After posting about my engagement here, I intended to write a bit about my LTR game, just to share with the forum, and to remind my future self what it takes to have a successful marriage. This is one of those posts.
Just before I met my wife, I was working hard towards being location independent and moving overseas to find quality women, as I was convinced that I was never going to find one in Australia. I had largely succeeded at creating work for myself and a minimalist lifestyle to be location independent, so what remained to be done was simply to pick the countries. Based on previous experiences, I knew that I'd do very well in SEA, FSU and Latin America. Even Scandinavian and Southern European countries would be good to me, for female attention, although obviously they're going to be poor for wife quality.
As life turned out, I met my wife just a couple of months before I was going to embark on those trips. While from day one I was very pleased with her, I wanted to make damn sure she was the right choice, so I thought why not bring her along on my trips to those poosy paradises and see for myself how she compares to their girls. Now, it is a well-known Game tenet that you do not bring your girl on such a trip, but I think that only applies to girls you're casually dating with no serious intention. However for a girl you seriously consider a LTR or marriage with, I believe it is a fantastic test. My rationale was that if I felt I could get better in those countries, well, I'd already be in those countries and can do easy quick comparisons with my own eyes... and if not, then I would put a ring on it. Moreover, I wanted to see how she'd respond to seeing the abundance of options I have.
We've made quite a few trips, some just for holidays, some as part of my work, to SEA, FSU, Southern Europe, Scandinavia and even to a poosy hell (New Zealand ). And I'm very happy to see her pass all the tests with flying colours. Here are some of my observations:
1. I realised how much abundance I have in terms of options. I already knew I'd have lots of attention, but it's tripled with the social proof of a beautiful woman in my arms. Looks wise, I knew that I've already got the best deal I could get for myself.
If you suspect that you could do better than the woman you're choosing for a LTR, I highly recommend going on such a trip, as you will definitely gain the confidence to do what's necessary.
I'm trying to get my brother-in-law to go travelling a bit as he - like many young decent-looking Aussie men - is dating a fat annoying bitch. Hopefully it will have the right effect on him.
2. My woman fit right along all of those feminine pretty girls we run into. In regions like SEA, even many Western girls who are very much WB can look harsh or act rather masculine, due to the sea of sweet petite and feminine girls around them.
3. She gets jelly about the female attention I get (while not noticing all the thirty males looking at her or trying to get her attention) but her responses to that is her desires to grow her hair longer, wear pretty and colourful clothes, exercise harder to be sexier for me, etc. She knows what I like and what I can get, and she wants to make sure she is all that. Now some of the female attention I get was from women genuinely attracted to me, some only because I have social proof (i.e my wife) and some are booth babes at my work flirting around as they do, but to my wife, it made no difference, she thinks they all want to have my babies. I tell her I know I have plenty of attention and options, but I choose her. Our trips were perfect occasions to set that frame and get the soft dread going, as it's not easy for me to do so in Australia.
In contrast, I saw other men travelling to those poosy paradises with their fat women who had to pretend not to notice all the hot young things around them because their kaiju bitches got jealous and angry at them for looking. Sad!
4. We stayed at a variety of places: from regular AirBnB to 5 star resorts, from places with leaky bathrooms and crappy bed to ones that made our jaws drop. We visited grand palaces and dirty local markets. I could book all nice hotels or visit all the fancy places, but I chose to make it random to see what she's like. Through all of those, my woman reacted the same: she just wanted to be with me, she did not once complain about anything, and we had a lot of fun everywhere.
5. I watched how she interacted with the service people especially the women, in places where we were treated like royalty. She got on extremely well with them, making friends easy everywhere, and was very well liked by the staff. In SEA, they all thought she was Russian (because I'm Asian, and she's feminine and sweet) and were very shocked to find out that she's Australian. If you don't yet know, Aussie women have a reputation of being fat, vulgar, loud, slutty and generally obnoxious in SEA.
My mother worked in the service industry in her younger years and I would never marry a woman who disrespects service staff. I was very pleased that my woman behaved with such grace.
6. We obviously ate out a lot during those trips, and every time after we got back, her cooking would improve because she desires to cook better for me than those restaurants do.
If you have a woman you are seriously considering a LTR or marriage with, I strongly recommend taking her to *your* poosy paradise and put her straight up against the competition. That will answer many questions you have, or have not even thought of yet.
