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(03-28-2016 04:55 PM)Onto Wrote:
[quote='WestIndianArchie' pid='1262979' dateline='1459200374']
If he can't handle the social pressure of group of his friends, then he has greater problems. Because if a player
thinks that everyone is looking at him, and that he's being made to be a fool, in this case a digital cuckold - he's always going to be calculating and scheming to win the approval of people who clearly don't have his best interests at heart.
That's horrible game.
WIA[/quote]
I don't see how there's any question that's what was done. And I don't think it's about him not being able to handle social pressure or some deep desire to be approved by everyone.
She indirectly negated him in front of everyone.
How can one not feel the sting of that?
How can one be ok with letting another step on him in such a way?
I could see if it's a big guy and he's worried about getting his ass kicked, but this is his girlfriend. The one person out of most that's supposed to be supportive of him.
Everyone in the room knows she was out of line, that's why they looked at him.
I didn't say he shouldn't say anything.
The first thing he should do is ask himself why it bothers him.
This is a multi-faceted problem, but the first one is why is he so affected by some chick "indirectly negating him" if you want to use the doomsday terms.
If he's a player, if he has game - the bitch is replaceable. Wife, long term GF, favorite fuck buddy - what ever chick did this can be dropped and a hotter one in her place.
But if that type of thing makes him feel insecure, like HE HAS TO RESPOND SOME HOW, she's making him react.
Maybe the chick likes drama (because they all like drama), and this is her way out of getting him to do something - but he's not in control of himself if he can be forced into a situation.
I think you guys are making this way bigger than it is.
If a guy walked in the room and she was like, "Look at the big piece of meat" - that's open disrespect. That requires immediate attention.
But if a chick reacts to anything on TV, and then now you have to counteract whatever she does, she's the one wearing the condom in the relationship.
Furthermore, you can't control her. You can influence her, but the second that you try to micro-manage her words, feelings, and emotions - you're no longer a player.
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(03-28-2016 04:55 PM)Onto Wrote:
What if everyone is hanging out at a bar with a group of people and your girl says some nice flattering remark about a guy at work? Or across the room?
What if she decides to sit in another guy's lap?
Can't say anything because that would be weak game?
Women start their shit tests out small, and if you don't nip it in the bud they will keep upping the ante.[/quote]
If she says there's this guy at work that's cute?
In my mind, he's already lost.
There's nothing to nip in the bud, because she's not "in check."
If she says that guy over there is cute
He's already lost, because she can go do something about that. There's nothing that he can do.
Give her a cold stare?
Turn his back on her?
Reprimand her?
Drag her out of the bar?
If she jumps in another guy's lamp
He's already lost.
You guys that want to play some typical chick ejaculation as a sign of greater things to come
- Don't understand hypergamy (She'll fuck someone behind your back and you won't know it)
- Don't understand game (it's about making her react)
- Don't understand women (they say all sorts of inane shit all day)
- Live in a fantasy world where "Alpha" solves everything, and these chicks just obey you like a dog.
That doesn't happen in the real world.
Not in America, not in the Philippines, not in Colombia, not in Latvia.
Maybe in Saudi Arabia where sheikhs keep bitches literally on lock down.
These chicks have minds and desires of their own. And if you react to every slight - real or perceived - , she's controlling you. She's getting the drama she wants out of you, on her terms.
You can of course always play these situations hard, but playing it hard means you have no flexibility.
WIA