I was on the fence on moving this to the newbie section (admins please do so if warranted)
Usually I’m the one on here trying to advise, provide input, question, and supporting my fellow RVF’ers.
There comes a time where even a seasoned vet needs help in life, which is what I’m truly asking from you gents.
I’ve come to a possible fork in the road with my LTR, I’ll give some basics first.
Her(Pros/Cons):
-2 year LTR coming up in a few months (I still bang constantly on the side)
-Mid 20’s (I’m in my very late 20’s)
-Looks department solid 8 – body I’d say a 7.5 (Runway mode like body, small tits, no big ass)
-People always compliment her on how pretty she is
-Low notch count, I believe her when she says 5 including me.
-Does have tattoos and her tongue pierced
-Very submissive and quiet. Isn’t loud nor obnoxious, even when drinking.
-Low Maintenance, I don’t spend much on her, we pay for eachothers stuff all the time
-Constant Cigg Smoker and Weed Smoker (Doesn’t do it around me, but will smokes ciggs outside)
-Fulltime Bartender at a restaurant– also waitresses a day or 2 a week
-VERY much a daddy’s girl, close to her father, good relationship with her mother
-She does come from a lower income family, her father is disabled and can’t work, her mother works fulltime
-Single Child – also close to her grandparents on her father’s side as well.
-Very feminine, dresses well/conservatively, always has her nails and make up done.
-Has that Latina temper and can get jealous if I say hi to a girl. (Especially when drinking)
-She can very passionate and emotional about our relationship at times.
Our LTR:
-Almost 2 years
-Very loyal, loves me to death, sex when I want it, got me cuffs and whips.
-I’m friendly with her parents and grandparents, I rarely see them, since they’re local to her.
-Loves just being with me, doesn’t mind not going out, we do travel, go to concerts together etc.
-My friends love her, a few ask when I’m locking her down for good
-We hangout about 2 days a week, occasionally 3 times a week. (Our schedule doesn’t let us meet more)
-She drives over 40 minutes to me and spends the night or meets me near my work and drive to my pad
-She gave me the “what are we talk” after a few months of seeing each other and catching me on tinder (I denied till I died said it was a crazy ex catfishing me)
-She also told me she loves me first whilst breaking down about a serious issue (see below)
-We complement each other’s lives and never really fight, no belittling arguments either.
Serious Events:
-She had an abortion
-I got herpes, but didn’t have sex with her until I cleared.
-It’s been over a year and I haven’t had a breakout (I’m almost positive she never got it)
-About a month ago she had the “where are we going conversation”. Thinking about marriage, kids, etc. I told her I don’t know if I want kids yet, marriage rates look dismal, worried about divorces, child custody etc.
-Her father is very slowly dying of a unique disease that can’t really be healed – she wants to be married and have children before she’s 30 so her children have some recollection of her father.
The latest situation that brought this post up:
We’re at a bar, hanging out with my friends. I take a piss and as I walk out of this pisser a girl calls my name, this cute Persian girl that frequents my work, we chat for a bit, and I politely eject.
My girl in her Latina way immediately asks who that bitch was and how she doesn’t like her and why I didn’t introduce her. I simply tell my girl, that girl I said hi to drops money at my work, along with her family, of course I’m going to say hi. My girl gets butt hurt about it and I tell her to calm down, she does a bit. I’m talking to my friends about some stuff and not paying attention to my main, she huffs and goes outside to smoke. Eventually she decides to get food, calls and asks what I want then heads to my house.
We start bickering a bit when she’s outside my house, I tell her to get inside, we don’t even eat and she starts crying in bed.
She tells me that we don’t have as much as attention as she wants, and that she wants to see me MORE than 2 days a week. As in she needs more of me in her life because she loves me so much. The distance is tough also.
I basically tell her that’s hard to change since we both have schedules that let us only see each other 2 days a week. We’re both not going to quit our jobs over it and we’re both not in a position to move. Eventually she settles down and we pass out – of course she’s upset the entire day.
We had a conversation over the weekend on my way to work about what we should do and what needs to happen.
I reiterate that it’s something we really can’t change and we’ll need to figure out what to do next. I ask her do we need to put this on hiatus to figure things out, I suggest talking about in person as well. She cries on the phone saying it hurts.
