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Are women as sexual as men?
12-09-2018, 09:34 AM
Does the answer to the title question matter? Yes. And here are some actionable takeaways I can think of:
1) If you find a girl who really likes sex with you, don't ditch her just because something hotter looking walks by, because that hotter looking girl may be one of the many low sex drive types. There are lots of candy covered turds in the box, lots of land mines. When you finally get something good, stick with it and milk it for what it's worth.
2) In the old days, low sex drive women understood that sex is what lures the guys into commitment and sex is what keeps him there. Wifely duties, not wifely pleasures. Nowadays, women have forgotten or don't care about the second part of the formula. Low sex drive women still lure guys with sex but then they dry up once they see signs of commitment. In the old days, when men were providers, the man could take the money he normally spent on his wife and give to a whore instead, if the wife didn't do her wifely duties. Nowadays, wife can just divorce rape the man of he pulls that trick. So don't ever get married.
3) If not married but in an LTR and the girlfriend stops putting out, leave. Yes, you'll probably have to go through long dry stretches if you refuse to tolerate sexless relationships, but to me that's a worthwhile tradeoff. I felt like a complete chump the few times I stuck with a woman who stopped putting out.
4) You need to bring value to the table, other than your dick, if you want a healthy relationship with low sex drive women. Clown game (spicing up her otherwise boring life) is one form of value, but weak value, which is why clown game guys (Roosh and most guys here are doing clown game) aren't in LTRs. Since the value they provide is weak, the woman eventually acts up and has to be ditched. The other type value is provider game, which I feel is more manly. With provider game, there needs to be a steady flow of material benefits from you to the woman, a flow which you can cut off whenever she cuts back on sex. Dinners at restaurants, vacations together, gifts, etc. P4P is the extreme example of provider game, sugar daddying is more LTR oriented, generous boyfriend is how I present myself. Husband who earns more than wife is also provider game, but bad game, as discussed in point 2, because you can't cut off the flow of benefits nowadays.
5) If you as a man feel sex deprived, it may not be your fault. You may be looks maxed, skilled in bed, have good social skills, unafraid to approach, etc. All the boxes ticked and still no sex. Fact is, there is a huge excess of male versus female sex drive and always has been. Excess of young males nowadays, due to fewer men dying in wars than in the past, just adds to the problem. In the past, provider game was how men coped, but with young women earning more than young men in developed countries, that tactic no longer works for most men. Things are hard and it's not your fault. Do the best you can but don't beat up on yourself unnecessarily. And learn to endure long dry stretches. Trust me, being alone and sexless is a lot better than stuck in a sexless relationship (or, God forbid, sexless marriage).
6) Provider game still works in poor countries, so consider periodic vacations to poor countries, if you currently live in a rich country, to arbitrage price differences. Location independent income is best, so you can live full time in the poor country. The travel section of this forum is very popular, both with members and lurkers, for good reason.