Quote: (12-26-2016 10:39 PM)The_e_man Wrote:
Quote: (12-26-2016 12:30 PM)Samseau Wrote:
Yes. In White nations especially, because these people are taller on average. I'm only 5'8'' and it works against me sometimes as well.
Roissy's dating test for men is by far the most accurate assessment on these matters. Being 5'6'' is basically a -2 out of 27 points. I only lose -1.
However, there's no point in getting too hung up about things you cannot control. You'll never be Tom Brady super alpha. So what? You can still get laid with lots of cute girls, which is all that matters in the long run. Think of how most guys go with nothing, and then you'll realize you actually have it very good.
Unfortunately for me, I take a liking to white girls. Girls of other races are rarely attractive to me. I especially like nordic / scandinavian white girls with blue eyes and blonde hair, and they tend to also be the tallest.
I remember seeing that post in the chateau heartiste website.
One theory I have regarding height is it's -1 to some girls, -2 to others, and -100000 to others. Depends on the girl I suppose.
I guess the reason why I'm asking is I have height increasing insoles but I never wear them. They hurt my feet, make me walk awkwardly, and I simply don't feel comfortable in them. comfortable in both a physical sense and psychological sense. Wearing them makes me feel VERY uncomfortable with myself.
I want to know if I should push past that and wear them anyways. It's been established that being taller would add "points" to me and make girls more receptive to me. But just how much so would an extra 1.5" do for me?
And I understand the feel-good hippy aspect of "don't worry about your height man! Just be yourself and love yourself for who you are man! girls only care about personality anyways man!" - like I get that argument and I hear it all the time. But I just want the raw truth.
I wouldn't wear the insoles. I've bought a pair of insoles to raise my height a couple of inches from 5'8, and I had the same problem: I couldn't wear them without feeling psychologically uncomfortable.
I've come to the realization that it's better to be realistic and confident about the situation. It's no news to you that your height will hurt you a *little*, but what would infinitely hurt you more would be to let yourself get down over it. On the plus side, if you're confident in your own skin in general it will shine through and girls will pick up on it--it's enough ++'s that you'll have girls overlooking taller good looking dudes because of you.
I used to be very insecure about my height. I even started a thread that could have got me banned for what looked like height trolling back in the day. But now, I've had enough experiences that I've overcome it. One example that helps that you've come across is sleeping with a girl taller than you. Gather enough of these and you turn an insecurity into an recognized weakness that is perceived as minor.
It's not just about banging taller girls either. Here's a case in point. One time, I was in my favorite club back when I was doing night game every single week. As I was going down the stairs in between floors, a blonde girl coming up alone caught my attention. Started a conversation with her that got physical quickly because of the narrow stairwell.
Long story short, she was split up from her friend in the big crowded club which helped me hook her. I only found out her height after moving away from the stairs... Since I approached her coming down, I didn't realize her height until we were on the same level. I figured she was tall, but not around 6'4 with her heels. She was at least 6'0 without them.
Alcohol helped me escalate quickly, and we were making out in no time. It was very awkward. The only way I could kiss her was if she was two steps down on a stairwell or if she was seated on a barstool with me standing up. I eventually led her to the dance floor, which was when I noticed everybody had their eyes on the two of us. It was then I realized how out of the ordinary the situation was. A short guy leading a girl at least 6'3 in height by the hand around the club. Dancing with her didn't last long because grinding was impossible.
Never reached anything beyond that point with her but that experience along with a few other notables ones have cemented in my mind that while height matters to an extent, what matters most is how much of a barrier it is in your mind.