She tells me that everything is great with us, that I helped her through everything (abortion/herpes) it just that she wants more of it, more of seeing me. She can’t be without me.
She says something that made me feel bad, she said if we broke up that she’d be fucked, because of the Herpes. My gut kind of turned but I told her there’s no way she got it, I hadn’t had an outbreak, she never has had an initial outbreak. Basically she was saying she’d be damaged goods.
I keep telling her that’s not the case and that we need to talk about it in person, that time is tonight.
Summary:
I’m going to be honest – I do love her and enjoy being around her, she’s pretty rad – but banging this perky tight 22 year old Indian girl last week, reminded me what I can still get.
I’ve told her before if she’s going to want a future, she needs to stop smoking at least cigarettes immediately, and weed later on.
Her parents smoke ciggs and weed also. I’m also worried about her family not having much of an income.
I’m very worried about her father passing away and in the next few years, I’m not sure I could handle her heartbreak.
She’s a great girl, she’s pretty, very low maintenance, but I’m just not sure what the next steps can be. I do want to have an open and honest talk with her. I just have a sinking feeling about what can happen, and that’s natural for someone you’ve been with for a while, care for, and love.
Usually I’m flirty and sarcastic with girls, but with her I just don’t give a fuck and act how I want, and she loves that.
Our schedules are what they are, I’ve told her that if she can’t handle it then maybe she’ll have to find it elsewhere.
But finding a feminine, low notch, genuinely sweet girl with latin sass is sometimes a needle in a haystack. (I know I know, pussy on the pedestal)
I'm a bit lost on this - I'm a bit scared about the future as in -
-committing to her and eventually having children with her.
-there's alot to that since financially I can't afford a family on my income
-the whole cigg and smoking for years thing worries me
-i'm not sure i'm ready or want children (yet or ever)
-I don't want to waste her biological clock if she's looking to have children in the next few years. That's not fair to her.
-I also don't want to waste our time if we can't find some resolution to this.
I’d really appreciate veteran player (newbies are more than welcome) input on this – indeed this is a tough road to navigate.
Please PM me or ask me on here if you need more personal details or have any additional questions.
Much love and happy holidays.
Usually I’m the one on here trying to advise, provide input, question, and supporting my fellow RVF’ers.
There comes a time where even a seasoned vet needs help in life, which is what I’m truly asking from you gents.
I’ve come to a possible fork in the road with my LTR, I’ll give some basics first.
Her(Pros/Cons):
-2 year LTR coming up in a few months (I still bang constantly on the side)
-Mid 20’s (I’m in my very late 20’s)
-Looks department solid 8 – body I’d say a 7.5 (Runway mode like body, small tits, no big ass)
-People always compliment her on how pretty she is
-Low notch count, I believe her when she says 5 including me.
-Does have tattoos and her tongue pierced
-Very submissive and quiet. Isn’t loud nor obnoxious, even when drinking.
-Low Maintenance, I don’t spend much on her, we pay for eachothers stuff all the time
-Constant Cigg Smoker and Weed Smoker (Doesn’t do it around me, but will smokes ciggs outside)
-Fulltime Bartender at a restaurant– also waitresses a day or 2 a week
-VERY much a daddy’s girl, close to her father, good relationship with her mother
-She does come from a lower income family, her father is disabled and can’t work, her mother works fulltime
-Single Child – also close to her grandparents on her father’s side as well.
-Very feminine, dresses well/conservatively, always has her nails and make up done.
-Has that Latina temper and can get jealous if I say hi to a girl. (Especially when drinking)
-She can very passionate and emotional about our relationship at times.
Our LTR:
-Almost 2 years
-Very loyal, loves me to death, sex when I want it, got me cuffs and whips.
-I’m friendly with her parents and grandparents, I rarely see them, since they’re local to her.
-Loves just being with me, doesn’t mind not going out, we do travel, go to concerts together etc.
-My friends love her, a few ask when I’m locking her down for good
-We hangout about 2 days a week, occasionally 3 times a week. (Our schedule doesn’t let us meet more)
-She drives over 40 minutes to me and spends the night or meets me near my work and drive to my pad
-She gave me the “what are we talk” after a few months of seeing each other and catching me on tinder (I denied till I died said it was a crazy ex catfishing me)
-She also told me she loves me first whilst breaking down about a serious issue (see below)
-We complement each other’s lives and never really fight, no belittling arguments either.
