[Petrosius]

Hi my Friends!

First of all,im in love with a girl,she's latvian and during the summer she will go to work to the Unated States(Alaska) during one year..Because there is a special program that hires people from EE to work overseas..

Why i'm in love with her?Everything is amazing,is the girl that most catched my attention during day time and i went for her...appart from being very hot,the personality and sex is amazing so is the first time in my life i've feel simething like that.

I had more tan 20 lays previously(im 22 years old),including some relationships of about 6 months and one night stands,fuck buddies...

At the momento of choosing her i had in rotation 2 girls,and when I started with her I kicked both girls out

So,that's the situation,she will go to Alaska during one year and i will be in Europe(i will plan one travel overseas to see her),but the point is that is the first time in my fucking life i've feel this kind of feelings so strongly for a woman and i want to keep her.

Any recommendation ,testimonials and advice for long distance relationships?

[Dagonet]

Don't.

[Comte De St. Germain]

This is a game forum mind you. Long distance is not in our vocabulary nor is love for a woman who is not invested in you completely. Move on and find someone else. If you insist on keeping her this place might not be for you.

[Daddy]

If you care so much about her, why do you even let her go? Women should follow their man, not the other way around. If I understand correctly, you live in a more traditional country, where long term relationships and families still work. If that's the case, don't let her leave the country. Tell her to stay there. She should stay with you and support you in your career, not the other way around.

If she can't do that, then she's not the right girl to commit to and you should forget about her. She should just be the 21th lay. Sorry man for being harsh, but she will be in Alaska waving at you through her binoculors while getting raw dogged by young gringos who don't give a shit.

[Flavius Aetius]

Long distance relationships:

[Cobra]

Let me provide my $.02. I was in a long distance relationship just like you. I thought I was in love too for a lot of reasons I justified at that time. I eventually married her and once we started living together I became a pleaser beta bitch as a manifestation of all the promises I made to her over the phone. I realized that I made those promises as an extra effort to keep her given we were 'just' talking over the phone. Talking over the phone that long in and of itself is damaging. I also realized she was doing the same thing as far as presenting an extension of herself in those days. Now I know better. Be careful of what you hear; trust only what you see and experience.

[Petrosius]

(03-02-2014 12:49 PM)rkp208 Wrote:  

Let me provide my $.02. I was in a long distance relationship just like you. I thought I was in love too for a lot of reasons I justified at that time. I eventually married her and once we started living together I became a pleaser beta bitch as a manifestation of all the promises I made to her over the phone. I realized that I made those promises as an extra effort to keep her given we were 'just' talking over the phone. Talking over the phone that long in and of itself is damaging. I also realized she was doing the same thing as far as presenting an extension of herself in those days. Now I know better. Be careful of what you hear; trust only what you see and experience.

but how many time did you were together?i mean ¿did you have sex with her before and so on?

[Benoit]

(02-20-2014 03:36 PM)Petrosius Wrote:  

the first time in my fucking life i've feel this kind of feelings so strongly for a woman and i want to keep her.

This is the wrong way to think about it.

What is she going to do to keep you?

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

To be contrarian here, I have no problem with long distance relationships. If things between you are good, they'll be good regardless of distance, and vice versa. If either of you is the jealous type, though, it's going to suck.

That said, my long distance relationships were based on two people living in their respective cities and staying there, traveling to see each other - not being long distance because one of them suddenly traveled away. I'm not sure how that is going to work out, as it's far much more of a shock to handle.

[rudebwoy]

Why the need for her to go to Alaska for one year?
Think about that for a second, is she more into this relationship or are you.
Most girls I have dated would not even entertain this thought.
What happens when she returns, I can guarantee she will meet someone else in no time.
For your sanity, do the right thing.

[Cobra]

(03-02-2014 01:51 PM)Petrosius Wrote:  

(03-02-2014 12:49 PM)rkp208 Wrote:  

Let me provide my $.02. I was in a long distance relationship just like you. I thought I was in love too for a lot of reasons I justified at that time. I eventually married her and once we started living together I became a pleaser beta bitch as a manifestation of all the promises I made to her over the phone. I realized that I made those promises as an extra effort to keep her given we were 'just' talking over the phone. Talking over the phone that long in and of itself is damaging. I also realized she was doing the same thing as far as presenting an extension of herself in those days. Now I know better. Be careful of what you hear; trust only what you see and experience.

but how many time did you were together?i mean ¿did you have sex with her before and so on?

