Yo've hung out with her, she's hot, and she's cool.
So, how do you actually seal the deal and get the bang?
This is actually easy.
Mystery is right. Attraction, comfort, and seduction. (Sometimes you can skip comfort, though.)
To quote Gordon Ramsey, "let the knife do the work."
Boiled down, the key to seduction is building just enough comfort while utilizing a lot of "kino." (kino means physical interactions, if you're new to the forum or game).
This is how how it all works...
- While you're hanging out prior to the bang, touch her a lot. Hold her hand, put your hand in the small of her back, stroke her hair, touch her face, put your arm around her, and once it's on, kiss her. Touch her, and a lot. This is the most important part of the process. Almost pretend like she's your girlfriend while you're out and about. That's how she will feel. Don't be shy about touching her. Make your intentions known.
- Use pet names. "Babe" is my go to. "Darling", "beautiful", "sugar" ("shugs"), "baby", "gorgeous", "hun" "honey", "babydoll" "ladyface", "girl", etc. Whatever.
- All encounters have to be sexualized. Smack her ass and make some innuendo, without going too overboard initially (at first. i.e. you shouldn't tell her how good her lips would feel on your cock prior to the bang, but you can tell her how she's a "sexy mamma jamma", a cutie pie, or something that's fun).
- If you're good looking, the process is faster. Just like you, women also have carnal desires. Believe it or not, they're not looking for pen pals, they're looking for penis. If you're average looking (short, fat, etc.) you have to put a bit more time and work in. I'm fit and have some cash. But I'm also short, which means, I have to put more work in than a guy who is 6'2, has tattoos, a motorcycle, and a big dog. Women are simply more apt to sleep with good looking guys.
- Light texting without going crazy. I usually just ask really basic questions without saying anything about myself (and not all that often, just sparsely). "how is your mom?" "how did [that thing at work] go today?" "chu doin" "thinkin about u babe" You don't need to text her about how your printer jammed at work, or how annoying your coworker is. Your really don't need to text her anything about yourself at all. The key is to keep her talking about herself, and to say almost nothing about you. When in doubt? Just don't respond. If she's interested, she'll text you again. Again and again.
In terms of specifics, I use what I call "the three date method." (some of you guys want to bring her right back to your house on the first date, but that is the subject of a different post. I've never been able to pull off one date bangs. My game is almost entirely run in comfort).
This is my roll... (assuming I picked her up in a bar or we met online).
- First date, take her somewhere near her house, for a few reasons. First, because it reduces flakes. All she has to do is walk or drive a block away, and she knows she's getting a few free drinks. Makes it easy for her. Second, if she's ugly, I don't want to be seen around my neck of the woods with her. We hang, we chill, and I feel it out. Worst case scenario is I'm out $20. Personally, I've very rarely converted these into bangs.
- Second date, if I'm interested, we go somewhere nice. Most of these girls don't have money and are absolutely blown away by a good steak and bottle of wine. That said, the second date is important for escalation. This is where kino has to happen. If you're not touching her, kissing her, or holding her, chances are it's not happening. The second date is where it happens. You have to touch her. A lot.
- Third date, we go to a bar near my house at a bar where I know everyone. I know all the servers, the bartender, the chef, and the owner. I walk in and they treat me like a local celebrity. This builds comfort, and at this point, and I've already escalated on the second date to know it's on. Once we're here, it's not a matter of "if", it's a matter of "when". The deal has been sealed. Once I'm on the third date, we've had a few drinks, and it's been escalated, now it's easy peasy. "Let's get out of here." "Let's go to my place." "Let's go watch a movie."
By the third date, the bang is a practically done deal. It's a foregone conclusion. You've been making out, touching each other, maybe talking on the phone. You've put the time in, and she's begging to be taken home.
When I get her back to my place, I don't waste any time. Put your arm around her, kiss her, hold her hands, and lead her upstairs. You've already done enough work at this point to make it easy. "Baby, I've been thinking about you naked all week, and now all I can think about how much I need to suck on your titties. Come upstairs." It's done.
I don't usually encounter a lot of what we call "LMR" (last minute resistance), because by this point it feels like we're dating. When I do, it's usually physical. For example, I got blown out by a plate last week after all this for being too short.
On the other hand, the number of blowjobs I've gotten this week is insanity. I had to tell one girl to slow it down because it's been too much.
