"(Today 11:21 AM)thegiant Wrote:
Travolta, well shit here's to hoping that there is no other guy (yet).
She re initiated contact last night just by texting me "good night", I didnt respond. Normally I go see her on Friday nights. Should I extend the radio silence past Friday this time due to the severity of the circumstances?
Actually it would have been good to text her back, "night". She might send some more texts, THEN you go on radio silence. Remember, you want to always leave women wanting more. Some other posters mentioned calibration; you need to calibrate yourself to her attraction level. Right now it sounds like you are calibrated to her speech; this is the WORST place you can be with a woman. Calibrate yourself to her actions and to her attraction level to you, and act accordingly. There should be no question of when you contact her, you should just know based on the attraction signals you're getting from her. Forget that "1 to 2 day rule" or "2 to 3 day rule" or "3 to 5 day rule". Every girl is different and every situation is different. Learn to read your own girl.
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Edit: what sucks is I was planning to take her to Vegas this weekend, but then this shit happened and now I think I need her to make the first apologetic move, not me, before I even bring up a fun trip together, correct?
Speaking of calibration...
What is it about a Vegas trip that will increase her attraction to you? Not to mention McQueen's valid point...why the hell would you take a chick to Vegas anyway? If you're going to do something romantic, fine, but Vegas is where you go to let loose and forget all that shit and do what YOU want.
As far as recovering this situation, the less said, the better. The more you dwell on what happened, the more she'll be reminded of your behavior and lose attraction.
If I were you, I'd inspire some sympathy from her and say, "Tell you what, sorry I reacted the way I did. I've got a lot of shit on my mind right now. I need some time to sort things out and then we'll put this behind us."
That's showing initiative and shows her you're a man of action, not dwelling on the drama of the past. Saying, "I've got a lot of shit on my mind right now" is a gold statement, learn to use it. It makes you look more complex and mysterious to her, and also appeal to her sympathetic nature in wanting to help you out. If you can paint yourself out to be the tortured soul with some demons inside, that shit drives chicks nuts.
Meanwhile, your "time to sort things out" involves you going to Vegas and chasing some strange."