She wanted to wait till marriage to let me slip my dick in there; of course I agreed in order to please her mindset (be careful of this). That being said, she did go down on me which counts for intimate. Let me put this in perspective. I married this girl. I didn't unwind any of my beta tendencies until I found this forum. What I see in your situation (and I could be wrong) is that she may in fact have goals contrary to being with you. I'm not sure you know that yet. I'm a true believer that women should support a man if he's strong and has solid goals. Is she willing to do that for you? Is this alaska thing taking away from that? It seems you're pedestalizing her at least to the point of her being your center focus. Would it make more sense to focus on what you need and then see how she fits in? Think about a life without her and what you would accomplish. That will help.

[samsamsam]

From what I understand Alaska has big imbalance between men and women. And I bet those women are more rugged than feminine.

What do you think happens when these thirsty (men most likely rugged/alpha/cavemen types) see a pretty feminine girl?

[rudebwoy]

^ this is what I wanted to say but was being nice.

She wants to live in the USA and this is one way of filling her dream. I wouldn't even waste money or time going to visit her.

Save yourself the heartache.

[Suits]

(02-20-2014 03:36 PM)Petrosius Wrote:  

im in love with a girl

Strike this phrase from your rhetoric.

Also, we lean towards "I'm" as opposed to the nonsensical "im."

[DonJuanBrown]

I would also advise you to steer clear of this sort of thing. Kind of experiencing the burn-out of a similar situation myself at the moment. Things might've been dandy while she was around, but once she leaves, the love that you feel will turn into a deep, unhealthy infatuation.

Bang as many girls as you can while she's gone and do your own thing to the best of your ability.

The more you contact her while she's away, the more she's going to push you away, and the shittier you'll feel. If she's as hot as you say, she's going to get banged. Probably by some rugged lumberjack type. It's something you need to accept. The more you nag her and tell her how much you miss her, the more she'll resent you, actually.

Don't let this girl ruin the next year of your life.

[Cobra]

When phone and text are the only ways to communicate, it almost seems mandatory/compulsory to tell a girl that you miss her. She can even corner you into saying that by saying it herself. Instead, look in the mirror and tell yourself that you're the shit. Internalize.. Don't depend on her.

[AneroidOcean]

(02-20-2014 03:36 PM)Petrosius Wrote:  

First of all,im in love with a girl,she's latvian and during the summer she will go to work to the Unated States(Alaska) during one year..Because there is a special program that hires people from EE to work overseas..

"a special program that hires people from EE to work overseas"

This sounds kind of suspect. Does she have some specialty that would actually be applied out there in Alaska? I don't see why a feminine/pretty girl would go there and if I was a guy I certainly wouldn't want her to go just for her safety alone.

I'd tell her while you care about her that you won't be in a relationship with her while she's gone and that if she wants to stay with you it won't be long-distance for a year.

[rudebwoy]

^ They have programs that allow EE citizens to work in Canada, I know people from Croatia that have come here to work.

[BiggNastee]

I was in a LDR once. Keep in mind that's after banging her 3 times a day for 10 months. It lasted 10 days after she left and I saw her 3 times in that span. It's just the shittiest possible situation for a relationship and horribly unhealthy. Start detaching now OP

[Wayout]

OP...you seem to be invested in this girl a lot! Her going to Alaska is really bad news for you. See...in Alaska, there are very few good looking women...or women in general. Perhaps you can talk to her and compromise somehow?
Another thing you can do...and some of you will appreciate this move - go on CBP website and submit an anonymous tip that so and so ( your girlfriend) is going to Alaska to engage in prostitution. Make a good story and throw in some local names. Most likely they won't let her in and she'll be back in your arms shortly after...LOL
Little dirty - but " I would do anything for love!"...Meat Loaf