So, how do you actually seal the deal and get the bang?
This is actually easy.
Mystery is right. Attraction, comfort, and seduction. (Sometimes you can skip comfort, though.)
To quote Gordon Ramsey, "let the knife do the work."
Boiled down, the key to seduction is building just enough comfort while utilizing a lot of "kino." (kino means physical interactions, if you're new to the forum or game).
This is how how it all works...
- While you're hanging out prior to the bang, touch her a lot. Hold her hand, put your hand in the small of her back, stroke her hair, touch her face, put your arm around her, and once it's on, kiss her. Touch her, and a lot. This is the most important part of the process. Almost pretend like she's your girlfriend while you're out and about. That's how she will feel. Don't be shy about touching her. Make your intentions known.
- Use pet names. "Babe" is my go to. "Darling", "beautiful", "sugar" ("shugs"), "baby", "gorgeous", "hun" "honey", "babydoll" "ladyface", "girl", etc. Whatever.
- All encounters have to be sexualized. Smack her ass and make some innuendo, without going too overboard initially (at first. i.e. you shouldn't tell her how good her lips would feel on your cock prior to the bang, but you can tell her how she's a "sexy mamma jamma", a cutie pie, or something that's fun).
- If you're good looking, the process is faster. Just like you, women also have carnal desires. Believe it or not, they're not looking for pen pals, they're looking for penis. If you're average looking (short, fat, etc.) you have to put a bit more time and work in. I'm fit and have some cash. But I'm also short, which means, I have to put more work in than a guy who is 6'2, has tattoos, a motorcycle, and a big dog. Women are simply more apt to sleep with good looking guys.
- Light texting without going crazy. I usually just ask really basic questions without saying anything about myself (and not all that often, just sparsely). "how is your mom?" "how did [that thing at work] go today?" "chu doin" "thinkin about u babe" You don't need to text her about how your printer jammed at work, or how annoying your coworker is. Your really don't need to text her anything about yourself at all. The key is to keep her talking about herself, and to say almost nothing about you. When in doubt? Just don't respond. If she's interested, she'll text you again. Again and again.
In terms of specifics, I use what I call "the three date method." (some of you guys want to bring her right back to your house on the first date, but that is the subject of a different post. I've never been able to pull off one date bangs. My game is almost entirely run in comfort).
This is my roll... (assuming I picked her up in a bar or we met online).
- First date, take her somewhere near her house, for a few reasons. First, because it reduces flakes. All she has to do is walk or drive a block away, and she knows she's getting a few free drinks. Makes it easy for her. Second, if she's ugly, I don't want to be seen around my neck of the woods with her. We hang, we chill, and I feel it out. Worst case scenario is I'm out $20. Personally, I've very rarely converted these into bangs.
- Second date, if I'm interested, we go somewhere nice. Most of these girls don't have money and are absolutely blown away by a good steak and bottle of wine. That said, the second date is important for escalation. This is where kino has to happen. If you're not touching her, kissing her, or holding her, chances are it's not happening. The second date is where it happens. You have to touch her. A lot.
- Third date, we go to a bar near my house at a bar where I know everyone. I know all the servers, the bartender, the chef, and the owner. I walk in and they treat me like a local celebrity. This builds comfort, and at this point, and I've already escalated on the second date to know it's on. Once we're here, it's not a matter of "if", it's a matter of "when". The deal has been sealed. Once I'm on the third date, we've had a few drinks, and it's been escalated, now it's easy peasy. "Let's get out of here." "Let's go to my place." "Let's go watch a movie."
By the third date, the bang is a practically done deal. It's a foregone conclusion. You've been making out, touching each other, maybe talking on the phone. You've put the time in, and she's begging to be taken home.
When I get her back to my place, I don't waste any time. Put your arm around her, kiss her, hold her hands, and lead her upstairs. You've already done enough work at this point to make it easy. "Baby, I've been thinking about you naked all week, and now all I can think about how much I need to suck on your titties. Come upstairs." It's done.
I don't usually encounter a lot of what we call "LMR" (last minute resistance), because by this point it feels like we're dating. When I do, it's usually physical. For example, I got blown out by a plate last week after all this for being too short.
On the other hand, the number of blowjobs I've gotten this week is insanity. I had to tell one girl to slow it down because it's been too much.