Don't take her to New Zealand though, she might be the only hot woman in the entire city and it will defeat the purpose of your test!
Just before I met my wife, I was working hard towards being location independent and moving overseas to find quality women, as I was convinced that I was never going to find one in Australia. I had largely succeeded at creating work for myself and a minimalist lifestyle to be location independent, so what remained to be done was simply to pick the countries. Based on previous experiences, I knew that I'd do very well in SEA, FSU and Latin America. Even Scandinavian and Southern European countries would be good to me, for female attention, although obviously they're going to be poor for wife quality.
As life turned out, I met my wife just a couple of months before I was going to embark on those trips. While from day one I was very pleased with her, I wanted to make damn sure she was the right choice, so I thought why not bring her along on my trips to those poosy paradises and see for myself how she compares to their girls. Now, it is a well-known Game tenet that you do not bring your girl on such a trip, but I think that only applies to girls you're casually dating with no serious intention. However for a girl you seriously consider a LTR or marriage with, I believe it is a fantastic test. My rationale was that if I felt I could get better in those countries, well, I'd already be in those countries and can do easy quick comparisons with my own eyes... and if not, then I would put a ring on it. Moreover, I wanted to see how she'd respond to seeing the abundance of options I have.
We've made quite a few trips, some just for holidays, some as part of my work, to SEA, FSU, Southern Europe, Scandinavia and even to a poosy hell (New Zealand ). And I'm very happy to see her pass all the tests with flying colours. Here are some of my observations:
1. I realised how much abundance I have in terms of options. I already knew I'd have lots of attention, but it's tripled with the social proof of a beautiful woman in my arms. Looks wise, I knew that I've already got the best deal I could get for myself.
If you suspect that you could do better than the woman you're choosing for a LTR, I highly recommend going on such a trip, as you will definitely gain the confidence to do what's necessary.
I'm trying to get my brother-in-law to go travelling a bit as he - like many young decent-looking Aussie men - is dating a fat annoying bitch. Hopefully it will have the right effect on him.
2. My woman fit right along all of those feminine pretty girls we run into. In regions like SEA, even many Western girls who are very much WB can look harsh or act rather masculine, due to the sea of sweet petite and feminine girls around them.
3. She gets jelly about the female attention I get (while not noticing all the thirty males looking at her or trying to get her attention) but her responses to that is her desires to grow her hair longer, wear pretty and colourful clothes, exercise harder to be sexier for me, etc. She knows what I like and what I can get, and she wants to make sure she is all that. Now some of the female attention I get was from women genuinely attracted to me, some only because I have social proof (i.e my wife) and some are booth babes at my work flirting around as they do, but to my wife, it made no difference, she thinks they all want to have my babies. I tell her I know I have plenty of attention and options, but I choose her. Our trips were perfect occasions to set that frame and get the soft dread going, as it's not easy for me to do so in Australia.
In contrast, I saw other men travelling to those poosy paradises with their fat women who had to pretend not to notice all the hot young things around them because their kaiju bitches got jealous and angry at them for looking. Sad!
4. We stayed at a variety of places: from regular AirBnB to 5 star resorts, from places with leaky bathrooms and crappy bed to ones that made our jaws drop. We visited grand palaces and dirty local markets. I could book all nice hotels or visit all the fancy places, but I chose to make it random to see what she's like. Through all of those, my woman reacted the same: she just wanted to be with me, she did not once complain about anything, and we had a lot of fun everywhere.
5. I watched how she interacted with the service people especially the women, in places where we were treated like royalty. She got on extremely well with them, making friends easy everywhere, and was very well liked by the staff. In SEA, they all thought she was Russian (because I'm Asian, and she's feminine and sweet) and were very shocked to find out that she's Australian. If you don't yet know, Aussie women have a reputation of being fat, vulgar, loud, slutty and generally obnoxious in SEA.
My mother worked in the service industry in her younger years and I would never marry a woman who disrespects service staff. I was very pleased that my woman behaved with such grace.
6. We obviously ate out a lot during those trips, and every time after we got back, her cooking would improve because she desires to cook better for me than those restaurants do.
If you have a woman you are seriously considering a LTR or marriage with, I strongly recommend taking her to *your* poosy paradise and put her straight up against the competition. That will answer many questions you have, or have not even thought of yet.
Don't take her to New Zealand though, she might be the only hot woman in the entire city and it will defeat the purpose of your test!