[Handsome Creepy Eel]

Ignore - any attempt to "turn the tables" will just end up digging you in deeper.

Then after the friends are gone become "busy" and don't contact her for a full day.

I find that most shit tests are better solved by privately making a mental note than by trying to one-up her.

[PapayaTapper]

To me this type of shit test is indicative of a bigger issue...disrespect. I think you did the right thing by not acknowledging it publicly but I (personally) would make sure my girl knew that if she fucking showed me out in front of friends again it would be the last fucking time...But that's just me

[mogsy]

Imagine that there was not an invisible emotional rope attaching you and her into this boyfriend/girlfriend scenario and she was just an ordinary girl making an observation about some picture she sees on a piece of plastic in front of her...

Girlfriend or not, what one persons opinion is shit test or not is out of your control, you can however decide how you frame her and other people's behaviour and then this sort of thinking becomes a non issue.

[el mechanico]

Who's friends yours or hers? How were the others matched up?

[Anabasis to Desta]

(03-27-2016 05:21 PM)el mechanico Wrote:  

Who's friends yours or hers? How were the others matched up?

New city so most people i know are through her. 4 of her friends and 2 guys. One of the guys was with one of the girls. This was no home turf game for me.

(03-27-2016 04:29 PM)rudebwoy Wrote:  

The part that has me thinking, is when the other people in the room looked at you.

I get the impression your girl made a real scene out of what she said.

This is what she did. Disrespectful as hell man.

(03-27-2016 03:31 PM)Bacchus Wrote:  

Make fun of her "crush." Say something like "You should marry him."

She'll back down.

Edit: Don't make fun of the guy. Tease her for liking him.

I really like that. Succinct and puts her on the defense.

[el mechanico]

^ Cheat on her and get caught no need to cause drama or feel insecure put her in her place proper.

[Travesty]

"Too bad for him, he doesn't know what I know about you"

Shake your head slowly side to to side to and grin. Let hamster spin and all her friends wonder. Never answer what you mean. Treat it as a joke if she starts wanting to fight tell her to relax it was a joke and laugh it off. If she won't let it go walk out while laughing and shaking your head.

Does she have a mental issue?

Is she bad in bad?

Is she a whore in bed?

Is she dull?

Is she a naggy bitch?

Is she crazy?

I like to play offense. Make it her personal issue she has no way to resolve or reach closure.

[Travesty]

el
mech
goin
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[_GQ_]

You have feelings for this chick? If not just keep fucking her until she decides to move on.

[Rush87]

I mean, it's biology. Bitches are going to think these things whether they say them or not. Biologically you'll think the same about other women. Like you though, I would have a problem with her verbalising it amongst friends. It's disrespectful. I would take a mental note and if she does it again, dump her.

[Wince]

1. Why do you care?

2. If it's disrespect, then you need to treat the cause not the symptom.

P.S. Regardless of the above, thank you for posting. I have had this problem both many years ago and recently. My inner reaction is far better now that I am more secure. I imagine as I progress further it will eventually not bother me at all.

[Oz.]

Fuck one of her hotter friends and when you get caught do the whole hand fan thing "she was just too hot"

[RatInTheWoods]

I like "hes way out of your league!"

But yeah this is a sign she is not into you, disrespectful and uncool.

[BassPlayaYo]

What you do depends on what your woman would do in this situation. If you make comments about women on TV being attractive and your woman gets pissed, you can rest assured she's disrespecting you. In this situation you have to make it clear that it will not be tolerated. People that respect you are mindful of your feelings and behave accordingly.

[RatInTheWoods]

Btw further reading here:

Ogle other guys Issue

[Soundbyte]

Speaking as a guy with sisters, that behavior needs to be nipped before long. Otherwise, depending on the person she is, she will get more bold.

[kinjutsu]

This is most definitely a shit test and a very serious one at that.

