This is what i really love about this forum, you get a different outlook on things from other members!
Thank you all for the replies so far!
I've been so frustrated with the game for a while. I've put in quite a few years but haven't yielded back decent results which has affected my confidence to even pull at all but I do try.
To describe me. I'm 5'11, have a football player build and decent on the face(about 250 but i look more bulky than fat). I look like Will Smith and denzel a bit in the face and i do direct style.
With how NYC has been for me:
1) I didn't have any logistics whatsoever to where that might affect my mentality since i was visiting my friend for 8 hours and would go on a bus back to DC at 3:45 AM.
2) I did get e/c now and then. But i didn't commit myself to those situations or when i did, i thought that it wouldn't lead anywhere since it didn't in the past. Plus i get a little nervous in crowded places(when i see a hot girl tho, that nervousness goes away if i approach her)
3) My feelings of frustration and has caused me to be thirsty. Meaning that i'm in a rush to get from one step to another with a girl and haven't been able to relax because i deep down want something to develop since i'm so use to nothing developing.
4) My game needs work. I haven't pulled in my home city(DC) in about a year and some change but my logistics suck to begin with(i live 45 min away). Also, most conversation don't last that long with them as they want to go back to their friends(aka they just want to go back and might not be all that interested).
I blamed it on the bars and clubs being tough as girls are distracted easy, but in reality...it's my own fault for not committing more with some of those girls. Girls have ADD in general, so i just gotta find them again OR go to another bar to find easier targets. But i do have to say doing this for so long, i have picked up on things that have helped me get better in certain situations.
5) In East Village, My friend who I was visiting sabotaged some approaches of girls walking. Two good looking asian chicks were about to be down to going with us to another bar until my friend started cussing them out because he thought they stood me up but they weren't.
I think the reason i started the thread in the first place was that I had too much expectations for NYC to at least ease my frustration away because i haven't seen success in so long and haven't given it more of a go and wanted something to look forward to the game with again.
I do have to say though, there is so much quantity there to the point each where i went, there were at least cute girls. Plus, most weren't cold or mean to me...some showed receptiveness, its just i guess i just want to be able to have things stick with a girl longer than 5 minutes these days.
Plus, from what Menace said about Vicious, I think i just need to become exceptional in other areas. I think my strong approach starts out well but it can't be all i rely on as the results show its caused me a rut. I need to work on other areas.
And what MidNightSpecial said about me
being a lazy bum. I kept thinking i try hard sure maybe a few years ago but these days...i don't put in as much gungho effort like I use to...so I admit it, these days i'm not putting in the effort and I have become more lazy.
After hearing you're guys stories...you guys have given me hope that it is possible!
I'll go at it again but I have to plan better and work on more of my game to get it to work.
About posting a meetup, i never thought of that...that's a good idea. I didn't know a good amount of members lived in NYC
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Also, for other cities that i found less difficult...Vegas gave me that vibe.