Quote: (12-02-2018 09:10 AM)quaker13 Wrote:
Quote: (12-02-2018 04:38 AM)Leonard D Neubache Wrote:
Quote: (12-01-2018 02:34 PM)quaker13 Wrote:
been with married to her 5 years and with her a total of 8. have one child whom i love like no person or thing i've loved before
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OP is a larper or a liar.
You couldn't drag me away from my kids with wild horses. Police would have to be called, and not an insubstantial number of them.
I'm starting to think he's a troll. Makes 150k and his wife makes a half a mil but he can't grapple with basic punctuation? Still washing his own dishes? Righto.
Wife is half way to being a CEO but she's definitely not smart enough to know he's cheating.
After a couple of pages does this shit sound credible?
Post an ATM receipt with the particulars scrubbed and RVF written on it. Regardless, troll or not, guys like PPT always manage to turn even larper threads into teachable moments.
p.s. Women earning more than a man is not a game-breaker. Women have been functionally slaves since the dawn of time. Plenty of jobless deadbeats have millionaire bitches dropping car keys in their lap and saying "thankyou" for the privilege. It only goes to shit when you adopt the mindset of the house-ho.
Dude I get it, you don’t like me. I’m sure others fall in place when the 3rd Reich grammar Nazi makes an appearance, but I couldn't care less. I'm not gonna insult you because it wouldn't prove anything, but clearly we have a difference of opinion my righteous sanctimonious friend.
If I post an ATM receipt what is that going to do for you? Are you going to want me to post savings or checking? Would a redacted pdf of our quarterly taxes be sufficient? What about if I posted my watches or would you just say they are replicas?
Some of these "dudes" on the RVF are total weirdos. Just ignore them; they're nerds and no one cares about what they have to say. Asking to see your bank statements is retarded.
That said, having been through a divorce (the big difference being that my wife made less income than me but not too much less), and an attorney with some background in family law, these are my thoughts...
1. Marriage counseling is absolutely useless. If anything, it hurts your relationship.
Personally, my wife wanted the counselor to say I was a bad husband and needed to do a better job (which would have actually been correct), the counselor wouldn't go there, and it just ended up being a waste of time. We accomplished nothing.
(Full disclosure: I am still very cool with my ex-wife. I was the bad apple in that relationship. I wanted to run around and be a player instead of a good husband. Story for a different day.)
2. LTRs are a weird animal. When the frame is set right, your SO (significant other) will be begging to give you blowies, make you dinner, and please you in every way possible. They'll go out and buy you dinner, make your bed, do your dishes, etc. You can fart in the open, say crazy shit, and basically do anything. It's awesome. As I write this, there is a girl in my kitchen right now cutting onions for a church dinner I'm supposed to cook tonight, but I'm tired and posting on the RVF.
However, when the frame is off, yeah, that's exactly what you experience. She's probably daydreaming of fucking the guy from Game of Thrones or the local bartender.
I certainly would not want that type of woman living in my house scheming against me.
Typically I've found that it's easier to start a new relationship than fix the old one.
3. Legally, custody is a fucking disaster for men. If she gets a good lawyer, she's going to argue that you don't have the means to provide your child the same lifestyle (LOL), you provide no support, you are tainting the familial relationship, etc. At the very least, I would consult with a family attorney to make sure you're able to see your kid.
In "worst case scenarios", women are now lobbing allegations of false molestation, #metoo, and all kinds of crazy shit at their ex-husbands to get custody advantages. Even if eventually found to be false, it works, and it really fucks up the kid and the courts do nothing about it. The courts find that "maybe Mother believed it to be true, and tried to act int he best interest of the child."
When false allegations are made, the courts usually, in an abundance of caution, separate Father from Child. After a year or two, the allegations are found to be demonstrably false, but Mother has had custody for so long that the courts are concerned that "reunification" will be traumatic on the child (the child now has only been subjected to like 50,000 investigations and counselors, and might even believe the allegations), so now you're stuck with supervised visits and very limited custody.
4. You can divorce your wife, but not your kid. If the relationship is fixable, it's not a bad option. However, you're never going to do it with traditional marriage counseling. Most of it just depends on her seeing you as masculine again: you're either a big hunky masculine man who she wants to please, or you're some angry beta who comes home every night and plays video games and bitches about something someone said at work. If she's an insufferable cunt who has delusions about fucking Jason Momoa, ditch her.
Roosh posted that video of the girls doing Tinder "in real life", and the one girl didn't want to go on a date with 60 dudes. Some women have a very high opinion of themselves.
5. Single life isn't bad but it's different. At 37, I'd imagine it would be cool coming home to a wife and kids. Me? I come home to my house, my music, my cat, and my Playstation everyday. Some nights I sleep alone, some nights I don't.
A lot of the married guys I know are like "Dude, I would totally trade lives with you", but sometimes I feel the same.