[strider]

To preface this, I'm living with my parents in a small town with very limited options for meeting attractive girls and very little time to do it. This is by choice, for money. I'll be taking off at the end of the year with the financial freedom to travel for a while and then move anywhere I like.

I've been seeing this girl once or twice a week for 2 months. From the start I knew she wasn't LTR material and could be nothing more than a plate. Since I have no other plates right now, one of the techniques I've used to try and keep the pussy off the pedestal is imagining her willingly getting double teamed. Ironically, we were talking about threesomes the other night and she mentioned she would be down with an MFM if I wanted. Even though I'd convinced myself she had already enjoyed two guys at once, hearing her actually say it pissed me off. This was both reaffirmation that she's not LTR worthy and a huge wake up call that I had been investing too much into the relationship.

The sex has been great for both of us - she blows me without asking, assumes doggy position unprompted, I choke her, pull her hair and leave her quivering from multiple orgasms. Beyond that she cooks great dinners for me, buys me bottles and other little gifts, invites me to her ski house etc (which I've always declined) and always pays her share when we're out. I've invested too much by not dipping after sex, occasionally spending whole weekend days just laying around with her, talking about plans too far in the future, etc. Not to mention my emotional investment that revealed itself to me with the MFM suggestion.

We haven't explicitly agreed to exclusivity, but she has repeatedly said things like "you better not be fucking other girls", which so far I've been able to just agree and amplify. However the other night after fucking her brains out she broke down and cried telling me how she has feelings for me but doesn't want to waste her time if I'm not reciprocating, asking if I thought we'd still be together through the summer etc. So I doubt I'll be able to dodge the issue much longer.

Gut reaction is to next her and be done with it, but it's very difficult to have an abundance mentality in my living situation.

Any advice on how to dial things back but keep fucking her? I'd like to milk this for what it's worth and knock some things off my list like anal, FFM threesome, etc. but am wary this might just be my male hamster rationalizing a risky situation.

[Vill@in]

Does she know you're leaving at the end of the year? Be honest with her and just tell her you're not fucking anyone else at the moment but you can't promise anything when you move.

Tell her you don't want to commit to anything long term since you're leaving next year and you just want to enjoy the time you have with her in the here and now.

If she doesn't like that she can go kick rocks.

[samsamsam]

It doesn't help that you have a scarcity mentality. Abundance is something that appears before the evidence not the other way around. You are letting your environment and situation shape your mental health and beliefs. This is understandable but it is resulting in scarcity. And then by letting fear drive your choices reinforces your weak internal infrastructure. You have no faith it will get better.

A person convinced that abundance is in his life would not let environment dictate his choices.

This thread is really just about how to keep banging a girl without committing to her. The big piece of info is just do you know what your walk away point is. If you just want to use her, then use her.

[Latan]

OP, you talk to her about having a MFM, then gets angry when she agrees?
I don't get it.

[strider]

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Does she know you're leaving at the end of the year? Be honest with her and just tell her you're not fucking anyone else at the moment but you can't promise anything when you move.

Tell her you don't want to commit to anything long term since you're leaving next year and you just want to enjoy the time you have with her in the here and now.

Are you saying agree to exclusivity with the mutual understanding that there's an expiration date at the end of the year (and my own understanding that we would both cheat if given the opportunity)?

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It doesn't help that you have a scarcity mentality. Abundance is something that appears before the evidence not the other way around.

Agreed. Harder said than done, but I will change this.

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OP, you talk to her about having a MFM, then gets angry when she agrees?
I don't get it.

No, I should've been clear: she brought it up on her own.

[Vill@in]

(03-24-2017 03:06 PM)strider Wrote:  

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Does she know you're leaving at the end of the year? Be honest with her and just tell her you're not fucking anyone else at the moment but you can't promise anything when you move.

Tell her you don't want to commit to anything long term since you're leaving next year and you just want to enjoy the time you have with her in the here and now.

Are you saying agree to exclusivity with the mutual understanding that there's an expiration date at the end of the year (and my own understanding that we would both cheat if given the opportunity)?

