Quote: (10-30-2018 10:03 AM)TravelerKai Wrote:
Where this video maker has not quite understood why his change of opinion from 10 years ago has happened, is that he is beginning to realize that Risk Management and Assessment is the actual 800 pound gorilla in the room, not the perceived potential gorilla looking for a fight.
Right after reading this, I happened upon this video.
If an insane east coast Irishman like Bill Burr can learn to de-escalate, anyone should be able to.
(If a fight is avoided, and no one loses face, you just won.)
Part of it is Burr is a parent. Just having kids around, even if they aren't yours, changes the equation almost by itself.
I have had people threaten me a few times when my step kids were in tow. Both times in parking lots funnily enough, so, be aware, that is an odd hotspot.
I had a guy once where he was waiting for a spot, but I didn't see him and I took the spot when the other car left, so he hopped out of his car and flipped out on me.
I told him I didn't see him, which made him even madder. I pointed out that there were plenty of other spots available. (This was in New Mexico, where some of the craziest drivers on the planet live. You are only supposed to flip out if the other car takes the only available spot. It just doesn't have the same justified urgency if there are plenty of other spots just as close. They can't even get road rage right there.)
Finally I offered to move and give him the spot and he still just kept up with his threats and his insults. So I shrugged and said, don't know what else you want me to do, and went in the store with the kids.
They were both kind of shell shocked, and the younger one said, "I have never heard grownups talk like that." And it was a good opportunity to explain to them that the best thing to do is be reasonable, don't get angry back, and just walk away.
I think in both cases, the cars were waiting a long distance from the spot, so you didn't automatically register that they were there and what they were doing.
Could have been a scam of some sort, or just low class people looking for excuses to take their lives out on a stranger.