Should I take the bonds?
01-04-2017, 08:50 PM
Haven't been on in ages and look, I get a late Christmas present. A weak entitled male unwilling to pay the price for his mistakes posting as if he is the victim. Talking as if he knows what side is up. As if he is now a changed man.
It boils down to this, you have demonstrated that you are a waste of a human being with a history of terrible decision making.
You say you could get a job to pay for the car and everything else. Then just do that, the only reason you want your money is because you know you can't do it. You know if you had to stand on your own two feet, you would fail. But you talk a big game.
H1N1 has posted some extremely solid advice and observations. As have many others. You should take it to heart. And never demand advice be of a "constructive nature" - if someone on the forum has taken the time to read your posts and post a comment that they believe is helpful, then you take it and don't bitch about it.
Maybe your father knows he could have been a better father and is just trying to keep you from fucking up even more. It sounds like your family is broken and not all because of your father. You wrote something about South America. Maybe it is the money side of the family that fucked you up because they made life too easy on you (you wrote as if they would help you out - so I imagine they have at various times).
You seem to have no gratitude. That is a fatal flaw in building relationships. Among the strongest male friendships I have been in (and witnessed) gratitude and loyalty (I don't sense you are strong here either) play a major role.
You are young, you have no experience, you don't make good decisions, but on this matter about the bonds you will make the smart choice? There will be a day when your father is gone and you will regret much of what you have done to him. You may not like his choices, but few parents actually think "hey how do I fuck up my child?" They do the best they can, maybe it isn't good enough in your opinion, but they are trying because they give a shit. Don't gripe about someone who cares and is trying to help you. That means they care, it is when they stop giving you advice and trying to be involved in your life, that they don't.
Man up, pay your father back and let the rest of it sit there. Or strike a deal and ask for a few grand but not all. Then work as you say you will and DEMONSTRATE that you have your shit together. Then you will earn his trust. You gripe that he is too blue pill and that he made you who you are. You are on a forum of men that strive to be red pill. The red pill move in your situation is to start acting red pill.
I bet the first thing you do if you get all your money is to buy a few gifts for your girl and yourself and a big lavish dinner. You have no emotional control, which is another sign of a weak man. You know it and I know it that this money won't last.
You didn't earn the money, legally it is yours. But if you actually earned that much money you would know the struggle, the sweat, the pain, the blood that took to get it.
You live in fear/scarcity or else you wouldn't think that a sickly woman would be the ideal wife for you at 25. That wreaks of desperate energy.
In your heart, you know you need to suck it up and deal with some pain and pay the price for all your bad decisions, but I sense you are too much of a pussy to do it. But you just want the easy out. What happens when that money is gone? Because I guarantee that you will piss it away.
Now back to my hibernation.
P.S. If you only came with some humility, maybe the the responses would be less aggressive. You are not that great, you have not accomplished anything, and yet you have no humility.
There are countless members on this forum, who are world beaters, who have done amazing things. From serving in the military, to multi-millionaires, to people who have got their shit together and living abroad. And these great men have so much humility. Some of these guys could kill others quickly, but they are so articulate and they are in control of themselves. And then there is you.
But I want you to do well in life. I want that for everyone, especially the men on this forum. And your success doesn't hurt me, why wouldn't I want you to be successful? But the path you are headed, isn't the path to success. And yet, you can't see it. I don't know why you bothered posting, just do what you want to do, basically it just seems you wanted a lot of attention like a girl.
And I bet there are guys whose fathers have "done worse" to them who wished they would have fought to try and improve their relationships with their fathers. Family matters. Honestly, you mentioned that you wanted children. Do you honestly think you have your shit together to have kids?
If this was rough, it was intentional, seems like you have been coddled much of your life.
Fate whispers to the warrior, "You cannot withstand the storm." And the warrior whispers back, "I am the storm."
Women and children can be careless, but not men - Don Corleone
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