BACKGROUND 54 yo single dad and businessman with primary custody of three teenage boys and 70+ yo parents under same roof. Won full custody in hi conflict divorce 10+ years ago. Brought parents under roof so they could age independently, i.e no old folks home. Love women, but the Ex was a train-wreck, and dating even within 10 years of my age cohort was a largely dismal experience - think Brady Bunch aspirational, post wall, fat ass soccer mom's with attitude. Key learning was that I have ZERO interest in traditional dating. No movies, dinners, none of that shit. Done. Cured by the Ex. So I focused on business; raised my kids; took care of my fam; got in shape (225 bench for reps; 6'; 200# at 15% body fat)
BACK IN ACTION About a year ago I got turned out by one of my sons' teachers. She hit me up, we met up, and it has been on since. 24 yo HB7. Genius chemistry. I have had some fun women in the sack, always preferred quality fucking to the "hunt." This girl is multi-orgasmic in every port. Love it. Crazy about her. Took a "lover" vs "boyfriend" mindset from the beginning. Split bills (to the extent she can contribute), relationship totally focused on sex (dating after fucking), etc. We've never been to the movies or ice cream or any of that stupid shit, although we do go out to eat and have been away for a couple weekends. Great times together. Really dig her. Totally non needy. Has her own shit going on. Never initiated "the talk." Turns out she has this cuck boyfriend, which I am fine with. Bad news is, I really dig her, she runs hot and cold (total player chick), and I caught oneitis.
OBJECTIVE I want to get another FWB/FB or 3 in a steady rotation, just to take the edge off Girl #1's hand with me, for my sanity, and, frankly, cause life's fuckin' short.
CHALLENGE(S) I've got near zero time, what with business, fam, pops and all, and frankly, never had any game to speak of. Always been a relationship/sex guy vs. a notch count guy. Lifetime ~ 20. This will sound bad, but I have turned down more women than I have fucked. Never had to hunt. Decent looking (8?), even at 50; definitely not a stunner.
I also have ZERO fuckin interest in night game, night clubs, bar sluts, dumbasses, and etc. And I am spoiled because I have been fucking the shit out a girl half my age, and want more of that. Also, still not interested in any form of traditional dating. Want to fuck first, just like with Girl #1, then build from there. Also, and lastly, cannot pull to my house, as it is crowded and inappropriate fam environment for that sort of shit.
MODEL - Tinder/Bumble to drinks at a hotel bar; pull to my hotel room; fuck to multiple orgasms; rinse and repeat.
STATUS I have been on it for about 3 weeks. Took a couple weeks to figure out getting Tinder matches, and then how to work the matches through to a date. Had the first date Friday night. (First date date, i.e. not with wife, in 20+ years) Great chick. Dug her. Smart as fuck (my type). Shiznit together. Solid 7/8. 37. Exotic Eastern European type. Got the public kiss close in the middle of the street in front of the hotel to much hooting from onlookers, but failed to pull. She didn't say "no;" but like a bitch, I didn't press hard (enough), and was frankly a little too beat by that point Friday night to really go hard. Anyway, this model will work.
THE PROBLEM I've got more action in my pipeline than I have ever had in my life and than I know how to qualify and handle properly to achieve my objectives. (I understand that this is a highbrow problem.) I have limited time; really just 2 of 3 weekends plus MAYBE one night during the week, if I push it, to play. I already have Girl #1 lined up for a chunk of that. I've got Girl #2 in play + Girl #3 set-up for cocktails after work this coming week; both moved off of Tinder. + ANOTHER 8 that are either matched or early stage chat, but still on Tinder. I decided to pause/stall 5 because of distance, desirability, etc. and focus on the top 3. So I narrowed down to the top 6 girls total to net 3 ongoing fucks.... Still pressed for time...
QUESTIONS
1) Should I be going super hard for a first date lay, or should I be OK with a multi-date lay? The latter seems OK, given that I want to convert each to an ongoing thing, but I hate the idea of dating...
2) If I go on multiple dates, as I must with at least Girl #2, how do I do that while NOT embedding that dating mindset, i.e. creating an expectation of dating vs fucking, or even an expectation of dating AND fucking? I just want to fuck. Eat afterwards. " Hangout. "Date" if/when I feel like it.
3) Would a multi-date model be better given my objective of establishing an ongoing thing with each girl? I have read about some guys who put a hard stop on a first date at an hour; never try to close on D1...
