiple reasons. Cherry, kiwi strawberry, whatever flavor suits you. Use it on her pussy at the start, pouring a generous portion, making sure you get some down her near anal entrance. Helps with penetration and helps with any concerns over taste. This is especially true if you want to tongue her asshole a bit.
When she's ready for the main event, maybe have her suck you off a little bit to get you properly erect. Then apply plenty of lube to both your cock and her asshole.
Once you're in position, slide the head of your cock in SLOWLY. This is a good time for you to be verbal with her, tell her how sexy she is and how amazing it feels and how excited you are. She will likely tell you something similar, which helps in getting her mentally really to go since she's envisioning it in her mind.
You should encourage her to rub her clit as well, especially if you're doing her from behind. That is normally the position I've used for anal, but different girls might like it different ways.
What has worked well for me is, once your cock is inside of her a bit, let her control the depth by backing up into you. Girls have described it to me as a burning sensation of sorts at first, but that dissipates somewhat as she adjusts to having your cock in her ass. That's why a bit of finger play before with her ass can help, so it's not a 0-to-60 type abrupt shift.
Once your cock is in her ass, one of the biggest challenges to overcome is the desire to start thrusting. You really have to take it slow initially for best results. If need be with the girl, stay as perfectly still as you can once you've gained some depth. You might hear her breathing heavy depending on the level of pain she's feeling.
Once she's properly primed, start slowly with the back-and-forth, in-and-out. Read her cues, both verbal and non-verbal. I had the same girl who implored me to stay still then, just 90 seconds later, loudly tell me "I want you to fuck my ass!"
It was as if I had unlocked a dirty secret corner of her mind that she hides from almost everyone. And once you get to that point, the sky is the limit.
But that's when you really put her over the top by asking her how bad she wants you to fuck her ass. Don't worry, she will reiterate her desire, with the added benefit of her own responses increasing her anticipation.
Again, the verbal on this is key, especially if you're doing her from behind. And by this point you should have her so into it that she will practically begging you: "Yes! Yes! Fuck my ass!" That's when you pick up the pace.
Don't jackhammer her, but at that point you've done the difficult work, so find a pace that works for you but doesn't hurt her too much. As for the big finish, I've never had any objections from a girl about cumming in her ass, but I'm sure results will vary on that.
One time I went from anal sex to having the girl suck me off for the end, but that was more to try an ATM on a girl at least once in my life. She was so insanely turned on that the rather vile nature of what she was doing apparently didn't bother her.
As for my personal preference, if I never have anal again, I'm fine with that. But it can be an enjoyable change from the norm, and with a girl who is really into it the experience can be incredibly intense in a very positive way.
Whatever you do, don't "surprise" your girl by trying to stick it in her ass without warning. You'll just end up causing her considerable pain and possibly turning her off from ever wanting to try it again.