There's a couple of things here that give me pause though:

-Behavior like this doesn't come out of nowhere, either she's done this or similar things to you before or there was an event that triggered this bad behavior.
1. There was probably red flags that weren't picked up during the beginning of the relationship. Most guys on the forum are guilty of ignoring the red flags because the pussy is THAT good, at least early on.
2. Did you and her recently have a discussion that she got butt hurt over. A bruised ego from a GF can cause her to do reckless things.

-How often do you joke around and make sarcastic comments with her? Maybe she thought that it was acceptable based on how you interact with her and your friends.

-Beige Philip says your bitch is a reflection of you. Those people that were present now think you cannot control her or at the very least cannot command a certain level of respect from her. This needs to change regardless if you stay with her or move on to the next girl. Western women have amped up hamsters and will shit test more often just as a matter of course.
Everyone had great responses to her comment but wouldn't it be better if she never thought to make it?
Whether it comes from fear or respect or a mix of both, no woman should feel so emboldened to openly challenge your manhood in front of people. A clear sign of disrespect.

-There are many ways to "get even" with her.

1. Making comments about every attractive girl you see.
2. Ghosting on her for a few days, then pretend like nothing happened.
3. Fuck her friend(s) This is completely dependent on skill and whether or not her friends think you're a loser.
4. Fuck her really roughly to re-establish dominance. This may backfire on you because its like she's being rewarded for bad behavior. Tread carefully.
5. Tell her you're gonna do you're own thing for a while. She'll try to contact you and try to figure out whats wrong etc..
Dodge her for a bit and just start dating other girls. When she asks why simply tell her you thought she wanted to date that guy off the tv. You didn't want to get in her way.


(Some people reading this may think I'm taking this too seriously. Fine. What happens to the OP if this was his wife instead and this was just one in a series of shit tests that he was failing. What happens if she cucks him and gets knocked up by another guy. He ends up paying for a kid that isn't his for 18 years because she doesn't respect him.)

[alphaspiraton]

It matters very much if she made that comment in private with just you two watching television, or in a public setting such as with the social group as you described. In this case it was with the group and that is major disrespect. A girl should never be comfortable enough with you to say anything to humiliate you or put you on the spot.

If you know you're not going to marry her, then no harm done. Fuck, eat, sleep, rinse and repeat. Until you find the one.

If you are planning on marrying her then you need to set your foot down and have a stern conversation with her. Say you didn't appreciate what she did. Call her out on it. And if she pretends that what she did was completely innocent, or tries to play it off as goofy, next her.

This may seem like an overkill but if it irked you now, chances are she will likely do it again in the future in a much worse way. Life is too short to live by someone else's rules.

[rudebwoy]

i get the impression this is a new relationship, girls always test the limits in the beginning.

Basic rule - is punish bad behaviour and reward good behaviour.

I would say pull back, go dark for a few days and if you can look for some more recruits.

[Fortis]

Depends.

She did it to provoke you and you didn't take the bait. Good on you.

I think that sort of shit is par for the course. Lots of chicks will try and see how you react to shit just because it's in the coding. You can shut it down by agreeing and amplifying in that situation, but I think that sort of thing is better for when you're solo, becuase A&A can look sort of unnecessarily dickish if it's in a room with her friends.

Not that being a dick is necessarily a bad thing in that situation, but I like to avoid setting bad behavioral precedents with people. If you're always snarky with them it can escalate otherwise benign situations.

[General Stalin]

"Is he better looking than me?"

[PeanutoftheNight]

I think this is a tricky analysis which would, in a perfect world, require more information about this girl. This could easily be a very disrespectful and self-serving statement for her to make, done in a conscious manner, to demean you. It could also be an observation or comment she routinely makes with her girlfriends (and that context isn't objectionable, as we men do it far more than the women do). It could be she forgot her setting or was used to being more dominant over other men. I don't think that this being a one or two time occurrence is a deal-breaker by any means, but if it keeps happening its a problem.