4) Any suggestions on screening questions for FWB/FB propensity?
5) Given my limited time, it would take four or five weeks just to work one pass through my existing backlog of chicks. What is the best way to keep the best one's in play for a couple weeks while they wait? Tell them I am traveling? Should I move them off of Tinder? Is there some known best practice for keeping them alive while they wait?
BACK IN ACTION About a year ago I got turned out by one of my sons' teachers. She hit me up, we met up, and it has been on since. 24 yo HB7. Genius chemistry. I have had some fun women in the sack, always preferred quality fucking to the "hunt." This girl is multi-orgasmic in every port. Love it. Crazy about her. Took a "lover" vs "boyfriend" mindset from the beginning. Split bills (to the extent she can contribute), relationship totally focused on sex (dating after fucking), etc. We've never been to the movies or ice cream or any of that stupid shit, although we do go out to eat and have been away for a couple weekends. Great times together. Really dig her. Totally non needy. Has her own shit going on. Never initiated "the talk." Turns out she has this cuck boyfriend, which I am fine with. Bad news is, I really dig her, she runs hot and cold (total player chick), and I caught oneitis.
OBJECTIVE I want to get another FWB/FB or 3 in a steady rotation, just to take the edge off Girl #1's hand with me, for my sanity, and, frankly, cause life's fuckin' short.
CHALLENGE(S) I've got near zero time, what with business, fam, pops and all, and frankly, never had any game to speak of. Always been a relationship/sex guy vs. a notch count guy. Lifetime ~ 20. This will sound bad, but I have turned down more women than I have fucked. Never had to hunt. Decent looking (8?), even at 50; definitely not a stunner.
I also have ZERO fuckin interest in night game, night clubs, bar sluts, dumbasses, and etc. And I am spoiled because I have been fucking the shit out a girl half my age, and want more of that. Also, still not interested in any form of traditional dating. Want to fuck first, just like with Girl #1, then build from there. Also, and lastly, cannot pull to my house, as it is crowded and inappropriate fam environment for that sort of shit.
MODEL - Tinder/Bumble to drinks at a hotel bar; pull to my hotel room; fuck to multiple orgasms; rinse and repeat.
STATUS I have been on it for about 3 weeks. Took a couple weeks to figure out getting Tinder matches, and then how to work the matches through to a date. Had the first date Friday night. (First date date, i.e. not with wife, in 20+ years) Great chick. Dug her. Smart as fuck (my type). Shiznit together. Solid 7/8. 37. Exotic Eastern European type. Got the public kiss close in the middle of the street in front of the hotel to much hooting from onlookers, but failed to pull. She didn't say "no;" but like a bitch, I didn't press hard (enough), and was frankly a little too beat by that point Friday night to really go hard. Anyway, this model will work.
THE PROBLEM I've got more action in my pipeline than I have ever had in my life and than I know how to qualify and handle properly to achieve my objectives. (I understand that this is a highbrow problem.) I have limited time; really just 2 of 3 weekends plus MAYBE one night during the week, if I push it, to play. I already have Girl #1 lined up for a chunk of that. I've got Girl #2 in play + Girl #3 set-up for cocktails after work this coming week; both moved off of Tinder. + ANOTHER 8 that are either matched or early stage chat, but still on Tinder. I decided to pause/stall 5 because of distance, desirability, etc. and focus on the top 3. So I narrowed down to the top 6 girls total to net 3 ongoing fucks.... Still pressed for time...
QUESTIONS
1) Should I be going super hard for a first date lay, or should I be OK with a multi-date lay? The latter seems OK, given that I want to convert each to an ongoing thing, but I hate the idea of dating...
2) If I go on multiple dates, as I must with at least Girl #2, how do I do that while NOT embedding that dating mindset, i.e. creating an expectation of dating vs fucking, or even an expectation of dating AND fucking? I just want to fuck. Eat afterwards. " Hangout. "Date" if/when I feel like it.
3) Would a multi-date model be better given my objective of establishing an ongoing thing with each girl? I have read about some guys who put a hard stop on a first date at an hour; never try to close on D1...
4) Any suggestions on screening questions for FWB/FB propensity?
5) Given my limited time, it would take four or five weeks just to work one pass through my existing backlog of chicks. What is the best way to keep the best one's in play for a couple weeks while they wait? Tell them I am traveling? Should I move them off of Tinder? Is there some known best practice for keeping them alive while they wait?
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