The
recent thread, 'Millionaire Playboy Has Hit The Limits of His Success With Women' reminded me of this one due to the similarities in both OPs - namely a long list of bragging points followed by a seemingly incongruous game problem or head-scratching details.
Quote: (04-11-2017 09:05 PM)gework Wrote:
My essential stats:
Income: top 0.2% in my developed country of origin, maybe will get into 0.1% this year; self-employed with the ability to have lots of time off (though I don't)
Attractiveness: rated 9.3, 8.9, 9.1 on different sites
Body: recently got back into gear with this, down to about 10% body fat, heading for the rips
Schlong: a good bit above average but nothing to write home about but top 1% of thickness
IQ: above 140
Attraction: I've not been around girls much, but if I am in a club I will get approached, sometimes for straight up sex; occasionally wolf whistled
At first I was like...
Quote: (04-11-2017 09:05 PM)gework Wrote:
But:
Girlfriends: essentially zero
Lays: zero
And then I was like...
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The below quote is from another thread started by the OP, 'Facebooking a Lost Oppurtunity' -
Quote: (04-27-2017 02:59 PM)gework Wrote:
Quote: (04-25-2017 12:35 AM)Dream Medicine Wrote:
1. Did you skype with Asdfk?*
2. Did you make contact with Whiteknightrises?*
3. Have you attempted to contact any RVFers in your area, in order to establish real-life connections?*
*4. (in relation to all of the above three questions) - If so, what was the outcome? If not, then why not?
1. Contacted to say "thanks for the offer", but looking for someone more local than 1,000s of miles away; though:
2. Contacted Whiteknightrises, just sent Skype
2b. Also contacted by another guy who I will speak with
3. No. Not sure what is the best way to go about this. I live between Manchester and Birmingham, UK.
Back in April you started this thread, asking for advice and mentoring. In addition to the detailed advice provided by myself and others, you received direct offers of help from multiple members such as Asdfk and Whiteknightrises. You also stated that you live near a number of big cities, so finding like-minded blokes should not be a problem if you put in a bit of work.
In response to my question "
Have you attempted to contact any RVFers in your area...?" you responded "
No. Not sure what is the best way to go about this". Once more, as linked in my first post in this thread, see here for the
'why' and 'how' to meet fellow RVFers. With this in mind I am wondering:
1. Have you met up with any RVF members?
2. If so, then let us know how it went. If not, then what action have you taken over the past four months to find a mentor and connect with fellow game-aware blokes?
This forum is populated by countless great men who are interested and invested in the success of other deserving, like-minded guys. It can be deeply satisfying to be involved in the growth of fellow men who, among other things, view self-development as a long-term journey, show openness to constructive feedback and appreciation for the advice given, and above all, bring integrity and a positive vibe to those around them. This sentiment is reflected here through the outpouring of goodwill and joy when a struggling member lifts themselves up (examples:
one,
two).
Conversely, it can be discouraging for a volunteer mentor to answer a request for advice and to see this advice thrown back in the mentor's face or clearly ignored. Consider how common it is for rookies here to ask for help and then fail to help themselves by outright rejecting the advice provided (
example), by appearing to accept positively-aimed feedback yet fall back into pessimism (
example), or by simply disappearing without explanation (
example). Given the prevalence of such posts, you can see how a measured dose of skepticism is warranted across the board, and even more so in this case. Frankly I don't know if your supposed situation is actually possible.
If you cannot demonstrate that you have followed through with any real-life effort here, it would be reasonable to conclude that you are either
(a) deliberately insincere; i.e., you invented an online persona - a pitifully lame move,
(b) seriously lacking in self-awareness, i.e., you made gross exaggerations due to a delusion of grandeur, representing a roadblock to self-mastery, or
(c} merely unmotivated; i.e., you're unwilling to commit to self-development, which would just be disappointing. If however you have put in some work offline then I will be pleasantly surprised, very surprised in fact, and give you props. I'm certainly open to having my doubts proved wrong.
What's more, making a public request for help and then not accepting the generous offers would be disrespectful to say the least and quash any of your remaining credibility. This lack of engagement also reduces the chance of other, more earnest rookies receiving help, as it merely adds to the readership's general fatigue of belief about the real-life dedication of new guys asking for help. There are plenty of potential mentors on board here, many with more patience than me, however there is a clear limit on the time any volunteer teacher will sacrifice when the student isn't ready to learn.
In closing, I still want to give you the benefit of doubt because if you're for real --
somehow? -- then you have a lot of potential. Indeed I do recognize your gift of gold as a possible sign of genuine investment. Finally, I welcome the desire to build real-life connections through RVF and would be happy to see more of it.