Quote: (05-31-2015 08:33 AM)robreke Wrote:
Quote: (05-30-2015 11:23 PM)Apollo21 Wrote:
Quote: (05-30-2015 10:04 PM)robreke Wrote:
I was reading "The Millionaire Mind" today and one of the chapters explains how choosing the right spouse is crucial if one wants to become a millionaire. Interestingly, the vast majority of millionaires are married (presumably happily) to the same spouse for a long time, usually for life. Most millionaires are married, not single or divorced.
The theme that occurred over and over when Millionaires were asked about their spouses and how their spouses contributed to their happiness and, indeed, financial success were that their spouses were:
Honest, Responsible, Loving, Capable and Supportive.
Those four themes occurred over and over amongst the millionaires interviewed.
There was one story about a very successful man who had been happily dating a woman for some time. They got along well, had similar interests, were attracted to each other and by all accounts she seemed a good, honest woman. He had intentions of marrying her. Then, he found out, due to a botched call from a credit company, that she was $ 35,000 in debt with student loans and had not been making any payments on them.
When he confronted her with this she hemmed and hawed at first saying it was no big deal. When he pressed her, she confessed that because she knew how wealthy and successful he was, she was planning on getting him to pay off the loans once they were married. She was going to keep the fact that she had all this debt under wraps under they were hitched. Disgusted by this feeling of dishonesty and betrayal he dumped her. Now single, he vows to vet any woman he is considering for marriage. The man said he would probably also want to do a credit check on any potential spouse in the future and he would be happy to show her his income statements and credit history as well.
So, to sum it up look for a girl who's : Honest, Responsible, Loving, Capable and Supportive. Oh yeah, and who you're attracted to and who is still years away from the wall and who is hopefully not whored out. Much tougher to do here in the West than anytime in history but, hopefully for the diligent and traditional minded man, still doable.
Honest, Responsible, Loving, Capable and Supportive.
What you're describing is a very specific and talented girl. As those are all individual skills that do take work and years of practice to develop to the point where she can actually help you advance and succeed in the trenches.
And as much as I love dating a wide variety of girls. (Don't we all)
Considering wife material is like finding a rare gemstone, you really have to
focus your efforts and your resources on winning that kind of girl.
Progress sometimes requires sacrifice.
^"those are all individual skills that do take work and years of practice to develop"
I beg to differ. Honesty, Responsibility, Lovingness, Capability and supportiveness are not "skills" They are character traits. They are, for the most part, a natural part of her innate character and upbringing. They are instilled in her being. A woman has them or doesn't. I suppose a dishonest, unresponsible, etc person could be taught to be more honest and responsible over the years, but if they were that way to begin with it's in their character.
That's the point of finding a woman with these character traits. They're part of her being.
Albeit, with hypergamy and the nature of women being what it is, you can never fully trust a woman won't change based on her emotional state or because of a new environment you bring her into. Therefore a man can never let his guard down or cease from using LTR game. But, finding a woman who you're convinced has these character qualities should make the partnership much easier and sustainable long term than if you tried with a woman lacking them.
That's a good start for finding wife material, however character traits aren't enough.
A good woman has to demonstrate that she can be loving, responsible, capable etc
in a way that actually helps you.
Just like no matter how passionate you are about football, you're not going to be a NFL quarterback
if you can't throw. And a great woman has to demonstrate she can help you by actually helping you.
I agree that there are women out there who can also ruin you...however
that has been the case for thousands of years. Just ask Samson and Delilah.
Samson had extremely poor judgement and chose the wrong woman to marry
who just so happened to be working for his enemies.
And despite all the obvious warning signs(i.e ambushes), he tells her the secret to his strength
and she cuts off all his hair while he sleeps and immediately summons his enemies (again)
who finally capture him.
The moral is, you have to develop and practice good judgement if you want to find
and marry the right woman.