*note* This was originally in Finnish. I've translated this the best I can, to keep the tone (and the horrid writing) of the article pretty much the same. */note*
http://yle.fi/ylex/uutiset/juuso_kekkone.../3-8808583
A fine case of an emotionally manipulative puff-piece.
This article raises more questions than it should, though...
What do they mean with "external sex correction", and why do they treat it as if she had a penile implant?
How did the woman not realize she was living with a lesser male (or latent homosexual)?
Is the woman so hideous that she'll gladly be "the man" of the relationship?
Is that guy a pedo?
http://yle.fi/ylex/uutiset/juuso_kekkone.../3-8808583
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Juuso Kekkonen is a straight male, who has a boyfriend
This is a story of a love, that doesn't see gender.
A significant turn occured in Juuso Kekkonen's love affair, on the night his girlfriend wanted to tell him something.
"Listen Juuso, I don't feel like a girl. I'm a boy."
This turn was greater in other peoples eyes compared to Juuso.
That sentence felt very relieving to Juuso. Signs of a change had already been in the air. The couple had already had a period, when Juuso did not call his spouse "girlfriend" or "woman". Now he was sure that his sweetheart is a man, not a woman.
And as a consequence, the couple started thinking how to move forward.
They were in love, but would an external sex correction change things?
And as Juuso nevertheless likes women, should the couple split up?
The entire process improved the relationship
This pondering occured over five years ago. Here's a spoiler: the couple did not split up and they're still together.
Juuso tells us, that the sex correction of his sweetheart did arouse some pondering in him. That, what if, later on Juuso doesn't like his partner anymore, because this one is more masculine and does not resemble a woman, externally?
"That would've been the worlds dumbest reason to split up, that what if I don't like you two years from now! Because it's always true in any relationship."
The couple decided to continue, as long as they still like each other.
According to Juuso, the entire process has only had a positive effect to their relationship.
"My boyfriend is much happier in his current skin and social role, compared to before. His self-esteem is better. If a human being likes himself, it's much nicer to socialize with him."
Juuso himself had speculated before the process, how his sweethearts external changes would affect the relationship. In the end, they didn't. The physical changes
took place over two years so slowly, one couldn't even understand them in that moment. They were clearly visible only afterwards.
The couple still live their life as before, but to outsiders, something is different.
At the same time, when Juuso's girlfriend became his boyfriend, other peoples definition of Juuso changed. Because he was dating a man, other people started calling him gay.
A straight man turned gay - and people's attitude changed
The love of Juuso Kekkonen and his boyfriend has endured external changes. Over the course of seven years of dating, the couple themselves have stayed the same. Other peoples attitude towards them, however, has changed.
When they walk down the street hand-in-hand, they now look like a clearcut couple of men, due to their appearance. They get more looks than earlier, and people have also heckled them. Sometimes, a threat of violence has also been in the air.
"When I lost my privilege to view the world from a perpetually hetero-point of view, it's become more clear. that Finland still has it's own share of homo- and transphobia. It's rough, and it does actual real damage", Juuso says.
Luckily, friends and family took the couples coming out well.
These days, Juuso speaks of the matter routinely. He tours junior high schools, among other places, performing his "Outo homo menee kouluun" (The Weird Fag Goes To School)-monologue, in which he tells his story. The monologue teaches kids about the diversity of love, sexuality and gender, in accordance with the curriculum, by way of Juuso's own example.
The students have reacted to the show positively according to Juuso. The negative feedback comes from people who haven't seen the show and aren't aware that the show is specifically designed to suit younger people.
Juuso is excited about touring the schools.
"It's really cool to tour the schools! You sometimes see it in their eyes, that it was significant to that particular teen to have an adult speak about this subject out loud."
There is also a raunchier version of Juuso's show for adults. But there's still something special about visiting schools.
"It's the most pleasant job I've ever had so far. Performing for adults is fun and artistically challenging. But school tours make more sense, societally."
It seems like Juuso and his boyfriend are a textbook case of how true love withstands external changes. Their love is an understanding of souls, and it is one where people meet, not genders.
Juuso Kekkonen, how do you make relationship last?
- No such thing as telepathy. If you want something, you have to tell your partner. If you don't ask for what you need, you most likely will not get it. And that's a little bit your own fault.
This article is a part of YleX Etusivu entitled "Rakkauden Asialla" (Matters of Love), in which journalist Eve Väyrynen gets acquainted with the worlds most important subject.
A fine case of an emotionally manipulative puff-piece.
This article raises more questions than it should, though...
What do they mean with "external sex correction", and why do they treat it as if she had a penile implant?
How did the woman not realize she was living with a lesser male (or latent homosexual)?
Is the woman so hideous that she'll gladly be "the man" of the relationship?
Is that guy a pedo?
“As long as you are going to be thinking anyway, think big.” - Donald J. Trump
"I don't get all the women I want, I get all the women who want me." - David Lee Roth