Quote: (06-25-2016 02:18 AM)AnonymousBosch Wrote:
Bonus: remaining unmoved by the emotional storms of women is a huge game advantage.
Not just a 'huge' game advantage, perhaps the 'biggest' game advantage you could have, depending on situation.
Never, ever, under any circumstance, no matter what you 'feel' or what you 'believe', or god forbid, what you 'know', place another man's head above your own. Buddha taught this. I'll narrow it down a bit: Never place a woman's head above your own!
This will take extreme stoicism. It will involve reversing the programming of a lifetime. They still get me with it. The bit where they break down and cry, sobbing uncontrollably like the 5 year old child they are not. DNA's a bitch!
But be that ruthless bastard! Extend this out also to the level of your mother! That's right. She's a woman too. She will manipulate you if she can. She will answer to her husband while he is alive, but when he is gone, it is you she will look to and expect to take care of her.
Not all mothers are like that? Maybe. But if yours is? This is an extreme example, but if you can extend this attitude of 'arms-length-analysis' towards the woman that bore you, and in all probability is one of the few women that ever did unconditionally love you, then you will have no problem fucking in to touch that charlatan that is playing you like a fiddle.
I only quickly skipped over this thread, but again, I've found some nuggets of wisdom.
Life is hard enough without being a mug for the female of the species. She will have nothing to do with you when you are on your uppers. She will not help you when you are down. She will however milk you in whatever way she can if there is something you can do for her.
I know that others read these posts outside of RVF. I know exactly what they will think of that last statement. So be it.
In this life, you only rely on yourself, and perhaps a few well chosen proven mates. Extend it out from there, but with less trust. Even your best mate can betray you.
True happiness comes from self-reliance and self-sufficiency and true suffering comes from not having that. You might have the car and the house and the job, but still not be self-reliant or self-sufficient at core. Women fish for men like you! And once hooked, it is a one way trip to the bottom of the ocean, job lost, friends lost, family lost in some cases. Worst case scenario, but you have been warned.
I got off lightly, but others I know, not so much.
Self-sufficient, self-reliant men are never bitter. They might be bruised. They won't even blame a woman for their downfall (even if that was the case), but they will take full responsibility themselves.
As you get older, you look deeper into yourself. You admit your own personal failings in a way that you would never allow another to do. People mean less to you, as you can spot those that try to inveigle and ingratiate. Conversely, you see the beauty in those that just take you for what you are. Faults and all. On both sides. There can be union between disparate characters.
I'm writing the post I didn't want to write, so I'll stop there.
The advice that AB gave that I quoted at the top of this post, is what I gave to a few young lads I was producing (some of them friends in fact, of family at least).
Have a girlfriend, but don't get involved.
Assume she is going to fuck your best mate to get back at you and to destroy your friendship.
Never live with a woman.
If you live with a woman, it should be your own place and she should have somewhere to go if you chuck her out the door. If she doesn't, be prepared to put her on the street. There is no law against it. Women do that to men every day.
The woman you love, who you think loves you, does not love you, she loves an aspect of you, or something you can do for her.
Always have an escape route.
Etc. etc.
I do realise how bitterly cynical that will come across to our critics. But I stand by my analysis.
When a man is strong, other men won't usually fuck with him. But a woman can easily bring him down. He might as well have been weak. When he is strong, he can take the love of a good woman and it makes him stronger. He will build her up too. He will cherish her. The Mother of his children, he will protect her like no other. No harm will come to her. She will know true love in this life.
But the prudent man does not give his love so easily. And when it is given, it is with 'considerations'. It takes a lot for a woman to prove herself to a man. Most will not bother. When you find one that fights for your affections, and proves herself time and time again, then it is time...
What is the purpose of life, you ask?
To survive.
To endure.
To overcome.
To be self-reliant in all of this. First and foremost.
To have a confidante or a single friend you trust.
To have a wife. Who you can trust.
To have children. Who you teach. Who will not let you down.
I've seen some great men achieve great things, only for their legacy to be pissed on by ungrateful children who sully their memory.
Start with yourself, then work your way out. A good friend comes before a good bride in my book. Why? That should be obvious.
If you have children, lock those little buggers down and treat them well and teach them right! Shakespeare wrote many a play about the treachery of children who usurped otherwise indestructible empires.
Sorry, tangent.
A seed gets planted in my garden, and I just can't help but water it sometimes.