Posts: 8,774
Threads: 0
Joined: Feb 2011
Quarter Life Crisis
08-25-2011, 10:28 PM
Shit, I'm 24 and feel great. I've had so much fun from 18-23. It took me a while to find myself but now I see the light and I'm focused on getting there. Just remember "men age like wine and women like milk". ymg - why don't you try some things for your hair like Rogaine? That or keep it buzzed.
Posts: 46
Threads: 0
Joined: Nov 2011
Quarter Life Crisis
12-14-2011, 09:13 AM
i found this thread incredibly uplifting. i thought i was the only one going through this. I am 27, and feel an immense drive to get moving, instead of putting things off like investing, starting a new website, dreaming, making things actionable and chunk-sized...
also, another thing i have found helps me is an 'try it list'. for example, try eating thai, indian, nepalese, try different races of girls, but in a list form, a sort of 'to do' wish-list.
Posts: 102
Threads: 0
Joined: Apr 2011
Reputation:
1
Quarter Life Crisis
12-14-2011, 11:22 AM
I thought I'd provide a little counter-point to this discussion
I'm currently 31 and the last couple of years have been the worst so far in my life. To anyone who says "life begins after 30" it certainly doesn't feel that way to me, in fact it's more miserable than ever before.
I had a lot of fun in my early 20s and also in the first 5 years after college (22-27), thanks to having a good network of friends/buddies from college who I hung out with. That was a very awesome social time for me, filled with partying like crazy, girls, travel, and a busy calendar. I also had a couple of opportunities to enter into serious relationships but I declined them since I was in the party mode.
Somewhere around age 27 I started noticing that my social contacts/friends were disappearing for various reasons. Most of my buddies had moved out of town by that time, and I became completely alone (and still single). I tried to make some friends in my late 20s but it's not the same, it's a lot more artificial and doesn't work. I tried keeping in touch with my college friends but that didn't work either.
The result is that, apart from my personal hobbies/interests/family, I've been completely and utterly lonely and depressed for the past couple of years (28-31) with no social connections and no dating to speak of. I think the loneliness and the boredom are what really gets to me, not even the fact that I'm single per se. Don't get me wrong, I have a great job and an awesome salary, so the career part is going perfectly for me, I'm not talking about that; rather, I'm talking about women and social life. When I get home from work, I have absolutely nothing to do, and when I look at my phone or my Facebook account, I have no one to even call or message!
Interestingly, I see the same thing happening to other guys my age, many of them are desperate and lonely and still single. (Could be the Washington DC area, which has lost a lot of girls in the past few years and isn't conducive to dating)
I, and many others, may be going through a "quarter-life crisis" but it's a little later than 25, I was still pretty well-adjusted at 25. The loneliness crisis started happening around 27-28 for me, so I would describe it as a "late-20s/early-30s crisis." Looking back, I'm beginning to regret that I didn't enter into the serious relationships that I could have in my early 20s, because the experience I'm going through now I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy, and there's no end in sight.
Posts: 1,151
Threads: 0
Joined: Nov 2011
Reputation:
6
Quarter Life Crisis
12-14-2011, 12:38 PM
Every morning this is all you need to tell yourself
Be luck your eyes opened, because a few thousand people around the world didn't get that opportunity this morning.
You can bitch all you want about getting old, but it sure beats being dead.
Posts: 1,368
Threads: 0
Joined: Jun 2009
Quarter Life Crisis
12-14-2011, 12:44 PM
Quote: (12-14-2011 11:22 AM)AVisitor Wrote:
I thought I'd provide a little counter-point to this discussion
I'm currently 31 and the last couple of years have been the worst so far in my life. To anyone who says "life begins after 30" it certainly doesn't feel that way to me, in fact it's more miserable than ever before.
I had a lot of fun in my early 20s and also in the first 5 years after college (22-27), thanks to having a good network of friends/buddies from college who I hung out with. That was a very awesome social time for me, filled with partying like crazy, girls, travel, and a busy calendar. I also had a couple of opportunities to enter into serious relationships but I declined them since I was in the party mode.
Somewhere around age 27 I started noticing that my social contacts/friends were disappearing for various reasons. Most of my buddies had moved out of town by that time, and I became completely alone (and still single). I tried to make some friends in my late 20s but it's not the same, it's a lot more artificial and doesn't work. I tried keeping in touch with my college friends but that didn't work either.
The result is that, apart from my personal hobbies/interests/family, I've been completely and utterly lonely and depressed for the past couple of years (28-31) with no social connections and no dating to speak of. I think the loneliness and the boredom are what really gets to me, not even the fact that I'm single per se. Don't get me wrong, I have a great job and an awesome salary, so the career part is going perfectly for me, I'm not talking about that; rather, I'm talking about women and social life. When I get home from work, I have absolutely nothing to do, and when I look at my phone or my Facebook account, I have no one to even call or message!
Interestingly, I see the same thing happening to other guys my age, many of them are desperate and lonely and still single. (Could be the Washington DC area, which has lost a lot of girls in the past few years and isn't conducive to dating)
I, and many others, may be going through a "quarter-life crisis" but it's a little later than 25, I was still pretty well-adjusted at 25. The loneliness crisis started happening around 27-28 for me, so I would describe it as a "late-20s/early-30s crisis." Looking back, I'm beginning to regret that I didn't enter into the serious relationships that I could have in my early 20s, because the experience I'm going through now I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy, and there's no end in sight.
this sounds like something I could have written a few years ago. the best advice I can give to you is get out of the house most nights of the week, and pick a few hobbies that you always wanted to try and pursue them. when i say get out of the house it could be something as simple as going to starbucks for an hour to read or having dinner at a bar by yourself or hitting the gym. i was always used to doing things in groups w/my friends but they all moved, got married or whatever. at that point if you are able to adapt and start doing things by yourself it will make you much happier then sitting around at home by yourself from the end of work until bedtime.
Posts: 5,050
Threads: 0
Joined: May 2011
Reputation:
74
Quarter Life Crisis
12-14-2011, 05:50 PM
AVisitor:
You've been relying on society's constructs to supply you with opportunities. This entire forum is dedicated to the people that will not be limited by such "random" functions. Get out of the house. Go to the gym and start saving up for a week or two in an exotic country.
Posts: 660
Threads: 0
Joined: Nov 2011
Reputation:
4
Quarter Life Crisis
12-14-2011, 09:42 PM
In the words of John Mayer -
"It might be a quarter life crises, or just a stirring in my soul. Either way I wonder sometimes about the outcome of a still verdict-less life. Am I living it right?... Everybody is just a stranger but
that's the danger in going my own way."
Posts: 254
Threads: 0
Joined: Sep 2011
Reputation:
2
Quarter Life Crisis
12-18-2011, 05:25 PM
AVisitor: I'm 30 in DC, life has never been better.
Mix up your routine, everything in life worth having is outside of your comfort zone.
DISCLAIMER: I don't know what I'm talking about and my posts are opinion, not advice.
Quote:Gmac Wrote:
your time > her feelings
Posts: 362
Threads: 0
Joined: Nov 2011
Reputation:
0
Quarter Life Crisis
12-18-2011, 09:33 PM
25 you're still a kid
the best part of my life was 30-35. wiser.
im setting myself up now to make 40-50 the best years of my life
Posts: 1,368
Threads: 0
Joined: Jun 2009
Quarter Life Crisis
01-24-2012, 11:31 AM
you'll get more pussy at 35 then 25 is you take care of yourself, have your life together, and put in the effort, i can pretty much promise you that.