Hi, brothas!
This is my first thread on this forum, and english isn't my native language so i apologize in advance if i did something wrong^^
I'm in a french city and actually, I have a group of 3 friends with whom I night game at least once per week. I have been in a long dry spell (10 months!!! ) partly due to some lacks in social skills, and approach anxiety.
We used to night game these last days almost every night ( since classes are over), but recently these friends started not going out, saying they were tired, not feeling it, if they were even answering at all when I asked them whether they wanted to go out or not.
The last Thursday and Friday I went thus dolo at bars and club, because I wanted to have fun regardless of their presence. But it was a bit difficult. Even if it was not my first time dolo, I did not know exactly how to handle it: try to be totally social and get into already formed groups celebrating birthday or something like that, or have fun on the dancefloor and invite the girls. The first time I went solo, almost no one in the club wanted to separate from their friends (it was a school fiesta) and I failed too at drawing almost any girl to dance with me ( I am not that bad at dancing)
Finally, yesterday (Saturday), after they came with me ( but did not do anything, and went at home quickly) I wanted to go dolo again, but I was so pissed that I finally said fuck it, and went at home too ( though I numclosed 2 girs by going elderly at the tram stop)
So my questions are ( if you want to answer them ^^)
-First: should I ditch my friends more, and game by myself? I feel like sometimes even if we are together, I am afraid to go sarge the 2+ sets without having one of them come with me.
-After that, supposing I go out dolo, how exactly should I do it? I know, you will tell me to just have fun and not overthink, but I wanted to know more about the way to go: be social first, then get the girls to dance, or dance, and be social after.
Thanks for all your advice.
Mikado
This is my first thread on this forum, and english isn't my native language so i apologize in advance if i did something wrong^^
I'm in a french city and actually, I have a group of 3 friends with whom I night game at least once per week. I have been in a long dry spell (10 months!!! ) partly due to some lacks in social skills, and approach anxiety.
We used to night game these last days almost every night ( since classes are over), but recently these friends started not going out, saying they were tired, not feeling it, if they were even answering at all when I asked them whether they wanted to go out or not.
The last Thursday and Friday I went thus dolo at bars and club, because I wanted to have fun regardless of their presence. But it was a bit difficult. Even if it was not my first time dolo, I did not know exactly how to handle it: try to be totally social and get into already formed groups celebrating birthday or something like that, or have fun on the dancefloor and invite the girls. The first time I went solo, almost no one in the club wanted to separate from their friends (it was a school fiesta) and I failed too at drawing almost any girl to dance with me ( I am not that bad at dancing)
Finally, yesterday (Saturday), after they came with me ( but did not do anything, and went at home quickly) I wanted to go dolo again, but I was so pissed that I finally said fuck it, and went at home too ( though I numclosed 2 girs by going elderly at the tram stop)
So my questions are ( if you want to answer them ^^)
-First: should I ditch my friends more, and game by myself? I feel like sometimes even if we are together, I am afraid to go sarge the 2+ sets without having one of them come with me.
-After that, supposing I go out dolo, how exactly should I do it? I know, you will tell me to just have fun and not overthink, but I wanted to know more about the way to go: be social first, then get the girls to dance, or dance, and be social after.
Thanks for all your advice.
Mikado