Quote: (05-12-2019 03:21 AM)LINUX Wrote:
The problem with your theory is that it leads you to become a lamb always following and moving with the others.
I'm not knocking you, being a follower is a must for some people, you can carry on with your life being just another face, speaking a set of words and resembling actions that can be repeated and replicated by any other person chasing the popularity game and trying to feel important. That is, after-all. is what social media and instagram is.
But I'll say this. Let's take two different men:
If one man has 20k instagram followers, spending his days and nights running Jarvee, scraping yoga studios, following and unfollowing, buying likes, archiving and reposting traveling photos, constantly whoring out his status, doing number closes, instagram closes or whatever, trying to demonstrate value and popularity,
and you give me another man who simply walks into a cafe, club, or social event and says " Hey, look, you're absolutely beautiful and tomorrow after work, I'm going to be at that Ben and Jerry's ice cream shop across the street having a ice cream, I think I'm going to do one scoop of Red Velvet Cake in a waffle cone, and you know what, you should come help me eat that scoop of ice cream.
That second man will not only have a happier and more fulfilling life, he will go to his grave knowing that he held the cards, he wrote the rules, and he was in a league of his own that no book or forum post could ever explain.
Notches and numbers aren't everything bro. It's only a per-requisite to get to the second chapter of game and the second chapter of figuring out who you are and what you are worth. None of us have things figured out, the world is cruel, people are broken, and we lose the ones we love the most to death and suffering but molding who you really are in order to be accepted by others is not the way to live a happy life. The only way to do that is to design a life around the things that make you happy and writing your own script. The moment you begin to see instagram as a necessity and a permanent thing revolving around likes and false impressions in order to get laid, is the moment your life will become lifeless.
Took me 20 years to realize that.
Thank you for providing the quintessential counterpoint to the stance I took with the original post.
You're clearly very worldly and wise.
In fact, I agree with you.
I see both / all sides.
Strong opinions, loosely held.
In the long game...I'm more like the guy who just walks into a cafe in your example...in the short term...I'm all in on IG for 18-24 months.
I truly hope that social media will run its course and people will see how stupid it is to be "on" all the time or to assume that if someone doesn't post something online, it never happened.
I'd love to think that girls can trust their own instincts...
But I also understand that I'm going to play the numbers for now.
And that women are the most socially malleable creatures alive.
Since IG is dictating so much of society's reality...it's natural that young women are going to follow.
Yes, in a sense I am being a follower by hopping on IG.
In another sense, I'm leading by using it as a tool to create a better lifestyle for myself...I suppose it's semantics at a certain point.
But also, in your post, you conflated a few ideas, threw out some "false dichotomies / dilemmas" and employed some other narrative fallacies.
Again, understand that I agree with you.
But also, make sure you're not making excuses for failing to adapt. Or anyone reading this, make sure the same thing.
Try IG, try 100% offline, try a mix.
Try it out....that's what I'm doing...and so playing both sides as a devil's advocate is how I keep my mind open enough to continue to grow...
Thank you for your input.