Serious Events:
-She had an abortion
-I got herpes, but didn’t have sex with her until I cleared.
-It’s been over a year and I haven’t had a breakout (I’m almost positive she never got it)
-About a month ago she had the “where are we going conversation”. Thinking about marriage, kids, etc. I told her I don’t know if I want kids yet, marriage rates look dismal, worried about divorces, child custody etc.
-Her father is very slowly dying of a unique disease that can’t really be healed – she wants to be married and have children before she’s 30 so her children have some recollection of her father.
The latest situation that brought this post up:
We’re at a bar, hanging out with my friends. I take a piss and as I walk out of this pisser a girl calls my name, this cute Persian girl that frequents my work, we chat for a bit, and I politely eject.
My girl in her Latina way immediately asks who that bitch was and how she doesn’t like her and why I didn’t introduce her. I simply tell my girl, that girl I said hi to drops money at my work, along with her family, of course I’m going to say hi. My girl gets butt hurt about it and I tell her to calm down, she does a bit. I’m talking to my friends about some stuff and not paying attention to my main, she huffs and goes outside to smoke. Eventually she decides to get food, calls and asks what I want then heads to my house.
We start bickering a bit when she’s outside my house, I tell her to get inside, we don’t even eat and she starts crying in bed.
She tells me that we don’t have as much as attention as she wants, and that she wants to see me MORE than 2 days a week. As in she needs more of me in her life because she loves me so much. The distance is tough also.
I basically tell her that’s hard to change since we both have schedules that let us only see each other 2 days a week. We’re both not going to quit our jobs over it and we’re both not in a position to move. Eventually she settles down and we pass out – of course she’s upset the entire day.
We had a conversation over the weekend on my way to work about what we should do and what needs to happen.
I reiterate that it’s something we really can’t change and we’ll need to figure out what to do next. I ask her do we need to put this on hiatus to figure things out, I suggest talking about in person as well. She cries on the phone saying it hurts.
She tells me that everything is great with us, that I helped her through everything (abortion/herpes) it just that she wants more of it, more of seeing me. She can’t be without me.
She says something that made me feel bad, she said if we broke up that she’d be fucked, because of the Herpes. My gut kind of turned but I told her there’s no way she got it, I hadn’t had an outbreak, she never has had an initial outbreak. Basically she was saying she’d be damaged goods.
I keep telling her that’s not the case and that we need to talk about it in person, that time is tonight.
Summary:
I’m going to be honest – I do love her and enjoy being around her, she’s pretty rad – but banging this perky tight 22 year old Indian girl last week, reminded me what I can still get.
I’ve told her before if she’s going to want a future, she needs to stop smoking at least cigarettes immediately, and weed later on.
Her parents smoke ciggs and weed also. I’m also worried about her family not having much of an income.
I’m very worried about her father passing away and in the next few years, I’m not sure I could handle her heartbreak.
She’s a great girl, she’s pretty, very low maintenance, but I’m just not sure what the next steps can be. I do want to have an open and honest talk with her. I just have a sinking feeling about what can happen, and that’s natural for someone you’ve been with for a while, care for, and love.
Usually I’m flirty and sarcastic with girls, but with her I just don’t give a fuck and act how I want, and she loves that.
Our schedules are what they are, I’ve told her that if she can’t handle it then maybe she’ll have to find it elsewhere.
But finding a feminine, low notch, genuinely sweet girl with latin sass is sometimes a needle in a haystack. (I know I know, pussy on the pedestal)
I'm a bit lost on this - I'm a bit scared about the future as in -
-committing to her and eventually having children with her.
-there's alot to that since financially I can't afford a family on my income
-the whole cigg and smoking for years thing worries me
-i'm not sure i'm ready or want children (yet or ever)
-I don't want to waste her biological clock if she's looking to have children in the next few years. That's not fair to her.
-I also don't want to waste our time if we can't find some resolution to this.
I’d really appreciate veteran player (newbies are more than welcome) input on this – indeed this is a tough road to navigate.
Please PM me or ask me on here if you need more personal details or have any additional questions.
Much love and happy holidays.