In a way, yes. I mean, if you don't have any other (better) options for pussy then why throw it away? It's either get laid until you leave or don't.

[Travesty]

Building up mad skills (most likely have to be Category 1 Pussy Wetter related to have the most effect) at things you are proud of and feeling genuinely attractive is the way to have abundance without abundance. That or be delusionaly optimistic which most can't pull off day after day.

To be able to let go the only girl you have on the radar easily is to just know that you are above many attractive girls and that they will want you.

[Jack_Smith]

(03-24-2017 01:22 PM)strider Wrote:  

The sex has been great for both of us - she blows me without asking, assumes doggy position unprompted, I choke her, pull her hair and leave her quivering from multiple orgasms. Beyond that she cooks great dinners for me, buys me bottles and other little gifts, invites me to her ski house etc (which I've always declined) and always pays her share when we're out. I've invested too much by not dipping after sex, occasionally spending whole weekend days just laying around with her, talking about plans too far in the future, etc. Not to mention my emotional investment that revealed itself to me with the MFM suggestion.

Paint me a Blue Pill Beta Bitch, but isn't the point of seduction to create an abundance of great sex?

You've done that. Nice job.

What's the problem? That you caught the feels? For a slut?

Who fuckn cares?

Look, I am right there with you, and frankly, have been fighting off a much worse case of oneitis. The reality is (IMHE) that great sex does not grow on trees, infrequently comes from one night stands, often comes WITH the feels, and even if you had an abundance of other pussy, you would not necessarily have an abundance of great sex. I just worked my ass off to get my #2 in play and the first bang was shit. Actually made me appreciate my #1 more. Best I have been able to come up with is accepting that pussy is abundant, great chemistry and genius sex is not (as), and I have to be patient to find more worthy partner(s).

In the meantime, why not keep fucking her and escalate the sex? She is teed up. All you have to do is give her a little BFE and gracefully ride into the sunset when the clock runs out. Simplest advice on handling exclusivity I saw on here yesterday -

"Did I think we were exclusive? No."
"Do I have other women in my phone I can call and fuck? Yes."
"Am I interested in doing that right now? No."

Now go notch that threesome and that ass!!!

[Skank_Hunt]

Also don't forget to eat her bum hole. Lick around and put your tongue deep inside, savor the delicacy. That and the FFM, NOT MFM. Call her a disgusting degenerate for even mentioning it. The ski house doesn't sound too bad either, I'd go. Just go crazy with the sex, drain your balls in every way imaginable, do it in whatever depraved pornography inspired ways you've always wanted to do. She is not perfect but can improve you a lot. When you learn sexual technique from one girl in depth, other girls assume you must be extremely experienced player. It can work to your advantage in many ways. Appreciate your little sweet heart

[Jack_Smith]

(03-25-2017 09:55 AM)Skank_Hunt Wrote:  

Also don't forget to eat her bum hole. Lick around and put your tongue deep inside, savor the delicacy. That and the FFM, NOT MFM. Call her a disgusting degenerate for even mentioning it. The ski house doesn't sound too bad either, I'd go. Just go crazy with the sex, drain your balls in every way imaginable, do it in whatever depraved pornography inspired ways you've always wanted to do. She is not perfect but can improve you a lot. When you learn sexual technique from one girl in depth, other girls assume you must be extremely experienced player. It can work to your advantage in many ways. Appreciate your little sweet heart

^ Fuck. Yes. Eat that sweet little ass. You might be able to make that slut cum like that!

[strider]

Yall are right. No reason to next her. All upside and minimal downside for me. She made it easy: if oneitis creeps back all I have to do is remember when she asked for an MFM.

Since the OP I've notched anal and ramped things up with face fucking, etc. Also turns out she caught the feels way worse than me, and my recent change in attitude is only amplifying it. After another breakdown over text yesterday I'm fully expecting her to ask for exclusivity when I see her this weekend. Time to enjoy the ride.