Without a doubt, as a species, we look for, act on, and project power. Some societies, very few but some, are actually matriarchal rather than patriarchal. While not the norm by any means, this shows us that women are willing and capable of exerting dominance, and in individual relationships we see this all the time. Maybe she is used to this approach in her dating/relationship history. Whether it is a problem or not depends on whether this practice is simple power dynamics of instinct, or a feminist agenda. If it is the former, clearly establishing your firm male dominance may be enough to show her the foul. Almost all girls love firm strength and leadership, and muscular build isn't necessary. If the latter, the feminist agenda is her motivation, dump her without delay. That can't be corrected, and rejecting her for that agenda will do more to teach a lesson of the stupidity of feminism than any power-projection or lecture.

[spygoat]

If the way you describe is how she acted and she was trying to get 'drama' from you.

Soft Next. Instantly post game. No butthurt feelings. Ignore for minimum 3 days - after that text her and tell her to come over and fuck. Crush the shit out of her and get her to make you a sandwich after.

Women are stupid but not stupid (at least if you want to keep banging her), she'll know without you saying anything that she fucked up and if she wants to keep riding your alpha cock she better smarten the fuck up.

Act like a man. Shit don't phase I'm superman.

[Gas]

This reminds me of a few similar shit tests my girls have pulled on me in group settings. I handled most of them terribly but learned a lot from them. It's always hard when that happens, especially if the friends are hers, because you know they'll definitely be on her side. I think you played it right. I find it best to ignore and deal with it later on, because I'm not a very confrontational guy. Go dark, then act like nothing happened.

Another option is to completely ghost her the rest of the night and start gaming one of the other single girls there. Flirt obviously and when she brings it up later on, just tell her she's being an idiot and you're just making friends. You're letting her know you can still catch fish. The fact you have a girlfriend actually makes gaming other girls there easier, because it brings their shields down and you're already preselected.

Another good move if you're having a shit time anyway is to just leave. Don't be butt hurt, just pull out your phone and be like "shit, I actually have to go, something's up. Say bye to everyone like it's all cool and when she asks why you're leaving just ignore her or brush it off. "Guy stuff. Don't worry about it." Even better if she gets stuck without a ride home, fucks her night up.

[Gas]

Actually here's a similar idea from another member from the previous mentioned thread. Golden.

(11-07-2015 08:12 PM)HankMoody Wrote:  

True story, take this for what it's worth.

I had just started dating my current girl. She's a solid 8, 8.5 if you like short petite girls.

We had just banged at my place. After, I decided to go out and get some brunch. We walk to bar near my house. We're chilling, hanging out, and I'm like "Babe, I'm gonna go get us some drinks. Hold down the fort." This is like two weeks into it.

When I get back, she is talking to two Australian guys. Completely ignoring me. I hand her a drink, and she and keeps talking to them. She doesn't introduce me, doesn't bring me into the conversation, nothing. This goes on for 20 so I walk inside and start talking to people.

She's still talking to them outside, and doesn't even notice that I'm gone.

In my head, I'm thinking this: "Ok, do I walk up and clown them? Assert my alphaness and pick a fight? Do I walk up and just butt into the conversation, and see what she does? How do I handle this?"

After some thinking, I hop in my car and leave. Not a word to her. About 15 minutes later I get a text:

"Hank, where are you?"
"[other part of town]"
"What? Did you just leave?"
"ya"
"Are you serious? You can't just abandon me like that! How am I supposed to get home?"
"uber"
"That is so fucked up! I can't believe you just left me in your neighborhood? What are you doing?"
"food shopping"
"Are you mad at me because I was talking to those guys?"
"nah"

[hours later]

"Hank, I talked to Joe Beta and he said what you did was really fucked up. You abandoned me! Those guys were probably gay anyway! You can't just leave me in a bar in a strange part of town! I am so mad at you! I deserve much better than this!"
[no response]

[hours later]

"Hank... I'm really sorry for what I did. I was just trying to be social. I didn't realize that I was ignoring you, and I see where you are coming from. Could you at least respond to me?"
"ok"
"Can I come over?"
"later. playing vids"

It's never happened again.

Here is my point. You have to punish bad behavior by being a giant dick about it, without making a big scene like a whiney bitch. If she pulls that shit, do something completely outrageous like leave her in a public place or something. Then act like it's no big deal.