Quote: (11-28-2014 08:37 AM)iknowexactly Wrote:
I've been here in cebu three months, drooling over tall, thin, pale Korean chicks and they have some fucking Anti-Old-White-Guy radar-- They sense me coming and manage to totally avoid even making eye contact.
Often they are with 6 foot plus Korean guys. They are all studying English here on the cheap. the cute Flip girl I'm seeing teaches the young ones.
If you're under 35 and sharp maybe you can get somewhere. Shit, white SORORITY CHICKS IN THE USA show more interest in me than those girls....Being a total snob in Asia is considered completely natural, whereas upper-middle class white girls sometimes feel like they should at least acknowledge you exist.
My speculation is if you're Nordic looking and can avoid her friends knowing it might be OK.
Maybe part of the problem is that a lot of them are actually living here, studying for months at a time--several whole floors of Winland Towers Apartments are all K students with guards! to keep others from entering those floors.
So they are not on vacation, they will face judgement by their peers if they are here for months.
It's all about positioning.
See the world through their eyes for a moment. What do they likely see when they see you?
Is it:
A) "exciting exotic older guy with awesome lifestyle, connections, glint in his eye, bedroom skillz, discretion, and finesse"
Or is it...
B)"Another washed up horny old white guy looking for cheap sex in the Philippines (who probably doesn't even realise I'm a girl from a developed country)"
I'm not labelling you as either btw - just asking socratic questions to spark discussion. As an older guy you could position as either A or B, depending on your appearance and vibe.
Korean social circle is very tightly interwoven. Reputation is hugely important. When studying in Phils they will make a point of sticking with other Koreans. Before they've got to the club they've probably been to a Korean restaurant with friends, maybe even sung some Korean songs at KTV. Probably meeting Korean dudes from their social circle later.
How does a white guy there for notches with Phils girls fit into this reality? Of course, he doesn't.
They aren't snobs... they just want nothing to do with what they think you represent. It would be social death, as you mentioned.
You *could* bag one, it's doable, but you have to play it in a way that isn't going to trip one of her many "deal-breaker" switches. Any whiff of being a whore-monger, or even just an A-player there for filipina notches, and it's game over.
The question is, are you willing to position yourself such that she's drawn to you instead of avoidant.
Definitely a real challenge. Doable though. Afterall... they're studying in Phils, so they're not exactly moneyed Korean high-society.