Quote: (02-25-2017 02:03 PM)kaotic Wrote:
You really want to know she's getting dicked down 3 ways till Sunday ?
GODDAMN IT KAOTIC!
its 10 ways till sunday TEN!! lol
Attraction and passion are non-negotiable
Quote: (02-25-2017 02:03 PM)kaotic Wrote:
You really want to know she's getting dicked down 3 ways till Sunday ?
Quote: (02-25-2017 02:00 PM)Splord Wrote:
I'm guessing she is young and young girls act like this all the time. They don't tell you a reason and leave it to you to find out why, they just feed on the drama it creates.
Quote: (02-25-2017 12:12 PM)Hoser Wrote:
Your point, Harambe?
Quote: (02-25-2017 12:28 PM)nidall Wrote:
Quote: (02-25-2017 11:56 AM)Hoser Wrote:
What's your idea of "LTR"? Was she your girlfriend? It doesn't sound like it. If she was your gf, did she know it?
What kind of question is that? Did you read my OP? We've been seeing each other for 2 years. Of course she was my girlfriend.
Quote: (02-25-2017 02:03 PM)kaotic Wrote:
[just what the doctor ordered]
Quote: (02-25-2017 02:03 PM)kaotic Wrote:
nidall stop acting like an arrogant child and listen to the forum.
You aren't going to like the truth's presented to you.
Quote: (02-25-2017 02:00 PM)Splord Wrote:
LTR worthy girls don't break up like that.
Even if you didn't realize you did something bad or she just wants to break up, if she was good enough, she wouldn't do it this way.
As for frame:I think your frame was solid enough, you didn't use words like "honey", "please" etc., you saw a discrepancy in her behavior and asked about it directly.
In fact she texted you back after your "ok no prob".
Quote: (02-25-2017 02:34 PM)nidall Wrote:
Quote: (02-25-2017 02:03 PM)kaotic Wrote:
nidall stop acting like an arrogant child and listen to the forum.
You aren't going to like the truth's presented to you.
I am listening to the forum and accepting their advice, but not those who insult me. I don't want to talk to people who insult me at a time like this. You're not helpful. You're just feeding your ego at my expense. Arrogance and immaturity have nothing to do with this. If you think this has to do with frame, balls, worldstar, telling off others, beating people up or insults you dont know relationships. I will be reading other's replies while skipping yours.
Quote: (02-25-2017 02:00 PM)Splord Wrote:
As for frame:I think your frame was solid enough, you didn't use words like "honey", "please" etc., you saw a discrepancy in her behavior and asked about it directly.
In fact she texted you back after your "ok no prob".
Quote: (02-25-2017 02:59 PM)nidall Wrote:
Quote: (02-25-2017 02:00 PM)Splord Wrote:
As for frame:I think your frame was solid enough, you didn't use words like "honey", "please" etc., you saw a discrepancy in her behavior and asked about it directly.
In fact she texted you back after your "ok no prob".
Appreciate it Splord. Good knowing there are some smart guys on this forum who have the intelligence to discern this.
Quote: (02-25-2017 02:21 PM)Tigre Wrote:
Sometimes the reason for her mood is nothing to do with you.
It could be any of a million things that is making her act like that.
If she doesn't want to see you that night, best to just let her be. Disengage and come back the next day. Pester her about seeing you when she doesn't want to see you.
If she has decided to go out with someone else or break up with you, you'll find out about it sooner rather than later. But it may be nothing at all like that.
So just chill and let her be. Neediness isn't going to improve the situation, no matter what is really behind it.
Quote: (02-25-2017 10:05 AM)nidall Wrote:
Me: are you ok?
Her: I'm ok
Me: u never text.. strange of u.. lets go out tonite.
Her: I dont feel like going out tonite.
Me: sounds like u dont want to see me.
Her: youre a genius.
Me: did I do smg wrong to u?
Her: No. I just dont want to go out tonite.
Me: ok no prob
Her: hows ur day
Me: good. I went to the park at lunch break. and ur day?
Her: I enjoyed the weather.
Me: ur not the only one who did.
Her: i know. Have a nice nite Chris.
Me: if you dont want to see me whatever.. bye.
Quote: (02-25-2017 01:43 PM)nidall Wrote:
Quote: (02-25-2017 12:59 PM)ExploringReality Wrote:
There might be something you did, there might be not. Girls are like this.
The text you want to send is really bad by the way. You are putting all the weight over your shoulders, blaming yourself basically. If anything, this will worsen things.
Hi ExploringReality,
The poster abover you suggested getting the truth in person. But what text do you suggest would be better? I want to know why she's like this all of a sudden. But I'd like to give her space if there's a way to get her back too.
Let me know what text you had in mind. Thanks.
Quote: (02-25-2017 10:49 AM)XPQ22 Wrote:
You came off as ultra-needy in that exchange. Also seems like a conversation between eight year olds.
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Me: sounds like u dont want to see me.
Her: youre a genius.
Assuming she has no legitimate reason on your side to be angry (does she?) it's a very hostile response when you seemed to be being perfectly civil - worthy of a "soft next" immediately, right there. Wow, hold up bitch, whaaaat? You come hit me up when you've figured out whatever your issue is, lady. Talking time is over for now.
Try to keep your frame, even with LTRs, because that exchange was what I'd call "frame free."
This girl would've come running back in two days apologizing if you'd simply said, in essence: "I'm sorry you're unhappy right now, but I don't need to take abuse from you" then ghosted her ass.
Also keep in mind that if she was "obsessed" with you for as long as you say she was, and then treats you in this fashion, then at some level you have to recognize that you didn't actually know what you were dealing with. If she keeps on in this way, whether it was because she met another guy or who knows, understand that what you're dealing with now was probably the real bitch all along, not the starry-eyed clinger.
In my own experience once a branch-swinger starts the discard process in favor of a new target, and becomes abusive there's no going back. No amount of kind words or empathy will ever pull the old girl out.