Quote: (07-24-2011 03:55 AM)Samseau Wrote:
IOI's are bullshit. some girls who were really into me never displayed any strong IOI's. I just talked to them and their interest was appearent.
I don't think that any method is 100% foolproof. "Some" (note the conspicuous lack of the word "most" or "all" in this spot-this is telling) girls may not show blatant IOIs to men they like (or they will be subtle enough for most guys to miss them). They'll try to suppress what they can in order to avoid being too obvious. Other girls will flirt with anyone, masking some IOIs and blunting the significance of the ones you do see. Still others will display blatant IOIs and go cold as soon as you approach(Ivies are filled with these).
I would, however, contend that, in the majority of cases, a female who is "really into you" is going to show it in one way or another. There are physical triggers that women cannot help but show when in the presence of men they are attracted to, just as men often signal to women their own interest. These things are hardwired.
IOIs are quite far from "bullshit".
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so I do not believe there is any meaningful difference between cold/warm approaches,
1. One girl sends stares you down in the club, or (alternately) somehow finds herself next to you(body oriented consistently in your direction) several times over the course of the night, despite your being in a somewhat crowded place and moving around. She hasn't said a word to you yet. You approach her.
2. One girl is walking down the street or hanging out in a club with her friends, almost entirely oblivious to you. You approach her.
You don't see any difference here?
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the bottom line is that you still talk to her as a stranger.
Interactions with strangers are more nuanced than you are making them out to be. Some strangers will naturally be more open to interaction than others for a wide variety of reasons.
All situations are not created equal.
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