This thread actually kept me awake last night. I woke up at 3AM thinking about stack-on's posts. I'm sorry to see that he got banned. Don't know the specific reason but if it was for trolling, I'm going to say I've been around the BDSM community some and he's not trolling. Everything he said jives with what I know about BDSM.
What I wish was that stack-on had a chance to write his data sheet AND that he'd made some mention of "aftercare". To his credit, stack-on did write "If you want to learn how to do bdsm the right way go to fetlife." and talked about learning to do this the right way. He's not talking garden-variety cruelty here, like "haha, I jizzed on her face when she wasn't expecting it!" When you put this much abuse onto a woman, there's this concept of "aftercare". If you're seriously interested in this stuff, do some research. There's a difference between BDSM and straight abuse which Lizard actually touched on:
Quote: (02-02-2015 08:48 PM)The Lizard of Oz Wrote:
What I cannot stomach is the utter boredom, conventionality, and inspidity of these grim "BDSM" antics, and the fussily uninspired jargon that surrounds them.
It is no surprise that feminists and other dullards are drawn to this harshly impoverished world and its language. Whether it's a "safe space" or a "safe word", they have an unerring instinct for the most grating and joyless cant imaginable.
Agree. BDSM bores me for that reason, and also because honestly, seeing a chick get flogged to the point she's bleeding? Piss? The kind of detachment required to really be a "Dom"? That's why I know I'm not a sadist.
Quote: (02-02-2015 05:09 PM)stack-on Wrote:
I wasn't abused as a child. I think that I was born this way. My first sexual fantasy included hot women I saw at the beach in bikinis being chained to a basement wall. As for the women I've played with: some of them were, and some of them weren't. The important thing is that you either fulfill your fantasies in a safe, consensual, and legal way. Or failing that choose not to act on them.
Another dom once described his experience to me and it sounded exactly like stack-on (so much it makes me wonder if it's the same guy). He's always had violent fantasies about women and his sexual desire was always centered around violence. I just don't get that. To the extent that I'm into kink, it came a long time after I discovered the joy of plain ol' fucking. It seems to me like the guys who are really into this have always seen women this way. Yes, there's a lot of really fucked up psychology going on.
FWIW, I've never known many serious hotties into this stuff. I hooked up a long time (~10 years) ago with a chick who you can find on Google as "slave kas". My encounter was much tamer than any of the video you'll find. That's the hottest chick I've seen heavily into BSDM.